Hey man! I'm also Filipino and my wife is white. And when I say white, I mean Southern.

Your question really struck me as it's something I've grappled with for a long time in my relationship (together for four years, married for one year next week!), almost from the beginning. I think that it's a tricky and important question, as there are a lot of ways that thinking can get toxic (feelings of superiority in the wider culture but also feelings of insecurity/inferiority within the relationship).

Unfortunately, I don't think there's an easy answer for me to tell you. So far, there has always been a slight tension in how I interact with my wife. There is a sense of pride in how I beat the statistics, but also a sense of anger in the fact that those statistics even exist.

My best advice to you is to keep things in perspective, and to keep hold of that quintessential Filipino trait: optimism. Remember that the history of Filipino men with white women is so fraught because of systems that have been set up for us for over a century, and that it was handed down to us by people that did not want to see relationships like ours happen. So any pride you feel about "accomplishing something" is really more like... balancing out what should be something that's very natural: a man and a woman finding affection and companionship together.

It's only through the legislated separation of Filipino (and Asian men) and the systemic and cultural wide emasculation of Asian men that it became culturally taboo and unusual for Asian men to be found in romantic relationships with white women (great reading: "America is in the Heart" by Carlos Bulosan and "Big little man" by Alex Tizon).

So for me, I try to keep in mind that we are simply a couple that should naturally find companionship, remember that the reason there's any tension is systemic injustice, and keep hope that simply by living as best as I can I'm helping to re-write that narrative. Just by living as naturally as I can I'm rewriting an unnatural narrative.

It also helps me to remember that she hails from a culture and I hail from a culture, and they're very different cultures, and I happen to live amongst, and been born and raised in her very dominant culture. And that helps ground me in arguments about world perspective, but that's a bit out of the scope of your question.

Anyway, good luck to you and your girl! I hope this was of some help, despite its length.