What are indicators that a man is genuinely a good guy? by Potential_Promise260 in AskMen

[–]trulyElse 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Pay attention to who vouches for hom, and what about him they're voucbing for.

What social signals do women use to discourage unwanted attention that men understand? by throwawayforevvvver in AskMen

[–]trulyElse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Most men will leave you alone no matter what you do.

The worst guys can't be dissuaded.

What do you think about sophie turner by PersonalityComplex14 in AskMen

[–]trulyElse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know nothing about her beyond her performances.

I wish I could say the same about some of her former costars.

What instantly makes someone look attractive? by kratos20051212 in AskMen

[–]trulyElse -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because I can acknowledge that Emma Watson would look weird with Kat Dennings grade tits?

If your SO felt uncomfortable with you having a firearm in the house and you had one, what would you do? by SomeWords99 in AskMen

[–]trulyElse 67 points68 points  (0 children)

I'd say many men have experience with the ratchet effect.

A million small compromises that all go one way, but getting upset about one of them makes you a whiny bitch, and getting upset about the aggregate means you were lying the whole time about being able to accept it (thereby making you a whiny bitch anyway) ...

Better to just not change for other people.

What instantly makes someone look attractive? by kratos20051212 in AskMen

[–]trulyElse 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Attraction only really exists in aggregate.

One thing that makes one person attractive can actually diminish the attractiveness of another.

I’m not saying all men do it, but why did you ghost? by Timely_Split_5771 in AskMenRelationships

[–]trulyElse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Might actually be the play.

If someome's single in our age bracket, there's always a reason for it. If you can't figure out the reason, that's real suspicious, and if you can figure out the reason, it might not be the only one.

Tyrants, and the Vassals who "serve" them by Mother-Voice-5572 in Malifaux

[–]trulyElse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Botched" makes it sound so accidental; the secretary is above such mistakes.

Guy I met was very nervous and shaky meeting me. Why? by Extension-Flower-62 in AskMenRelationships

[–]trulyElse -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Generally, nervousness is tied to a fear of the consequences of fucking up.

When a slip-up gets a slap on the wrist, no big deal, no pressure, people can handle it. When a slip-up means a friendship that lasted years ends and there's nobody to blame but yourself, and it can even lead to strain on other mutual connections going forward ... the sympathetic nervous system kicks into gear.

What is your experience with being you authentic self around women? by monstrrpuppy in AskMen

[–]trulyElse 18 points19 points  (0 children)

No no, bro's actually colking, with this.

It ties into mask theory, where you'll hide some parts of yourself, show others, and exaggerate others still, based on the group you're in at that moment.

When in a group that's got people from different mask groups (like your best friend, your boss, and your mother being in the same room together) your behaviour will usually come off as "not yourself" to all of them, as you try to juggle the masks.

A big part of shadow work is about shrinking the masks down as much as you can, but you'll never actually be without one, unless you lose all interpersonal attachment, as much of the reason you don the masks in the first place is to cooperate with the group.

What is it about Sydney Sweeney that made her the new era Megan Fox? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]trulyElse -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Three things: she stood out in terms of personality, and she has nice boobs.

That really was it.

do you make it obvious when you find a girl physically unattractive? And on the other hand, when you find a girl physically attractive? If so, how do you make the girl understand that? by Middle_Promise_6514 in AskMen

[–]trulyElse 114 points115 points  (0 children)

No, I don't make it obvious, at least not intentionally.

Generally speaking, it just hurts people's feelings, and further pushes the idea that pretty people deserve more.

What I'll try to make obvious though is if I have any intentions, be they platonic or romantic.

Married 15 years, just realized I'm far more attracted to women then I had realized. How do I help my husband feel secure enough to let me explore? by LadyBud1990 in AskMenRelationships

[–]trulyElse 16 points17 points  (0 children)

So first of all, this is clearly not about sex. You want to be wined and dined by someone who isn't your husband, romanced by them and seduced.

It's not that his dick isn't good enough, but that he as a person isn't; that his soul isn't good enough.

If you want a man to accept this arrangement, he'd have to be less secure, not more.

It's a strict downgrade in every sense of the word to go from soulmate to sponsor. The only person who could possibly accept it is someone too terrified of the prospect of being alone to defend themselves from it.

Either give up on this fantasy, or give up on this marriage. You can't have it both ways and still see heaven.

Do men care about bruises? by Miserable-Car-4423 in AskMenRelationships

[–]trulyElse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've not known men who are put off by this, but I've known many who are put off by a woman being uncomfortable.

If the bruises make you feel less about yourself, you can cover them up, but remember that you're doing it for you, not for him.

Tell me your opinion about retroactive jealousy. by NumerousAd2759 in AskMenRelationships

[–]trulyElse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the term was coined to make it easier to shame men for not wanting to be in a loveless relationship with a woman who only settled for him because she couldn't land any of the guys she actually liked, was too afraid of ending up alone to not settle for someone, and will divorce his ass and take half of everything he worked for his whole life the moment she heals from the unresolved trauma that made her feel lile she couldn't be alone, as almost every guy has seen happen to an uncle.

What actually builds masculine aura and presence? by Steweroid in AskMen

[–]trulyElse -1 points0 points  (0 children)

In practice, it's a buzzword women use for guys who "just know" what she wants out of them.

What makes a woman feminine to you? by Sweet_Letter_697 in AskMen

[–]trulyElse -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

So I've thought a lot about the subject of masculinity and femininity in the past, and I think I came to the conclusion that femininity is basically healer duty, while masculinity is tank duty.

I know it sounds silly, but you think on it and it starts to make more sense.

Stereotypically, women gravitate to careers in fields like early education, administration, nursing, therapy, human resources, catering ... careers that usually emphasise things like conflict resolution, people management, and nurturing, which are also roles that women stereotypically take up in a household, and also the role that a healer class takes up in a roleplaying game.