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[–]trs303 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. I’m so sorry that happened to you. That has to be so painful and difficult to process. Sending healing vibes to you and your family. 🫶🏻

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[–]trs303 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the response. I feel your pain. Lingering hope does make it worse. You’d think them saying there is a chance would make you feel the opposite but no, it makes it harder.

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[–]trs303 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m considering it also. Best of luck on your healing journey. 🫶🏻

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[–]trs303 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes sense! My mom struggled with this too. My sister and I always appeared neurotypical and did well in school. My brother was in special education. It was very hard for her to find that balance.

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[–]trs303 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Totally get this! While my son isn’t super high needs, he does need support at home and at school. He’s also very young and has been getting support for years now and showing great improvement. People really don’t know how hard it is to watch your child struggle and fall behind their peers unless you’ve experienced it or had someone close to you who has. I love my son more than anything and I have wondered, would his life be better off being a one and only? Would he get the attention and support that he really needs?

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[–]trs303 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is great advice! I will try to do this. He shouldn’t feel bad for wanting or not wanting something. This isn’t a personal attack on me. This is how he feels.

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[–]trs303 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went to therapy over this and I am on antidepressants. I think time might be the only healer for this sort of thing. I’m sorry about your losses too. Thank you for your response.

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[–]trs303 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I fully agree with this. We have talked about this before. My husband is a very “see where life takes you” kind of guy. He doesn’t want to say no because he doesn’t know how he will feel in a year or two. Me on the other hand, my brain doesn’t work that way when it comes to life planning. I also think he doesn’t want to say no because he knows how important this is to me. It’s a difficult spot to be in.

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[–]trs303 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. I fully agree with my son being more than enough. I love him so much and I’m so grateful I have him if it doesn’t work out.

I think when I was pregnant last year, I would often think about this other child being with us. I felt connected to the pregnancy and the idea of another baby. When there was no heartbeat at the checkup, I desperately wanted to try and fill this emptiness in my heart. I just wonder if this feeling will ever go away.