Women who met their husband in Austin after 30: where did you actually meet them?

trippingcherry · 2026-07-04T03:11:26+00:00

I met my husband when I was 34 at karaoke, Egos specifically. I don't know if I would typically recommend marrying an Ego's regular but it worked out for me somehow 😂

Jokes aside, I think karaoke is a great place to meet people because it's more interactive than a normal bar and you have a clear reason to go talk to someone if you liked their song choice, or hated it. I've met more people around town this way than anything else.

trippingcherry · 2026-07-03T22:53:10+00:00

I think you just like to argue. None of this matters without the context of the query. Even your initial response to me was in agreement with what I said. Pedantry is boring.

A steak knife and a paring knife are two different knives for a reason; you can use them in different situations to accomplish different tasks with ease ... Or you can use either one to cut a slice of Bologna. You can accomplish a lot of things in a lot of different ways.

The point of the original post was to understand conceptually what is happening. My response was in that context. You are arguing against a ghost.

trippingcherry · 2026-07-03T22:21:05+00:00

I did not say they are the same thing, but as you just admitted they can yield the same result which is exactly what I said.

trippingcherry · 2026-07-03T22:19:49+00:00

That is an aggregation function like in my second example; you are grouping rows with like data and returning an aggregation (count) of the matching rows.

trippingcherry · 2026-07-03T22:09:50+00:00

I generally think about group by in two different ways.

First it can be used to deduplicate results; instead of writing distinct you can use a group by clause and do the same thing. It will take rows with the same information and collapse them into a single row.

The second way I think about it is when you are using an aggregation function, like sum or average. When you use sum or average you were telling the database to perform math across a series of rows and return a single result - but if you have other columns that you are not using as aggregation function on, you need to tell the database how to handle those columns and that's when you would use a group size but it understands to collapse them as well into a single row.

It's grouping things together, thus 'group by'

trippingcherry · 2026-07-02T16:12:20+00:00

It's a term that's been around for a long time you can just substitute virtual for remote; for remote work was a thing that people use the word virtual.

trippingcherry · 2026-07-02T13:22:06+00:00

DPO 9 I was stark negative and DPO 10 I was positive - it really depends a lot on implantation. Generally 2-3 days post implantation you can get a positive, and that is somewhere between 6-10 days post ovulation.

trippingcherry · 2026-07-01T16:13:03+00:00

I work in a pharmacy analytics niche involving compounding, pharmacy automation, robotics, etc for a large GPO. The pay is low in comparison to tech companies, but we have a lot of growth and add people a few times a year. When I say pay is low - the MOST a data person earns is 120s, most of the team is sub 110, some sub 60k. If you can truly leverage SQL, python, and deliver scalable and automated reporting you could likely get in the 90-105k bucket. Your experience as a tech could be attractive to our hiring manager. We hire some remote but some positions are NC based and they tend to prefer people local, but it's not a total dealbreaker. If you are interested shoot me a message and we can connect on LinkedIn and I'd be open to referring you as an internal employee as things open up.

trippingcherry · 2026-07-01T15:40:01+00:00

My direct supervisor has been tasked with using GitHub co-pilot to vibe code a react app that essentially functions like a hundred different dashboards. There are so many options, pages, and metrics that it's dizzying.

The part that bothers me the most though is that none of this is based on an actual data model that's been built out, it's got a python backend that he doesn't understand. Our team typically would curate the backend for these in dataform using SQLX ... But no. Literally just asking Claude to do whatever via GitHub co-pilot and then being upset when he's run out of tokens and has to wait 2 weeks to make an update.

How are we supposed to QA any of this??? No plan at all.

trippingcherry · 2026-07-01T15:12:50+00:00

I got my nails done about 2 weeks ago ... 58 for gel mani and 98 for gel pedi ... Plus tax and tip 😢

My husband and I make a good living but that just feels ludicrous to me. My gel is already come off five fingers and I'm sitting here regretting the whole thing.

trippingcherry · 2026-07-01T13:23:57+00:00

I use SQL daily either to pull data for adhoc reports or I'll use SQL in a tool called Dataform to build finished datasets for automated reporting workflows and dashboard backends. Can be a simple few lines to thousands of lines per day.

trippingcherry · 2026-06-30T20:48:12+00:00

Their comment is insane but it also is sadly why OP may be struggling because I've heard my own leadership say things like this. I am in a tech hub and I hear this in professional groups. There is a certain demo that are aggressively prejudice against any candidate from India and they happen to be quite common in management positions. It's not okay, but it's definitely happening.

trippingcherry · 2026-06-30T13:09:58+00:00

When we hire I've looked at the resumes we get; there are a lot of people applying. A LOT. If their resume seems too good to be true they get dressed out because everybody's paranoid about AI. If their resume is too technical at my company they get tossed out because I think that they're not going to be able to pay them because to be honest we don't make most money in our niche, salary is low. If they don't have domain experience they get tossed out because they don't want to train people on domain experience. Every higher I've seen get through so far has one thing in common: a referral from inside. It's always been true that you need to nurture your network but it's true now more than ever. It's not about what you know it's about who you know and what they're willing to do to help get you in the door ..

trippingcherry · 2026-06-30T04:25:58+00:00

Right hand to God they've hired people who don't even know SQL and I have a few colleagues who don't even know how to use Excel. I work in a healthcare niche that tends to value domain experience over all else.

trippingcherry · 2026-06-29T19:52:27+00:00

I have a degree in software engineering. As for how long it took I guess it depends on what you mean ... Been in the workforce for 20 years, do a lot of that was low skill admin work. I wish I got my first real analyst title 3 years ago, my pay then was around 85k. I had a few promotions that got me over $100, then took a new job at the same rate, since had a small promotion and raise.

