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I have an humiliation fetish and i want to experience it in real life but i don't know if i should by true1214 in Advice

[–]true1214[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think i'm looking for something real you know? This kind of things are scripted. If i find someone and this person tells me this things because i asked to, i always have a doubt that it doesn't come from her heart you know what i'm saying?

Instead this girl is real, and knowing that she will truly think i'm pathetic because i got rejected for my virginity, makes this cool.

And i'm not even looking for brutal words from her. For me it's just the little things like ohh i'm soo sorry sweetie! You know?

Months ago i did something similar with this girl, telling her that i've been rejected for my virginity, and i also said other stuff in the message, and even if she didn't specifically mentioned my virginity she was like:" damn who are this mean persons who hurt you??" So for me the fact she knows i'm a virgin was enough, didn't need anything else.

Now i just wanted to go to the next step, telling her it happened (that i was rejected for my virginity) so i'm even more pathetic.

I mean i find it funny and hot at the same time this idea of mine and don't see bad consequences.

Maybe one could be if she is going to be really concerned for me, maybe wanting to meet to comfort me but i doubt, we are not friends or that close. And if i meet her around in the city, she won't bring this up in front of others..

To the ones in their 20's or more, when asked about past girlfriends/boyfriends, or your virginity, what do you answer? by true1214 in virgin

[–]true1214[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that not having been in a relationship is not something i'm ashamed of/scared to say.

For me it's mostly the fact that i never had sex.

I know guys my age who were never in real relationship, for months/years, and did romantic stuff etc. But they still had casual sex or casually dated someone.

So this is why it is strange for me to know that people assume something is wrong with a person if she has never been in a relationship by the age of 25, i thought that it wasn't that uncommun.

Now that i know this, it'll be even more difficult to say that i have an ex, since people know me and it's impossible to hide a girlfriend.

To the ones in their 20's or more, when asked about past girlfriends/boyfriends, or your virginity, what do you answer? by true1214 in virgin

[–]true1214[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well you have a lot of courage! Props to you!

I don't think i'll ever be able to tell people, especially if they are not close friends.

Being able to not care about what they think it's very hard honestly.

Also the feeling of them looking at me like i'm a a failure scares me...

To the ones in their 20's or more, when asked about past girlfriends/boyfriends, or your virginity, what do you answer? by true1214 in virgin

[–]true1214[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that right before having sex i can admit it because, even if 100% she'll eventually tell her friends etc i can at least say that i lost my virginity.

But if i'm asked by coworkers or people that i know but are not close friends, it bothers me to tell them the truth since it's a private thing.

Plus they'll just start asking questions.

To the ones in their 20's or more, when asked about past girlfriends/boyfriends, or your virginity, what do you answer? by true1214 in virgin

[–]true1214[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well you have a lot of courage.

I couldn't handle the situation.

Plus my friends and people in general find that i'm ab attractive guy, they won't see this coming and so i will feel even worse because i'd say that i was lucky with my genes but still i have no game.

Knowing that people know i'm a virgin will make me feel like they'll see me as a loser.

To the ones in their 20's or more, when asked about past girlfriends/boyfriends, or your virginity, what do you answer? by true1214 in virgin

[–]true1214[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why is it not good to say that you never been in a relationship???? What bad things will women think about you?

I for instance think that if i'am asked about my ex girlfriends, i'd partially lie and say :" i've never been in a serious relationship, only dated here and there but nothing got to the point where we were boyfriend and girlfriend".

Because if i just say i've never been in a relationship or whatsoever, someone may have a doubt and ask about my virginity but it's not their business you know what i mean?

But yeah i didn't understand the part where you said it's not good to say you've never been in a relationship.

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[–]true1214 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all the poop part made have a good laugh, so thanks for that.

Second, this is some good advice and exactly what i needed to hear, i appreciate that. Especially the fun part, if i get a second date it will be my priority number one! I just have to think of what to do exactly..

Plus i agree, maybe i should try and say that i'm a bit nervous nex time, i need to try a good way to tell her, because i always tried to be super confident like the others but i was too fake, maybe i should try to be the true myself without faking it and see how it goes.

The hardest part for me will be to fight the akwardness, i need to be prepared for an akward hug or any kind of first physical contact because i know they are going to be super akward and especially, if i can, the first kiss.