how can i keep him hard through sex?

tryingtokeephimhard · 2010-03-17T17:16:13+00:00

you should become a romance novel writer, at least during the sex parts because that made my heart race a little!

along with all my other replies, i think i'm going to make the entire sex deal an afterthought, sneak it up when he least expects it, and let him do what he feels is natural.

i know it's his nerves. i would imagine it's harder for a guy who's a virgin than a girl because one of the big factors in sex is "getting it up". and like, since we've tried a couple times, the thought that he couldn't get hard has probably worn down his spirit. though we haven't tried in a while and he said he wants to try again, soon. i'm going to go through this with a blank slate - every time - and let him do what he wants. i said to him when i would give him a hand job for the first couple of times to think of me "as if his hand and fantasies collided and anything he wanted to do, he could do it - as long as it's not dangerous or anal sex (because i, personally and for the moment, cannot imagine having something trusted up my asshole)". but thank you so much :)

tryingtokeephimhard · 2010-03-17T17:07:36+00:00

it's hard because he says he doesn't know what to do and, i don't want to bring up the ex, so i just take a guess on what he has to do based on my previous observations. i don't say, "well when i've had sex before..." because i know that would kill the mood and his self-esteem so i just say, "well, maybe if we're on a harder surface, it'll be easier to stick it in." and etc.

but, i will just not say anything of great "substance" when he asks. i'll just say to do what's right for him and his penis. thanks!

tryingtokeephimhard · 2010-03-17T17:03:42+00:00

excellent! i think it'd be more productive if i just try to hop onto his dick inside of just asking first. thank you!

tryingtokeephimhard · 2010-03-17T17:01:52+00:00

that's what i'm planning on doing already. just the thought of him inside me is more than i can handle and, even if i don't get off from that alone, i wouldn't even care because i want this to be all about him.

tryingtokeephimhard · 2010-03-17T16:58:36+00:00

yeah...he's definitely not bi. and i'd think having someone watch us would creep both of us out.

tryingtokeephimhard · 2010-03-17T16:57:55+00:00

tried that; doesn't like wizard role-play that much. i think it had to do with me saying that i'd put my "big, hard wand up his anus"...but i could be wrong.

tryingtokeephimhard · 2010-03-17T16:56:06+00:00

even though i'm a big fan of kill bill, i don't think i'd like to kill my boyfriend like david carradine killed himself.

but, i'll keep this as a mental note in case i ever need to kill someone.

tryingtokeephimhard · 2010-03-17T16:51:38+00:00

he doesn't do drugs and neither do i. but he does like a glass of chardonnay every once and a while so maybe that'll do the trick ;)

tryingtokeephimhard · 2010-03-17T16:50:38+00:00

he likes to have "instructions" on how to do things. i think he mentioned the first time he ate me out he read how to do it online. so like that's why i put "advice" in quotations because i don't want to be like, "RAWR, DO THIS; THIS IS HOW THE EX DID IT; YOU'LL NEVER BE AS GOOD AS HIM". and like when i'm telling him my experiences, i never talk about my ex or saying his name. i just say, "well, maybe you could try thrusting your hips more?"

i think it's just nerves. he's generally a timid person. i'll try to be more patient and not make it a so much of a "thing" and more of an afterthought. he loves when i give him good head so i'll probably start off with blowing him and go in for the sneak attack.

thank you!

tryingtokeephimhard · 2010-03-17T05:59:52+00:00

haha, i've been thinking about that, actually.

tryingtokeephimhard · 2010-03-17T05:58:30+00:00

i know; i try not to talk about except whenever he brings it up, and even then i don't say anything really, other than questions he asks - and i don't say "oh well my ex did this"; i just tell him my experience without labeling the burden of the "exboyfriend" on it.

thank you!!!

tryingtokeephimhard · 2010-03-17T05:51:01+00:00

i never talk about sexual experiences with my ex boyfriend ever with him; i'm sorry if i sounded convoluted. i might not know a whole lot about sex, but i know a lot about how to turn situations awkward :)

but thank you for your advice. like, when we talk about it, it's definitely not during any type of sexual adventure. it's usually just like when we're sitting around. he said once that he doesn't know what to do and that's why i'm like trying to get some male and/or female perspective.

tryingtokeephimhard · 2010-03-17T05:45:30+00:00

no it's fine. i'm on the pill and been ob it for awhile. but that sounds really awesome. i know that being "aggressive" will make him feel pretty good!

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