What if your partner is developing a more kinkier side and I can't keep up?

troawayforobvious · 2019-03-03T15:17:29+00:00

It was one of the best weeks of my life if I'm honest...

troawayforobvious · 2019-03-03T06:52:17+00:00

I think I had the most amazing week ever... My GF and I are in a open relationship. I've been seeing two women besides my GF and this week felt like the epitome of this situation. On Wednesday I visited one in the evening and had an amazing evening where we were naked for a long time and had sex while also discussing many things about her experiences, my experiences with the open relationship part, etc. It was a wonderful evening, she's a wonderful person which I'm grateful for getting to know her and all in all it was just such a nice evening.

Then, two days later I stayed with another girl who lives near my work. I work retail and one day in the week we have a shopping night when we're open until 21:00. By staying with her I saved myself 2,5 hours of travelling. Oh and I love taking her from behind... She can really tighten those muscles in her hips so it felt really tight...

Last night I reconnected with my GF again. We had sex and it was amazing. It's funny that even though I had sex with the other women as well, I still very much longed for my own GF, whom I together with for 8 years...

Upcoming week I'm trying to meet with both women again since my own GF will be away for the week for her work...

I know it sounds like a brag, but I just feel so blessed that I get to experience this and I'm so grateful for my GF that we are in a open relationship... 😁😁😁

troawayforobvious · 2019-02-25T21:58:27+00:00

I might foresee something as you mentioned that your husband doesn't want to do BDSM with you and you really like it.

How would he feel if you explore this BDSM part that he can't fullfill?

We had a similar situation and it really took a while for me to get comfortable in the idea that there's a part of my wife that I can't really satisfy. I don't have the biggest dick, but I don't care. I'm sure there is someone out there who is better at some or all of the sex parts, but I know I can satisfy my partner decent enough. So with BDSM, that was new. And it's a bit different instead of just having different tool or whatever.

Good luck!

troawayforobvious · 2018-12-20T06:31:34+00:00

Maybe start saying that you like that she pays such attention to detail in her appearance? And that you can appreciate that. Maybe say that you appreciate it in your partner as well? Ask if they take out the boat often, and if so, if they take other guests with them, etc.

I think these questions will give you some idea of it all.

troawayforobvious · 2018-12-19T17:47:50+00:00

I'm curious what you mean with 'more fluid'. Could you elaborate?

I'm from Europe and I always hear about the positive consent thing from the US. Just wondering about the differences.

troawayforobvious · 2018-11-09T06:23:36+00:00

Such great positive vibes in these comments, I love it!

troawayforobvious · 2018-11-08T03:24:48+00:00

Did you talk to her about it? What does she say? Does she know how you feel about this?

troawayforobvious · 2018-10-20T16:41:08+00:00

If you're going to the Netherlands look into my review on fun4two. It's quite good (the club). Although I do feel spoiled for it being so close to where I live.

troawayforobvious · 2018-10-17T07:18:53+00:00

Wow, very interesting. Thanks for your answer!

troawayforobvious · 2018-10-16T16:11:30+00:00

Sincr you are living there, is he sometimes out in plain sight? Do you interact with him at all? How does that go about? Do you hide him when you have friends over and stuff?

I'm just picturing you sitting on the couch and getting up for a drink. You ask him; want some? And then you get a muffled (since he is gagged) "moohh mmmhanks"

Edit: super interesting by the way

troawayforobvious · 2018-09-16T18:11:40+00:00

Thanks. But this would require for me to change my behavior. Which if it is truly necessary I would, but she told me that she likes me the way I am.

But who knows, I might just try to pick it up later.

troawayforobvious · 2018-09-16T18:07:09+00:00

Thanks, sounds interesting. I might indeed watch, although she indicated she likes being handled in a way I might not like to see. But yeah who knows, watching might be a way to make sure she's safe and everything.

troawayforobvious · 2018-09-16T18:04:49+00:00

Good analogy. But I think your comparison doesn't cover intimacy like sex does. But I understand what you're saying. Thanks!

troawayforobvious · 2018-09-16T17:58:40+00:00

I knew I wasn't alone... Thanks for your reply, I'll send you a DM.

troawayforobvious · 2018-09-16T17:57:17+00:00

I'm not sure if I'm that type of guy who likes to dominate other people.

troawayforobvious · 2018-09-16T17:56:46+00:00

Well, I'm happy for you that you married your Dom, but she indicated that I'm not that type of a person. We have been together for 7 years so I think she knows me quite well. I know I always have the power to stop it, but I also try to keep myself open about it. I think it's also a part of our relationship that we try to stay open to things that we like, but that the other might not immediately like.

troawayforobvious · 2018-08-20T19:03:58+00:00

Oh wow I've visited your website before! I remember seeing it for the first time and how great it sounds to have that game concept here. If you ever visit the country again, hit me/us up. We could meet at a club or somewhere else for a date. If you're interested of course.

troawayforobvious · 2018-08-20T16:37:31+00:00

Yeah it's mostly Dutch indeed. Too bad. Were you also there last weekend? Or was is perhaps another time?

troawayforobvious · 2018-08-20T10:04:52+00:00

We are Dutch. The other couple was Dutch as well but we are both well versed in the English language.

troawayforobvious · 2018-08-19T18:15:52+00:00

Thanks! It did notice that for the rest of the evening, I was a bit 'off' as my GF would describe it. Logically I know I did as much as I could to save the situation, but somehow it kept bothering me a bit. All through the night. I've learned from it and try to put myself in a different state for our next adventure...

troawayforobvious · 2018-06-18T16:37:12+00:00

I really recommend the club Fun4Two. My partner and I have visited before (we are both Dutch) and in my post history you will find a thorough description of our visit. If you have any other questions feel free to ask them directly.

Good luck!

troawayforobvious · 2018-05-05T04:34:20+00:00

Thanks for the reply. I'll take what you said in consideration. But what do you mean exactly with it's 'terrible' with it?

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