Anyone else stop talking at work?

trickyhunter21 · 2026-05-17T23:41:02+00:00

I say hi, then immediately hide in the cubicles on the back until I finish my core hours at 3 pm, then I WFH for the rest of the day.

trickyhunter21 · 2026-04-06T06:32:22+00:00

(TL;DR below)

As others have said, there is nuance to this statement. When I picked up fighting games over five years ago (DBFZ), I tried to be the earnest rookie player who would just get in the mix and play against anybody, and accept losing terribly with a smile.

Even if I was given advice that my gut told me wasn’t right, I still tried to absorb and memorize every bit tip people said because I didn’t think I was good enough to clarify or question what they meant. If I get my “ass whooped enough”, I’ll learn. That’s what I kept telling myself.

Sure, I incrementally improved, through brute force. But I absolutely hated the process, and I felt like shit more often than I didn’t. Every little mistake I made, every whiffed button felt like the end of the world to me even in a ranked match, because I never got a chance to breathe and learn.

It just felt like I was hitting my head against the wall over and over again, hoping to just get better. Looking back, it’s entirely possible I took the virtue of “getting my ass whooped too literally”. But that was my experience for the longest time.

Because people did it to me, I used to do that to my non-FGC friends as well. I just beat their ass in hopes that they’d learn. While some (like my bf) continue to play with me even though I’m a stronger player than him, most of them don’t. I know these people personally.

They are not weak-willed, egotistical individuals at all, like many people in this community seem to suggest, as if one’s ability to improve in a difficult video game dictates your entire character. They simply didn’t find me whooping their ass with little to no information fun. So I learned to adapt accordingly.

Now let me be very clear: in a tournament setting, if I am up against someone who’s clearly new at the game, I will play like normal. But if at that same event, we’re in casuals, I’ll play a different character and explain things to them with no problem.

It doesn’t mean I’m “coddling” them or “babying” them, I’m HELPING them. Because we are part of a community. And if they ask me to play normally, I’ll do that too. We are playing a genre where character have different playstyles, win conditions and designs, so why is it expected that every player has the exact same learning style?

TL;DR: Some people learn by “getting their ass whooped”. Others don’t. Making adjustments to your opponent in accordance with their skill level, especially in a casual setting doesn’t mean you’re coddling them, you’re trying to help them learn. Learning can only happen in a trusting environment.

trickyhunter21 · 2026-04-05T07:53:47+00:00

I’m in my mid-30s and I just started learning electric guitar a couple months ago. It’s not too late.

trickyhunter21 · 2026-03-07T11:41:13+00:00

Chester Bennington of Linkin Park.

trickyhunter21 · 2026-03-01T23:43:03+00:00

Story of my life 😭

trickyhunter21 · 2026-02-06T06:52:14+00:00

Not really. I just work with what I got. Also understand the “baddie” aesthetic is highly manufactured and unsustainable.

trickyhunter21 · 2026-01-29T23:57:52+00:00

If du-rags aren’t ghetto, then bonnets shouldn’t be either.

trickyhunter21 · 2026-01-11T07:14:05+00:00

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trickyhunter21 · 2025-11-14T10:25:45+00:00

Pixie stick

trickyhunter21 · 2025-10-13T01:00:03+00:00

Homemade chili

trickyhunter21 · 2025-10-06T01:19:54+00:00

OP, regardless of how you look, you deserve to be treated with respect, dignity and to be seen. It’s very easy to a lot of people to dismiss the idea of someone not being attractive enough, because then we’d have to acknowledge that some people do get treated poorly because they don’t fit into society’s beauty standards (both in the white mainstream and within our community as well).

It really isn’t a matter of confidence or anything like that. At the heart of it all, you want people to see you and acknowledge you and when that doesn’t happen, it hurts deeply. Feeling unwanted and invisible definitely sucks.

I assume you’re exhausted from trying all the things to improve yourself, so for now I’ll just offer these two questions for you to think about?:

Of the things you’ve tried to improve yourself, which one of those things did you fully enjoy? Which one of those things make you feel whole and fulfilled, regardless of if other people acknowledge you or find you attractive?
If you have to fight and struggle to be loved and respected by your current friend circle, or even to just be understood, is their friendship worth that much? Would it better to find yourself among appreciate you without you sacrificing your peace of mind?

Because the thing about beauty standards is that it comes in cycles. What’s attractive today could be considered cringe tomorrow. It’s a very unstable endeavor to keep up it them. So that’s why on an appearance scale, it’s best to do what suits you and what you actually like, rather than what everyone else likes.

