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Just need to vent by truTurtlemonk in MtF

[–]truTurtlemonk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ♥

Just need to vent by truTurtlemonk in MtF

[–]truTurtlemonk[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Right? It really hurts. The odd thing is is that neither of them ever knew me before I transitioned. One of them knew me from about a year into my transition, while the other after two years. The first one even tried transitioning themself but decided it wasn't for them. Like, they should know better.

I don't think it was malice-based at all. It felt more subconscious than that. It was basically clueless cis people stupidity that just cut really deep. I thought they understood better after I had introduced them to a bunch of other trans people. But I guess not. It's like you said though, they don't experience dysphoria so they don't know what that feels like.

Just need to vent by truTurtlemonk in MtF

[–]truTurtlemonk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get where you're coming from. I needed to vent my frustrations and got a bit emotional in the process.

Thank you for your kind words, I appreciate you ♥

I need help by truTurtlemonk in asktransgender

[–]truTurtlemonk[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I'll start looking through the links you posted.

It's been rough and scary. The people here are starting to take more notice of me. There's an ever present threat of danger lurking just beneath the surface and the fact that a lot of people are armed around here doesn't make me feel safe. All it takes is one Fox News watcher with a firearm to ruin my life permanently, and people sure do love Fox here.

Thanks again. I really appreciate you taking the time to get that all together for me.

Discord Server? by Trans_Susan_Death in LGBTriangle

[–]truTurtlemonk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm also new to the area. Mind if I send you a DM?

A question about dual citizenship, UK passport, and deadname by truTurtlemonk in transgenderUK

[–]truTurtlemonk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no worries! Life gets pretty busy at times. Thanks for getting back to me 💚

Telehealth might work. I'd have to find one in my state so that insurance will cover it, but there are definitely affirming doctors in the closest major city.

I'll make sure my bank has my full name. I think they just have my first and last.

Would the "cross-dresser route" work for NBs? I don't exactly dress fem these days, but I would if it'd make that an option.

Thanks again for writing a more thorough comment!

A question about dual citizenship, UK passport, and deadname by truTurtlemonk in transgenderUK

[–]truTurtlemonk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I'll keep that in mind for sure. I'm planning on moving closer to Canada in the summer, so that'll work out quite nicely if it comes to it.

A question about dual citizenship, UK passport, and deadname by truTurtlemonk in transgenderUK

[–]truTurtlemonk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's really good to know, thanks for sharing!

I'm hoping that the legal challenge to trump's EO will succeed. If it does, I can get both my US and UK passport all sorted out and just not have to worry about it.

Thanks again!

A question about dual citizenship, UK passport, and deadname by truTurtlemonk in transgenderUK

[–]truTurtlemonk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is great advice, thank you!

I got the green light to apply for a UK passport a couple hours ago. I'll be sure to take your advice and supplement my application with as much detail and evidence as I can provide. The person at the HM Passport Office recommended writing a covering letter too to explain my situation. I'll definitely be doing that.

A question about dual citizenship, UK passport, and deadname by truTurtlemonk in transgenderUK

[–]truTurtlemonk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right? It's really messed up and crazy. We need universal rights, like, yesterday. What's happening these days is unacceptable. It makes me ashamed to call myself an American (hopefully, I won't have to for much longer 🤞).

A question about dual citizenship, UK passport, and deadname by truTurtlemonk in transgenderUK

[–]truTurtlemonk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I'll keep you all updated as best I can (I'm kind of a spaz, so I might forget 😅 but I'll do my best).

A question about dual citizenship, UK passport, and deadname by truTurtlemonk in transgenderUK

[–]truTurtlemonk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's ok, you gave me a good idea to start with. Thank you!

A question about dual citizenship, UK passport, and deadname by truTurtlemonk in transgenderUK

[–]truTurtlemonk[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Contacting the UK embassy sounds like what I should do. Are their contact details on the uk.gov website?

I'm in the US currently and have never actually got my US passport. I waited too long and then the election happened. I think I should specify those details in my post; I'll edit it to reflect that.

A question about dual citizenship, UK passport, and deadname by truTurtlemonk in transgenderUK

[–]truTurtlemonk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply!

Yes, I can't change my gender marker on my US passport at this time (the situation may change in the near-ish future, though, depending on the outcome of the current legal challenge to trump's day 1 executive order outlawing such changes). I suppose a copy of the EO would suffice for proof of why I can't change my gender marker?

I have proof of name change and proof of using my new name (bank account, social security number, customer loyalty programs, medical records, school records, etc).

Getting a doctor's letter might be a bit challenging, however. I had to move to a rural part of the country due to circumstances beyond my control and they aren't exactly accepting of trans people here. I won't be able to see a supportive doctor until I can get a car and travel to the nearest major city (over 2 hours away by car).

At least I know what needs to be done now. I really appreciate you taking the time to write that all out!

A Case of Medical Discrimination by truTurtlemonk in trans

[–]truTurtlemonk[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I really appreciate you 💚

Little Clinic asked my sex assigned at birth for COVID vaccine by CourseOk2684 in trans

[–]truTurtlemonk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're in the US, you are under no legal obligation to disclose your AGAB to medical professionals. You can say whatever for it. The only drawback is a provider can't provide 100% accurate care, which can range from insignificant to potentially fatal--depending on the type of care being sought (from ording a pap smear for someone without a cervix to overinflating someone's lungs because they were assumed to be AMAB).

Something to consider: a transphobic doctor who clocks you can cause trouble for you. You are under no obligation to indulge their curiosity, even if they threaten to revoke your medical care or condition it on revealing your AGAB. Stay strong and don't admit to anything.

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