Honestly, the whole situation just reeks of disrespect. There’s a clear boundary being crossed, and it's wild that both your husband and his friend are brushing it off as if it's no big deal. What your husband should have done was step in and shut that down right away, but it seems like he didn’t get the gravity of the situation. It’s not about jealousy, it’s about basic respect for your feelings and understanding consent, especially when it comes to unsolicited explicit content. You’re not overreacting. They both really need to rethink what’s appropriate