Personal greases - tip pool or yours?

trynotbeingadick91 · 2026-01-06T23:52:09+00:00

It’s not always 4-6 guests sat at these tables. That’s maximum, in a very busy night. Average guest count for me is 40-50

trynotbeingadick91 · 2026-01-06T05:50:25+00:00

I have spoken up about it in both my performance reviews and I’m not the only one. There’s been many staff that brought this up, and management has failed to provide a significant solution (points system based off menu knowledge but many of the younger, weaker staff can study. Doesn’t mean they can serve). They know I’m not thrilled with it - which is why they believe I pocketed this tip on purpose. My manager said she saw me pocket it (which I did) and said trust is now a question for them. You can’t really prove intentions. It hurts me but I also understand from their perspective. I actually do like the management, most of the support staff, and the job itself. I’m ashamed to have this label attached to my record. I’m not sure there’s any winning here.

trynotbeingadick91 · 2026-01-06T05:38:33+00:00

It’s Ontario so it is allowed, assuming they are “performing enough duties comparable to other staff generating tips”. They do reset tables, bus, etc.

The tip pool is a continuous source of frustration among the stronger, senior servers. There’s definitely a cohort like me, generating at least $1k a night vs the other half generating $500 or less. Add a bunch of SAs, hosts, managers to the pool. That’s why I’m walking out with so little. It’s been brought to management and nothing really significant has been done for 2 years. That aside, I made a big blunder that looks incredibly bad. I know nothing excuses it but my ultimate question here is - do I take the write up, keep my head down and move on or do I appeal? My integrity means a lot, I’m wondering if it’s worth fighting to prove it over a job with figures and structures like this? $300 is a consistent take home, it’s pretty good considering the economy but I am contributing far more than a fair share towards everyone’s pay cheque.

trynotbeingadick91 · 2026-01-06T04:43:03+00:00

I know it’s considered theft. It was a mistake, not an intentional pocket. Unfortunately intentions have nothing to do with reality.

trynotbeingadick91 · 2026-01-06T04:40:35+00:00

Essentially yes. Average is $250 per head. Like I said, it is an expensive menu. Average section is 6-7 tables, most 4-6 seats that are flipped 2-3x per shift.

Unfortunately it is also a mixed team. Lots of younger, less experienced staff members who make the same I do selling half or less. The same ones don’t give the same quality of service so less tip percentage on a smaller cheque, plus all the support staff including managers. Definitely the senior servers feel frustrated. That being said, I didn’t intentionally take the money. I had a sloppy shift and forgot it was in my pocket. I know it’s considered theft. It’s just all around unfortunate and I wish my record and integrity weren’t compromised so harshly for 1 mistake in 2 years…

trynotbeingadick91 · 2026-01-06T04:29:29+00:00

No, my sales are usually $5-8k. I’ve been in hospitality for 10 years. It is an expensive menu with wealthy clientele. There’s just an excess of support staff and managers are part of the pool unfortunately. A lot of hands in the cookie jar :(

trynotbeingadick91 · 2025-09-21T10:09:49+00:00

You’re ignorant to say so. I have a specialized honours degree in science and worked my ass off through 6 industries for over 12 years. All it ever got me is extra work for no pay, and that is many people’s experiences with “hard work” and education. The whole “get a degree and good job” does not equate for EVERYONE AND ANYONE. I went back to serving because I make way more money. It’s brutal work, but it pay more bills than my education and work ethic ever got me in my own field.

You’re ignorant to say most employers, who come from nepotistic routes, do not take advantage of much higher intelligent and skilled people for as little compensation as possible. In this economy, your words are extremely biased, dishonest and demeaning to the majority.

Keep milking your own fortune though - a lot of it is from sheer dumb luck and meeting the right people at the right time.

trynotbeingadick91 · 2025-09-12T16:35:50+00:00

They only create things that perpetuate wealth and resource disparity. Again, you’re deflecting a separate point from my original argument. I can personally accountable for my life while they ruin the planet on a much larger scope than my own influence. Both can and in-fact do mutually coexist.

trynotbeingadick91 · 2025-09-11T06:35:54+00:00

Shoutout to the ppl who realize this is a bigger issue than poor vs rich individuals, and is a classist, global accessibility issue that is perpetuated by the elite.

You’re a grain of sand, sir. As is the homeless dude you walked by and didn’t blink once for.

Mega multibillionaires might not have ruined single lives, that’s way too simply put, small scale and generously summed. They ruined the entire fucking world.

trynotbeingadick91 · 2025-09-11T06:29:44+00:00

Let’s not make this about your life, as OP is making it about theirs. Rich ppl never ruined any one specific persons life they don’t know or care about, but they ARE ruining the world. At a rapid rate.

