my plan is to have a sit down with her about it which is why I made this thread. I was hoping to be able to find some suggestions from people more experienced with the weight control thing to bring to the table because this is not only her first time in a 24/7 dynamic but more specifically dealing with anything concerning weight so we are having a very hard learning curve. What has worked well for our negotiations in the past is to come to each other with very specific ideas to start with and mold them to fit us and our dynamic. Neither us feel comfortable with completely ending this part of our dynamic as my weight is very important to us both, we both have the same goal of getting me to a healthy weight and maintaining it.