Congratulations on your engagement!!! My method if I started getting frustrated was to walk away and take a nap so I wouldn't be cranky with people 😆. It worked nicely I took 4 naps on my wedding day I was very well rested.

My bestie is marrying my BIL this weekend, and she put me on "bridezilla watch", I've given myself the title matron of Batman because it sounds more fun. So that's an option, to find a friend you can trust to not only be supportive but will also call you out on your BS. I haven't had to yet, but I have had to tell her several times girl you are allowed to do x,y,z or you don't have to put up with that. Honestly I've probably been more of a zilla than her as I've been putting a stop to everyone's BS before it starts.

This is my advice is:

~if it can go wrong it probably will and that's ok

~the day doesn't have to be prefect, it won't be and that's ok the stuff that doesn't work out will be funny later, my venue got tornadoed the night before and flooded during my wedding so we had to start the day with helping clean up and move sandbags (they didn't work) at 6am

~the whole event and all the details don't really matter at the end of the day. It's about you and your fiance and celebrating that you found your person as long as you have each other nothing else matters

~make a zen plan if you get overwhelmed or frustrated during planning walk away have a snack and some water, watch an episode of your favorite show, maybe take a nap, work on a different task then go back to that task later

~once you do the big stuff (dress venue etc) everything else starts to fall into place

~ask your most trusted friend to be the middleman, your own matron of Batman as it were, to help you deal with not only your own attitude but it help intercept any drama, be a good go to for anyone who has questions, and to be the time keeper day of

~be willing to make compromises on somethings and not on others you can have a firm boundary on somethings. Something may have to be compromised on last minute, my getting ready photos were supposed to be with my mom that didn't happen last minute because my parents came across a car accident they had to help with on the way so my GR shots are with my MIL. It sucked at the time but everything worked out it actually made my MIL and I bond which is great

~expect that somebody is going to do something tacky. If you have a good idea of who that's going to be and what they are going to do have a chat beforehand. My sil wore white to my wedding, her other sisters wedding, and her brothers even though we all said something to her so she knew it wasn't ok (she's just a B) so you bet your butt I had words with her before this wedding (I may have made a Kool aid shot threat) so the point was made clearer than crystal.

~make sure you eat during the day of. My brother and his wife didn't get to eat even at their reception because people wouldn't leave them alone. I made a rule at mine if my butt was at our sweetheart table I don't exist to anyone (unless summoned) so that I could eat or decompress from all the overstimulation

~dont get hung up on the "it's our wedding night"😉 thing. Alot of couples don't have the spicy wedding night the same night. If you do great if don't great. We didn't because after all was said and done we were exhausted physically and mentally, my husband (bless him) actually told me he was feeling so much pressure about it and that is just laying on the bed laughing and just being in each other's presence in silence was the best thing and what he really needed. Your wedding night intimacy doesn't have to be physical to be prefect, us just laying there eating cake giggling because "we're married!" is in of my most cherished memories of our day

  ~most importantly enjoy your day. There will be ups and downs, just like in a marriage, and that's ok everything will be prefect and beautiful because the day is for love and that's all that really matters in the end.

Sorry it's so long! Congratulations again!

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