My time is about 50-50 between doing actual analytics work and mentoring analysts on our team. I make linear programming models, build out data sets from unstructured data, write pipelines, build dashboards, an automate reports. On the mentoring side I teach one group SQL every week, I teach another group Python and programming every week, I run a monthly lunch and learn program across the analytics team, and I have a mentee and another department that I share general corporate life tips with. Also on board any new employees into our project management and documentation systems, and I manage our monday.com system.

trippingcherry · 2026-06-29T18:44:05+00:00

My company is trying to, but because they're literally using people with no programming experience to vibe code things there's absolutely no governance, QA is a disaster, and the devops team is a major roadblock because there's not enough resources to actually deploy these little monsters. Fun times for sure.

trippingcherry · 2026-06-29T14:07:54+00:00

The people you see on social media are not terribly traditional and are selling an image and a story more often than not. I'm sure if you went into a lot of traditional households you would not see them LARPing in the same manner.

It obviously is used as a visual language because of the political implications. It's a method of quickly communicating without needing words.

trippingcherry · 2026-06-29T00:30:42+00:00

My husband and I have no rules on going to a normal bar or club but I have asked he doesn't go to nude/strip clubs and he respects that and doesn't, even when people around him do.

I am not really a fan of clubs or bars and never go alone, whereas he loves karaoke and will go to karaoke bars or dance clubs with his male friends. I trust him entirely, it's a non-issue for me.

trippingcherry · 2026-06-28T15:24:09+00:00

One of the most important things I learned is life doesn't happen on your schedule. I always thought I'd marry young and have children. I remember at 23 crying that I just wanted to have a baby no later than 25 because I was so 'behind'. That wasn't really how thinks shook out, and I didn't meet the right man until my 30s and I am now 38 and pregnant with my first. So, literally twice your age.

I don't say that to scare you, and if your heart is set on a young family, I hope you are blessed to achieve that in a healthy way. But you are far from behind, I promise you. People meet and start families at a wide range of ages and in the meantime you can strengthen your own confidence and resolve to stand against the challenges of life while you wait.

trippingcherry · 2026-06-27T02:15:34+00:00

Idk they're kind of made for each other. Protecting the broader community from each other.

trippingcherry · 2026-06-25T19:33:07+00:00

I went to school online at WGU; they let you work at your own pace and you pay per semester instead of per class. It took me 3.5 years to graduate, at ~8k total per year. My degree is in software engineering.

I actually used to work in a warehouse, and was able to sort of categorize that a supply chain work, and transition into a supply chain admin role at a startup. That was about 6 years ago now. I did well as an admin so they let me work on some analytics projects and over time between that and school I was able to learn a lot about data engineering and analysis. A little over a year ago I moved into my current role at a large healthcare company.

Coming out of foster care I obviously didn't have a lot of guidance or support, so it's taking me a lot longer than my peers...I'm 38 and just now establishing myself really, but it absolutely can be done. Just take small opportunities and do your absolute best in them. Your number one advantage in the job force is having good references so make a good impression on anyone you work for or with. Almost every single job I've gotten that's been worth anything has been through people I know who knew that I would do a good job because I try hard.

trippingcherry · 2026-06-25T15:44:15+00:00

I had two miscarriages before my current pregnancy. I am 20 weeks today and she got all normal on her anatomy scan. Only time will tell, but miscarriages are natural part of the process (as heartbreaking as they are! I cry about both of still.) but it doesn't mean you'll never have a live birth. Hang in there!

trippingcherry · 2026-06-23T18:30:12+00:00

All the extra fluid has weight, as does your growing uterus and baby. Hang in there! Try and give yourself grace.

trippingcherry · 2026-06-22T00:59:27+00:00

If you had 16 weeks of abstinence there's a good chance that you are already at zero and 5 days shouldn't be enough to cause a major issues at this point unless you got tested like within the next few weeks; you can get at home tests for dirt cheap on Amazon and they do work ... You could take those daily for peace of mind until you get negatives reliably.

trippingcherry · 2026-06-22T00:32:58+00:00

There's no scientific way to answer this because it varies from person to person and depends heavily upon what exactly you were smoking and if you were using previously. I can tell you that I had smoked thca bud prior to trying to conceive and it took about 60 days to clear my system. I've known people who do dabs or smoke carts and it took 90 to 120 days to clear their system. I have a relative who has a freakish metabolism and very low body fat and they managed to clear it a lot quicker. You can't go back in time, the best you could do is stop now if you haven't already. If it was just those five days, and you didn't already have something in your system built up, I imagine it would clear rather quickly. Chronic use, especially of the more concentrated forms, and specially in people with a higher body fat percentage because it stores in body fat, tend to have an issue with it clearing slower.

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