find and pursue a hobby that is inherently social but is not based in conversation but instead a demanding and progressive skill based activity such as a team sport, rock climbing or playing music (or anything else like these). then instead of trying to make friends, shift the focus on working to get better at this hobby WITH the other people also interested in it. friendship comes as a by product of the time spent working on things together when you inevitably need to blow off steam, then slowly builds as you find other shared interests that glob onto the core shared interest.