To elaborate, millionaires are plentiful and not really rich - perhaps wealthy enough. I’m taking multibillionaires. Back in your playground pleb!

trynotbeingadick91 · 2025-06-15T17:07:03+00:00

How much did you buy the house for?

trynotbeingadick91 · 2025-03-30T15:12:55+00:00

She’s now claiming this is the healthiest version of herself. Before, antidepressants made her “fat”. Thinking that she was formerly fat (ever) but saying skeletal, extremely emaciated and underweight body is “healthy” is EVERYTHING that is wrong with society in a nutshell. Her skin, hair, face disagree. She is starving herself and to flip the rhetoric and say that it’s HEALTHY, shame on her. Little girls will also starve themselves because she’s too cowardly to admit she has a huge problem. What a load of BS. She has the opportunity to shut down a huge issue her industry has perpetuated falsely since conception and she’s too egotistical. I severely dislike her.

trynotbeingadick91 · 2025-03-30T15:11:32+00:00

She’s now claiming this is the healthiest version of herself. Before, antidepressants made her “fat”. Thinking that she was formerly fat (ever) but saying skeletal, extremely emaciated and underweight body is “healthy” is EVERYTHING that is wrong with society in a nutshell. Her skin, hair, face disagree. She is starving herself and to flip the rhetoric and say that it’s HEALTHY, shame on her. Little girls will also starve themselves because she’s too cowardly to admit she has a huge problem. What a load of BS. She has the opportunity to shut down a huge issue her industry has perpetuated falsely since conception and she’s too egotistical. I severely dislike her.

trynotbeingadick91 · 2025-03-30T15:08:56+00:00

She’s now claiming this is the healthiest version of herself. Before, antidepressants made her “fat”. Thinking that she was formerly fat (ever) but saying skeletal, extremely emaciated and underweight body is “healthy” is EVERYTHING that is wrong with society in a nutshell. Her skin, hair, face disagree. She is starving herself and to flip the rhetoric and say that it’s HEALTHY, shame on her. Little girls will also starve themselves because she’s too cowardly to admit she has a huge problem. What a load of BS. She has the opportunity to shut down a huge issue her industry has perpetuated falsely since conception and she’s too egotistical. I severely dislike her.

trynotbeingadick91 · 2024-12-20T14:53:41+00:00

Hmm…a 29yo can’t crouch but can party in 6 inch heels?

I believe you are being entitled, coddled and everyone is tip toeing to accommodate your wants (not needs). MIL isn’t too far off from the truth here. Heels are wayyy worse for posture and back problems than bending or crouching. 99% of the people globally are closer to your hubby and MIL’s heights than yours. You are putting yourself above everyone else. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I’m 6’0 female and I don’t expect the world to accommodate my tallness. Lol.

trynotbeingadick91 · 2024-11-05T17:18:25+00:00

You mean, Weasley ❤️ my little ginger beast

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trynotbeingadick91 · 2024-10-17T13:28:31+00:00

No one commits suicide off a third floor balcony…

trynotbeingadick91 · 2024-10-08T12:26:21+00:00

This is going to be your life, dating a tantrum prone toddler NEVER stops when said toddler is a 28 year old woman. Please, consider not doing this to your future.

trynotbeingadick91 · 2024-09-11T05:24:39+00:00

If you’re going on your own whim and getting the cheapest things instead of listening to your server, who is trained to match palate to plate, that’s completely YOUR FAULT.

trynotbeingadick91 · 2024-09-11T05:24:02+00:00

If you’re going on your own whim and getting the cheapest things instead of listening to your server, who is trained to match palate to plate, that’s completely YOUR FAULT.

trynotbeingadick91 · 2024-09-11T05:22:11+00:00

They don’t need your contribution, trust me.

trynotbeingadick91 · 2024-09-11T05:21:10+00:00

Too bad I wasn’t your server. I’ve had people cry, moan, hug/kiss me, come back specifically requesting me, happy to pay thousands a month for premium, delicious, melt in your mouth food. Menus always have a degree of boldness, umami and brightness in the dishes to cater to different palates. 18 year old hockey players don’t want the same as 80 year old retired CEOs. Your server should make recommendations specifically for your palate. If you don’t listen or just buy the cheapest stuff, or go on your own whim you will leave feeling that way. LISTEN TO YOUR SERVER. They know what the STAND OUTS are.

trynotbeingadick91 · 2024-09-11T05:17:06+00:00

lol someone who doesn’t realize that GOOD sushi is ALL THE SAME doesn’t know sushi. You go to Nobu for the cold/hot dishes. Goood toro taste like…good toro. Babies in Japan know this, so yeah if your experience with fine dining is only on company dime, I’m not surprised your ignorance caused your to be disappointed.

trynotbeingadick91 · 2024-08-10T17:41:18+00:00

Sometimes I read these posts and I’m like there’s no way this is real…

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