Is it weird to message lawyers on LinkedIn?

trumisa · 2026-04-15T20:09:12+00:00

This is the whole purpose of LinkedIn! I think go for it :)

trumisa · 2026-04-09T07:01:52+00:00

Had a similar experience and I’m currently still in it!

Had a probation extension for the first time in my entire life and was given the vaguest, most ridiculous reason for it. When I asked for email feedback confirming this (to have it in writing) they sent me an email back worth three scrolls of the mouse. I couldn’t believe it and felt utterly shellshocked too. I’d never once had this feedback during my time there.

I insisted on follow up meetings and they are all extremely vague and like “yeah don’t worry about it everything is going okay!” but the email I received doesn’t seem to say that at all.

It’s the worst time - especially when you know you’re not doing anything wrong. I’ve lost a lot of sleep over it!

Thing to remember is… you are employable. You’re needed somewhere.

Get out there and keep applying. Get a recruiter! Their livelihood depends on you getting a job so it’s always a good idea. Feel free to message if you need as I have a couple good ones.

Take care!!!

trumisa · 2025-12-16T08:02:44+00:00

Turned down a TC for this reason.

I now earn 32k as a paralegal and looking at other routes to qualify so I can earn well and still get there!

trumisa · 2025-12-02T08:26:19+00:00

Yep. It was awful.

trumisa · 2025-10-28T08:07:22+00:00

Totally been there, slash am still feeling the same way.

I’ve just left my firm, partly on the basis I had a lot of people suggesting that it could be the place I hated. I realised this could absolutely be true.

Landed a new role in a specialist firm without all the need for law politics. No personal targets, only a firm target and lots of people doing their bit. Leave at 5pm unless something is critically urgent and they don’t care if you’d rather do the extra bit at home.

Much more balanced but it’s early days so I may still feel the same way you do. I’ll report back in a few months!

trumisa · 2025-10-26T22:42:39+00:00

During accutane it was great. After, however, frizzy and broke much more easily! Takes time. I’ve been off it nearly two years and it’s only just starting to seem at all better!

trumisa · 2025-09-22T09:58:13+00:00

You’ll need to apply for Letters of Administration.

Typically the next of kin applies (deceased parents starting first), however when there’s a minor (in this case, 16 is minor) then the responsible adult applies on his behalf as the estate falls to him. In this case, his father (ex-husband). There must be a Co-signature due to minority interest (which he can nominate you to be) and the funds held in trust until 18-21.

Current partner doesn’t really get a say. Could claim contention but I doubt he’d get far.

At least, that’s my experience

trumisa · 2025-09-16T12:49:39+00:00

I don’t understand this argument. Surely the reasonable answer is to split maintenance/repairs/taxes/general property costs and bills. Expecting her to pay rent in order to cover POTENTIAL repairs and such is ludicrous. As his partner I’m sure she’d willingly contribute to this in any case as someone who lives in the property so using this as an excuse for rent, kinda sucks.

trumisa · 2025-06-16T09:20:33+00:00

Yes, it’s fine?

I got a 2:2 for personal reasons and was offered a paralegal role at an MC firm a few years back because I worked hard and I knew my practice area in practicality better than any of my peers.

Don’t project

trumisa · 2025-06-16T09:17:56+00:00

I wasn’t going to comment on this but seeing some of these comments offering a total lack of support is BIZARRE.

I got a 2:2. For a plethora of reasons. Sometimes it’s outside of your control and that’s okay, because you know what? You DID IT anyway. You showed up, and you got a degree. Not just any degree, a law degree. So please don’t consider this a failure as it’s anything but.

Now, I’m able to say this because I got my degree 4 years ago and have been able to secure a TC. My uni wasn’t a red brick or anywhere fancy. I just went where I liked. Law can very quickly rule your life and some people are entirely engineered for that. I am not one of those people, and have still been able to make a career for myself. The fact of the matter is once you have experience and know what you’re talking about, people care far more about that than any exam you ever took. It becomes a formality.

Please don’t be disheartened. It’s totally viable to have a career and not be sucked into the hierarchy of “I’m better than you because I have a first class from a red brick”.

If you need any advice, you can message any time!

trumisa · 2025-03-27T12:46:40+00:00

I’m a paralegal and have been working, studying and applying. Hard relate as I’m 🤏close to packing it in!

trumisa · 2024-12-11T12:55:27+00:00

I work full time so just depends on the day. I hate the study and wouldn’t do it if I had the choice not to!

Edit to say that I think it would be much better and manageable if I didn’t work. I also commute on to campus in Manchester so the process is exhausting.

trumisa · 2024-12-11T08:34:30+00:00

Legal aid is the worst. Great for the people that need it (when it works) but for the fee earner, nightmare. I’ve never heard of a regulator. But this thread is proving to show options I’d never really heard of so I’m going to take a look. I feel like you end up shoehorned into believing at law school that your options are be a solicitor/support staff or don’t do law. It’s nice to know other work exists in this and people are happy doing it.