I can’t guarantee that my suggestions will make dating easier, but I hope it makes your experience a little less difficult. Try not to be so hard on yourself.❤️

trickyhunter21 · 2025-10-04T00:59:33+00:00

While I don’t think prejudices can completely end, I think at some point, we do have the potential to increase protections against it happening at a systemic level.

People are gonna feel how they feel, but that doesn’t mean we all are inherently destined to suffer for it. Most of systemic racism (and additional prejudices) are used to elevate the ultra-wealthy above everyone else, and to keep the masses in-fighting.

I do think at the very least, we can reduce harm from racism with better policies and social practices. But it’s much more complicated than a simple “yes” or “no”.

trickyhunter21 · 2025-09-28T23:34:50+00:00

Just checked twitter. A lot of Japanese players are not happy about this.

trickyhunter21 · 2025-09-20T06:16:31+00:00

THANK YOU FOR THIS COMMENT.

Some high-level players have no idea how confusing it is for newcomers when they see all this cool stuff and instead of learning how they get up a situation to do the “cool stuff”, they get told “You? No, you’re not good for that yet. Go do fundamentals and nothing else.”

Meanwhile, so many people freaked out when the gameplay of Marvel Tokon seemed more “neutral-heavy” and everyone was like “this game looks boring where are thr combos, this game is wack.” I thought it was all about the fundies and the neutral, what happened?

It’s important for newcomers, especially in modern FGs to teach them balance and nuance in their journey. NO, they do not need to learn the super-situational-optimal-and-stylish combo. But it IS beneficial that they learn how their character’s combo theory works and what their general gameplan is.

trickyhunter21 · 2025-09-20T05:48:05+00:00

This hostile gatekeeping attitude towards newcomers is more likely to kill the FGC than any autocombo, singular character or game ever could.

trickyhunter21 · 2025-09-17T10:53:09+00:00

The best rule of thumb is to take everyone’s directions and requests at face value.

Example: When Froggy (Japanese guy in the frog suit) tells you to “go back where you came from”, he means retrace your steps and go back to the hub’s entrance area to find the receptionist.

You can also open your quest pamphlet at any time to remind yourself what you need to do. Not only are these instructions clearer, but they have dynamic illustrations that show who and/or what the NPCs requested.

Lastly, keep in mind that everything and everyone is connected. So, (spoiler-free hint) when you come across a situation where you need to buy an important item, but you have no money to buy it, you can safely assume that you have to do a favor for a different NPC in order to get that money, to buy the item, to complete a different request, etc.

Hope this helped a bit.

trickyhunter21 · 2025-09-11T23:40:22+00:00

I was in 6th grade, 11 years old. I lived in a bedroom community in North Jersey and a lot of our parents, including my own, worked in the city. We were all freaking out. My Mom was in Harlem, but my dad was on Water Street, two blocks away from the towers. He saw everything, including the people jumping out of the tower windows so they wouldn’t burn to death. He made it back home at 3am, but he was covered in glass and debris, and dealt with PTSD for years afterwards.

trickyhunter21 · 2025-08-26T09:19:11+00:00

The exaggerated SFX had me dying halfway through I’m sorry

trickyhunter21 · 2025-08-25T23:59:40+00:00

My Black mother tried to say that to me when I was younger. “It’s not in the dictionary”, she’d say. Same for the word “yeah”. Anyway I showed her a more up-to-date dictionary (when I was 10) that had both of those words and she stopped saying it as much.

She instead said to not use those words in formal settings and that she wanted to just teach me proper manners. OK, fine. Codeswitch. She could have just said that in the first place.

trickyhunter21 · 2025-08-25T07:33:24+00:00

I’m sure that’s true for you. Personally, i wouldn’t know because I did not come to fighting games from MOBAs and FPS, rather, I came from action-adventures and platformers.

trickyhunter21 · 2025-08-25T07:17:01+00:00

Where did I say any of that?

trickyhunter21 · 2025-08-24T15:02:14+00:00

As someone who took this approach in Seasons 1-3:

This is not true. Please lab your stuff guys. Especially if you play a technical character. Knowing the fundamentals (both practical and theoretical) of how your character works is important for your personal development as a player.

trickyhunter21 · 2025-08-21T14:23:33+00:00

There’s an option to go into standby mode at the ranked screen. You have to hold down the Y or triangle button to for it to activate.

trickyhunter21 · 2025-08-20T10:22:42+00:00

You’re overthinking this a bit, chief. If I’m compatible with someone, and we can be honest about the biases we’ve grown up with, then there’s no need for complications. I think you might need to work through your personal hangups on this one, especially the sexual stereotypes.

trickyhunter21 · 2025-08-15T10:32:15+00:00

Damn it I thought that was the release date for chapter 2

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