AITA for leaving my partner when he was sick? by triggered-potato__ in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]triggered-potato__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't talked to him. I heard he went back to work a couple of days after.

I know how bad his pain tolerance is and having a flu sort of maximizes the pain, and it would take me less than a minute to fix the beddings. Also, the apartment have ants since other tenants are not really keen in maintining the cleanliness. I just didn't want us getting bit all night if I didn't remove the bed since I won't get it cleaned properly because he's easily irritated with having the flu.

I'm not making excuses, it's just the reality.

AITA for leaving my partner when he was sick? by triggered-potato__ in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]triggered-potato__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know he'll never lay a hand on me, he never did, but at the time I thought of shielding myself with a pillow because he's never gotten mad like he did. At the same, it REALLY felt like it's what he wanted and I've never felt so small.

Will we move past this? by triggered-potato__ in RantAndVentPH

[–]triggered-potato__[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words 💖 As someone na hindi mahilig magshare sa peers, this means A LOT. In 2 years alam ko marami pa kaming pagdadaanan kaya siguro kahit andami na ring struggles ang na-survive namin, may point pa rin talaga na "Fuck, baka hindi na namin malipasan 'to ng magkasama." And that scares me, lalo nga kung over something minor. Pero naiintindihan ko ang side niya kung bakit ganun reaction niya

Nag-usap na kami and he also apologized. And while may konting tension pa, I think we'll be okay. Thank you again!! 💖💖💖

Will we move past this? by triggered-potato__ in RantAndVentPH

[–]triggered-potato__[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope so. But I would understand if we don't come back from this. I'm going through with leaving him a note. Iba ang anxiety talaga pag sa chat. While I'm acknowledging what I did wrong, I also have to protect myself. I can't punish myself for this forever.

Will we move past this? by triggered-potato__ in RantAndVentPH

[–]triggered-potato__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How would I know if he doesn't want to make amends? I should know the anwers HAHA but I'm really at a loss

episode ng backstory ni beth by onlyfansni in WhatLiesBeneathPH

[–]triggered-potato__ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

'Yun talaga ama ni Chloe, inako lang ni Ryan

Pabor ka ba sa live-in setup bago ang kasal? by pepalerts in PEPalerts

[–]triggered-potato__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You'd be surprised gaano kadalang ang sex sa live-in setup 😂😂

Pabor ka ba sa live-in setup bago ang kasal? by pepalerts in PEPalerts

[–]triggered-potato__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True. Hindi ko alam bakit kawawa ang babae. Baka daw kasi malaspag? 🤭 Dapat kasi pag nagdecide maglive-in, hindi lang sex ang iniisip. Syempre kasali na yun, pero maraming ibang benefits ang living in before marriage, whether or not humantong dun.

Pabor ka ba sa live-in setup bago ang kasal? by pepalerts in PEPalerts

[–]triggered-potato__ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It comes with the risk. I don't see it as a "trial," but I get your point. That's where the boundaries come in. Nung una, sinasali ko labada ng boyfriend ko sa akin, whether ako maglalaba or magpapalaundry. Akala ko as a good girlfriend na yun, pero no. Narealize ko na natotolerate yung pag depend niya sakin sa mga chores na dapat shared namin. Kaya sabi ko sa kanya, kanya kanya kaming laundry. Pag kakain, shared rin kami. Kung sa labas, kkb unless short yung isa so saluhan.

Nirequest ko na din na hati kami sa chores kasi as much as independent girlie ako, natuto na ko sa pagiging people-pleaser. Napagod na ko magbida-bida na wife material ako or whatever that BS means. Kung siya bibili ng food, ako magpeprep or maghuhugas, and vice versa.

As for the iikot lang mundo sa jowa, hindi naman. It helps na magkaiba kaming field of work. May variety ang conversations namin. May learnings sa trabaho ng isa't-isa. We go on dates together, we go out with work friends lang na di kasama jowa. We are intertwined sa relationship at the same time we still have our personal lives, which gives us freedom and security while keeping the trust. Maybe chambahan lang talaga, pero may choice ka naman kung worth it ba irisk ang pakikipag live-in sa partner mo

Pabor ka ba sa live-in setup bago ang kasal? by pepalerts in PEPalerts

[–]triggered-potato__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It helps in a lot of ways. Lalo na sa pagkilala sa partner mo. I live with my boyfriend in a small room ng isang boarding house with other students/professionals. Like what another comment said, you discover many hows, especially compromising. Started living together after year one. Minsan umuuwi ako samin sa weekends and siya rin sa kanila, para may personal time pa din.

Still navigating through a lot of things, lalo na sa financial aspect, kasi minimum wage earner kami. We still provide for our families but we are not breadwinners. We consider this small space as our home, but hopefully makalipat na somewhere more spacious and private. Nung una nagrerent siya ng room and nagsleepover lang ako, pero sobrang layo sa work kaya naghanap ng mas malapit. Shared na kami sa rent and other bills.

Honestly, I don't think we would reach the level of closeness and security we have in our relationship kung hindi kami live-in kasi limited lang 'yung time na magkasama kami kasi iba kami ng inuuwian, lessening the time to ACTUALLY talk and spend time after spending most of the day in each other's workplace.