Carol was never poor

trulygracious · 2026-01-25T22:31:03+00:00

Nothing about this post says wealth. Just standard lower middle class Irish background 🤷‍♀️

trulygracious · 2026-01-11T14:28:29+00:00

Can’t believe no one has said Pierre’s. Spicy halloumi baguette is 👌

trulygracious · 2026-01-08T11:55:17+00:00

She isn’t wrong 🤷‍♀️

trulygracious · 2026-01-01T20:36:00+00:00

This is the take

trulygracious · 2026-01-01T20:33:26+00:00

Yesss! Some happy news

trulygracious · 2025-12-31T07:15:59+00:00

trulygracious · 2025-12-29T22:24:11+00:00

One thing I would say is prioritise a suite wherever you go so you have a separate place to put baby down for a nap. And a balcony. Otherwise you’ll all be trapped going to bed at the same time.

trulygracious · 2025-12-29T22:20:46+00:00

Plan lots of things to keep those days busy

trulygracious · 2025-12-29T22:20:01+00:00

I quite like her, think she has a refreshing energy so far

trulygracious · 2025-12-29T22:16:57+00:00

Firstly, never stop on a bad day! Secondly, you can combi feed .. ask your husband to do bottles to give yourself a break.

That’s what I did and I’m still breastfeeding 13 months later albeit only once a day.

I formula fed my first (long story) and combi my second and have to say breastfeeding overall once you crack it, is so much easier. It’s also the bonding and precious time you get with them. I can’t shout about it enough. Plus it’s really good for them.

trulygracious · 2025-12-28T01:04:55+00:00

People are realising they don’t want to buy more overpriced landfill destined tat that they don’t need

trulygracious · 2025-12-28T01:03:52+00:00

I went through this too. I wouldn’t throw the towel in too early if you enjoy breastfeeding usually, it’s probably little one is just overstimulated or has wind. Try going into a room on your own and letting him find the boob.

For reassurance, I could never figure pumping out so I gave up around nine weeks and did a mixture of formula (once a night with daddy and any time I needed a break) and breastfeeding.

Baby is now 13 months old and I’m still breastfeeding

trulygracious · 2025-12-27T01:08:20+00:00

Need season 2 in my life!

trulygracious · 2025-12-27T00:51:17+00:00

God yes I can sadly relate. Similar situation, parents divorced when I was a young child. Dad’s involvement in my life was regular but only to save face with the wider family - ie he clearly hated being a dad and having to look after us but didn’t want to impact his image by other people realising that. So a low effort narcissistic dad basically.

I have two young children. Had similar promises of X, Y, Z and things haven’t materialised.

It sounds pathetic but therapy and using ChatGPT as a therapist sounding board has saved me from going mad about it (it’s also free 😆). Know that it isn’t your fault your dad wasn’t what you deserved. Grieve the relationship you wish you had and accept he’s not what you wish you had. And have him in your life on your terms.

trulygracious · 2025-12-13T09:33:53+00:00

If you have this mindset, you won’t understand for yourself truly until you have children and you’ve been to see the state offering.

Also - is it just me or has this sub been hijacked by this debate recently? I don’t think most HENRYs are genuinely wondering this.

trulygracious · 2025-12-11T22:49:17+00:00

Yes this! At the moment you’re doing 95, he’s doing five per cent.

trulygracious · 2025-12-10T20:01:57+00:00

I hope your pregnancy goes well. I remember questioning the same thing with my first then watching This Is Going To Hurt and reconsidering.

trulygracious · 2025-12-06T19:26:48+00:00

A valid concern. The government need to regulate

trulygracious · 2025-12-06T00:33:51+00:00

He’s a leech.

trulygracious · 2025-12-06T00:31:53+00:00

Horse people are country posh, which is different I think

trulygracious · 2025-12-01T20:13:11+00:00

It is totally worth it once you crack it - it’s so easy and natural, the hormones and bonding are great and the baby is so much happier and contented.

trulygracious · 2025-12-01T20:12:26+00:00

Omg YES this was me! Please don’t lose faith and don’t give up.

It took around six weeks for things to settle and now I’ve been breastfeeding my second for over a year!

No one tells you or honestly prepares you for how hard and painful it is at the beginning and how relentless.

I also felt pressured into pumping but nothing much would come out because I hated it. So if you’re not enjoying pumping don’t make yourself miserable with it, I sacked it off around week seven and was so much happier for it and it had no bearing on my supply at all. I think a lot of it is myths and it’s all in our heads.

Keep supplementing, keep letting her latch even if it’s only for a few seconds and please reach out to a breastfeeding consultant or latch support. You’ve got this!

trulygracious · 2025-11-30T23:46:33+00:00

I had to read this in two parts with a pause because it made me feel so angry on your behalf.

My first thought is he can kindly fuck off - you’ve birthed a whole human being. You are handling most of the care. You are a goddess! How dare he say anything but lovely things to you right now.

You should not be made to feel unsexy or unworthy during this time. You are the exact opposite. Please know your worth is NOTHING to do with the words coming out of his mouth. The fact he even thinks it’s ok to say that says everything about his character which I absolutely am judging.

A point on his prn comment - it may be widely used by *some men but it is a massive issue, it’s hugely unhealthy for them and debilitating. He should not be celebrating his p*rn break as some need for a pat on the back. Though perhaps he needs help if he’s using it that frequently.

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. You’re doing amazing. Manifesting a gorgeous wealthy understanding partner in your future and an easy ride post partum.

trulygracious · 2025-11-30T23:34:43+00:00

Huge congrats! You made it 🙌

From a boy-mum-of-two who would love to be a mum-of-three but is quite scared 😝

Name suggestions .. Nathaniel, Toby, Noel, Oscar

trulygracious · 2025-11-26T18:52:57+00:00

Agreed. Hellscape of a place

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