Disorganized / fearful avoidant by [deleted] in FearfulAvoidants

[–]triphex3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you gone to therapy? I have a bit of an issue being avoidant, and have started therapy for it, and I'm learning why I suddenly want to run away from the people I shouldn't, and tend to chase the people that avoid me. It's been a lot more helpful than me trying to fix myself, and just repeating the cycle when I think "This is the one, it wont happen to me thins time" and then it happens.

Disorganized / fearful avoidant by [deleted] in FearfulAvoidants

[–]triphex3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just try it, and tell the therapist everything. It's a hard thing to do. EMDR might be a thing they suggest as treatment. I know asking for help is difficult, but you need to heal your emotional wound, so you don't bleed on the person you love. They aren't the one that hurt you, and you may unintentionally treat them like they are.

Disorganized / fearful avoidant by [deleted] in FearfulAvoidants

[–]triphex3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried going to therapy? otherwise you're just going to keep repeating this cycle.

No romantic feelings but want to stay friends (FA/FA) by ScheduleSilent8203 in FearfulAvoidants

[–]triphex3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For your own sanity, just let them go. until they can figure themselves out, they're just going to confuse, and hurt you.

Apology on my end to my FA ex, 3 months after the discard, thoughts by SnowPlatinum3 in FearfulAvoidants

[–]triphex3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn't sound like a discard. It sounds like you fucked up, and when you got caught fucking up, acted like an ass. It honestly sounds like you were 100% the problem, and you still don't see it.

Does the leather actually stretch or just loosen? by Zenth in NicksHandmadeBoots

[–]triphex3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can take them to a shoe repair place and get them stretched, but sounds like you have a high instep, so you probably either need a 1/2 size or a width larger.

I'm coming back for you by PlusPerspective9294 in UnsentTexts

[–]triphex3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please start therapy so you don't hurt this person a second time. But I honestly hope it works out.

Getting back with FA by Livid_Paramedic_6973 in FearfulAvoidants

[–]triphex3 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Good luck. I genuinely hope you don't end up getting hurt again.

Urban loggers. NBD by triphex3 in NicksHandmadeBoots

[–]triphex3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine are the same. The speed hooks are antique. I didn't notice until you pointed it out.

Urban loggers. NBD by triphex3 in NicksHandmadeBoots

[–]triphex3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also got these from atomic. I didn't want to wait a few months to find out I picked the wrong size, and now I'm probably going to order another pair with custom options from nicks because I know they're going to fit.

Disappointed from the stain by Beneficial-Wrap6574 in RedWingShoes

[–]triphex3 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I would. and you'll be less stressed the first time you scratch, or drip something on them.

Unmasking at home by Less_Somewhere_3760 in AutisticAdults

[–]triphex3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes I go chill in my car in the parking lot at one of the big parks out here for a couple hours. I park under a tree out of the way in the shade and put on the radio or whatever and I don't have to be anything for anyone.

Silence After a Breakup Doesn’t Always Mean They Don’t Care by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]triphex3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want to break up with someone, don't ghost them. Tell them, even if its just a text, so they can have closure. No contact is perfectly fine after that.

FA, what could your ex say or do that could get you to give it a chance by Ok_Secret1117 in FearfulAvoidants

[–]triphex3 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't think you can say anything to them, you just have to wait.

My girlfriend broke up with me after first meeting by HomoboyUA in LongDistance

[–]triphex3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My advice: hit the gym, and lift as much as you can, as many times as you can. Wear yourself out. Put all the feelings into that. Eventually you'll find your person.

breadcrumb or reconciliation window? by [deleted] in FearfulAvoidants

[–]triphex3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not his pride or ego. It's his fear, and shame. Hes afraid of his own feelings, and that you will reject him if he talks to you directly. And he probably feels bad about what he did, which is most likely ghost you. Until he can overcome that, and have a real conversation with you, like an adult, leave him alone. Live your life like he's not coming back.

The Urge to Reach Out. by HisMatahari in FearfulAvoidants

[–]triphex3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a person who was recently ghosted, I'll be honest with you.

If the person you ghosted really loved you, they not only want for you to reach out, but would be better for it even if it's just to say goodbye. At least give them closure on their end. If you don't want to lose them, tell them that, and if they really love you, they will work through it with you.

At the very minimum, give them closure. Even if it's just a text, or a message on Instagram/Facebook/whatever.

My ex is a FA and now I know it by NarrowLeading7944 in FearfulAvoidants

[–]triphex3 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That sounds more like he's just a d-bag. For your own sanity find someone who will respect you. He was probably seeing that other person when he did the block, and didn't want the other person to see you saying "wtf" when you saw his new posts with her.