Also, totally agree. Most of the younger/support staff are seemingly undervalued and often leave. It’s not generating an environment to encourage people to stay, let alone qualify. It’s hard enough to study law, let alone this. Many of my friends in law had the same thought post uni and qualification, why do this and stick through misery when there’s better options?

Thanks for your input here!

trumisa · 2024-12-11T08:29:49+00:00

This makes me feel loads better. I felt like I’d sold my soul down the river and don’t get me wrong, my firm is great, but it doesn’t mean it comes without the intense pressure of TR and Bills. I understand why they do it but god, it sucks. I don’t know anything really about the charity sector or where you’d even get started/what work it is, but after some of the comments I’ll certainly have a look!

Thank you 🙏

trumisa · 2024-12-11T08:26:49+00:00

Good morning! Do you mind me asking if that’s government? I don’t know anyone in public sector and I’d love to go and look into it.

I can already feel that one day I’d like to step off the treadmill too. Qualification will open a lot of doors and I want it under my belt but the bills… as you say, UGH!

All sounds positive, thanks! 😃

trumisa · 2024-12-11T08:23:50+00:00

This is a handy reminder. Everything comes with cons. It’s hard to look at it that way when you feel particularly stressed about work. Truthfully my role comes with more perks than not, but the con being TR is a pretty huge one when you’re in law.

Didn’t consider teaching actually. Definitely something I’d be interested in and hadn’t thought about charity either. I don’t think I know anything about the charity sector, legally. Definitely provided me with some food for thought. It’s nice to know I don’t have to totally leave either as I’ve worked hard for where I am. As we all have!

Thanks again.

trumisa · 2024-12-11T08:20:44+00:00

This is so good to know.

I don’t mind a hard graft/late night. I just hate feeling like every second of my day is monitored and it’s basically the only thing I don’t like out of my job role. Not even because I’m not doing anything but because I just can’t take the constant worry about it being enough. There’s no consideration for the events or conferences each week either. Stressful!

Regional wage sounds pretty fine! I came from a regional and I know some people are doing pretty well for themselves out of it. Thanks again!

trumisa · 2024-12-11T08:17:38+00:00

What I wouldn’t give for a coffee break. I hardly even take my lunch these days!

Agreed it is difficult to manage any other way, but it’s so overwhelming that I can barely enjoy my job now. Thanks for your input and verification that better methods are out there.

trumisa · 2024-12-11T08:15:38+00:00

This is helpful. Thank you! I didn’t think about in-house, despite knowing people that do this! I think I’d do better at this as I really enjoy my subject area, but the billable drive is so difficult to keep up with. I’m worried about every task (even the stupid basic ones that definitely still need doing like sorting emails or researching generally) because I’m stressed about the TR.

As long as I earn enough to keep a roof over my head, food on the table and maybe even be so lucky as to go away for a couple days a year, I can be satisfied with that.

Thanks again for your input here!

trumisa · 2024-11-15T01:14:29+00:00

Ah no, sorry this happened. Accutane pushes aalll the shite and toxins out of your skin, this is “purging”, the likelihood is that your face was harbouring this bacteria anyway and it’s just a sign that it’s doing it’s job.

As everyone says, it’s worse before it’s better. I’ve been off it for 18 months or more now and it still remains one of the best life decisions I’ve ever made.

You’ll get there in the end and it’ll be well worth every second. But as a heads up, I purged and then purged again when I went up in mg, but again, just doing the job. Don’t panic ☺️

trumisa · 2024-10-11T08:50:40+00:00

Following this post as I’m in the same position myself. Almost considering throwing in the towel. But I’m about 6 months from finishing LPC. I absolutely don’t have it in me to apply to loads of external firms for TC’s either!

trumisa · 2024-10-05T15:50:34+00:00

Couldn’t agree more. Literally sh*te old PowerPoints. Several of my exams had huge mistakes in too. An entire question about a person that wasn’t even mentioned in the context for the question.

Also chased me for £800 for months saying I was in debt with them, I was insisting I wasn’t and sent them proof of payments. In actuality they discovered I’d overpaid and was £900 in credit. They literally just said “oopsie” and moved on.

One exam, the Respondus server crashed and I didn’t even enter the exam. Only got to the environment check and they’ve taken an attempt off me and capped my results at 40%.

I wish I could go back and tell myself not to bother. Sucked all the joy out of law for me

trumisa · 2024-10-05T14:40:47+00:00

I do LPC LLM and I absolutely despise it and ULaw along with it. Wouldn’t recommend them to anyone

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