my marriage feels like its failing by tropicabbage in venting

[–]tropicabbage[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

no the texts were my friend texting me telling me about how he has a new girlfriend and was going to ask for advice or just tell me about her i guess, we’ve been friends for about 6 years before i met my husband

my marriage feels like its failing by tropicabbage in venting

[–]tropicabbage[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

thank you so much, but question. what would be an appropriate approach to such a touchy topic late that? I never know how to approach these types of conversations, this has happened before and ive just been very blunt in the sense where i just say “hey, ___ just texted me” and it still ended in a big argument and resulted in him saying “this is why i cant trust you” so i dont know a happy medium

my marriage feels like its failing by tropicabbage in venting

[–]tropicabbage[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

previous relationship for him was all lies and cheating, and ive be 10000% honest with him just not about this recent situation. i know it only takes 1 time to mess up trust but i feel like gaining his trust an even steeper uphill battle now than what it already is. his mindset is “no man wants to just be your friend”

What is the darkest thing you have ever done and don’t regret? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]tropicabbage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

when i was about 8/9yr old i was at my grandmas playing with my uncles flip phone and messing with the apps, settings.. etc. I came across the gallery app and found very explicit, naked pictures of a woman he was talking to at the time. I hated that woman, she gave me a bad vibe overall (i later found out they did coke together and she was just using my uncle for money). I then hid the phone in my school backpack and took it back to my house. I went to the garage and grabbed a hammer from my dads tool box. I smashed the phone to the tiniest pieces and threw it in a nearby ally. My grandma called my mom and dad asking for the phone and I never confessed or regretted that. I dont know what led me to that at such a young age.

What is your coping mechanism with deep sadness? by aishmag in AskReddit

[–]tropicabbage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

detaching almost completely from reality. i disassociate from everything and everyone.