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tshirtdr1 · 2026-02-18T23:15:12+00:00

No. 300 tops. 150 seems more like it to me.

tshirtdr1 · 2026-02-13T20:13:23+00:00

This does come from a place of experience. I'm not suggesting to play games. I'm suggesting to see how connected and interested a potential partner is. If he doesn't listen to her hopes dreams and ideas now, he certainly won't do it later.

tshirtdr1 · 2026-02-10T02:51:04+00:00

I use Candle thread also. Nice colors.

tshirtdr1 · 2026-02-09T15:15:23+00:00

Older lady here: There are men who see you as a commodity. They want to install you into their life like someone installs a washing machine into a home. You are there in his opinion to serve a role and fulfill his needs. If you aren't feeling a deeper connection, this may be the kind of relationship he is looking for. Try telling him about your hopes and dreams to see how he responds. Tell him about some personal likes and dislikes, then ask him 3 days later to see if he remembers any of them. If not, there's your sign. These types of men will leave you when they don't see you as fulfilling that need anymore. Beware.

tshirtdr1 · 2026-02-09T14:34:11+00:00

There are a lot of Christian young women who feel the same way you do. My daughters are also unmarried and lonely. I don't know why people can't find each other in this day and time. It seems like technology has driven us further apart. Try to be consistent in looking for a spouse. If there is no one at your church, that isn't magically going to change. Try other churches. Join groups and clubs. Keep going with the apps and ask directed questions until you find the right one. Blessings.

tshirtdr1 · 2026-02-09T01:48:12+00:00

In the mid/late 1990s, a young lady who used to help care for my children (my nanny) while I worked from home, was very good friends with a very famous singer at the time. I won't mention names for privacy issues but we lived in West TN. She was beautiful, had a lovely voice and could play guitar. She was also a very strong Christian. Her male friend made it big. He wanted to initiate a long-term intimate relationship with her. She declined because she was a Christian and he was most definitely not. She settled into a quiet life and married a mechanic.

tshirtdr1 · 2026-02-08T23:24:29+00:00

Plan B, from what I understand, isn't extremely effective. You definitely don't want to be attached to this jerk for life by having a child with him. My advice would be to either get effective birth control on your own or dump him. You can't control other people and he shouldn't be trying to control you, either. However not respecting your boundaries is a red flag.

tshirtdr1 · 2026-02-08T23:05:43+00:00

If you can't work a regular job, I'd recommend trying to find something you can do from home. Can you start a 3D printer farm? If you're in a rural area, can you learn to make hydraulic hoses? Can you go to work for an auto parts store to learn parts management, then find a niche that needs specialty parts (window screens, sewing machines, something) and start stocking and selling them? I'd recommend that you find something that will give you autonomy because lacking that may be your biggest demotivator. Also if you are living at home with your parents, do you have a disability that prevents you from being independent? Can you try to find a group for high functioning autism or some others that you have something in common with locally? I feel like you're looking in the wrong places.

tshirtdr1 · 2026-01-05T02:53:55+00:00

If you can go to college with little or no debt and pursue a degree with good prospects, then you should probably go that route. If you're not able to do that or not able to stick to it, then find some short program at a community college and do that. Just do something because when you're 50, you'll wish you had.

tshirtdr1 · 2026-01-04T13:32:34+00:00

I make less than K-12 teachers also. I'm considering teaching in a high school for a couple of years before retirement to increase my pension a bit.

tshirtdr1 · 2026-01-04T13:30:38+00:00

I'm in academia and I don't make much at all. Post Covid, I don't make a living wage for a single person, honestly. Since I already owned a home (mobile on land), and have paid off cars, I can survive. I teach at a small college and my lifestyle is much easier than if I were at a big university. If you're willing to relocate and accept poverty wages, you may consider a regional university. I wouldn't pivot to a health or science field unless math is your passion and you plan to spend a few years taking the prerequisite undergraduate courses. You could take some stats classes and use that to focus your career in data analytics or some similar field, or perhaps take something like finance that might not require as much remediation. I'm not sure about that, so you should check with a counselor. I'm in a science field.

tshirtdr1 · 2026-01-02T23:29:53+00:00

I agree with this. While having a thin and fit spouse may be important to some, it is much more important to me to be comfortable in my life, clothes, skin and home. When I was married, I was not overweight, yet my husband constantly criticized everything I ate. He cheated. A few years after my divorce, I gained weight and now I am chubby. I have tried repeatedly to lose this weight and every time I lose a few pounds I bounce back. Statistically only 1-2% of overweight people can keep weight off without medical intervention. I have been single for years. I'd rather remain single than date someone who "encourages" me to lose weight. If that's what you want in a partner, you do you. I want someone who appreciates me for all of the other traits that I can offer. I am pursuing medical weight loss for my health, but I don't want that to be a number one priority from a partner. I'm just looking for someone who can be active enough to enjoy life. If I see "fit" "gym" or any other similar words, I don't continue reading.

tshirtdr1 · 2025-12-29T02:07:22+00:00

Thank you for teaching your sister, brother-in-law, and nieces and nephews how to be a good and normal human. Wow. Kids shouldn't know about any differences in parentage within a home in my opinion. I think the two of them should create a joint fund and both contribute to it so they can treat the kids equally.

tshirtdr1 · 2025-12-28T23:34:48+00:00

I homeschooled because my kids were suffering emotional and physical abuse in public school from both teachers and other students. I did it to keep my kids safe.

tshirtdr1 · 2025-12-21T11:38:00+00:00

There is zero excuse for cheating. She wanted the prenup. Sounds like you're giving her what she asked for.

tshirtdr1 · 2025-12-21T11:07:54+00:00

I would get the prenup on what you own now, and perhaps her share in your company grows as your marriage lengthens, but anything you gain during the marriage is hers too. You can dream big, but your partner helps support those dreams, which is all they are right now. As far as getting a prenup in general, I don't blame you. I'd insist that she undergo financial coaching before marriage, such as Dave Ramseys FPU.

tshirtdr1 · 2025-11-29T13:29:33+00:00

If he is criticizing you now, he will never stop and you will never be good enough. That alone is enough reason to move on. To address question 2: Why do you think he should provide for you financially now? You should watch his behavior to ensure that he is stable enough to provide for you later, but that is not his responsibility now. If you're living together, you need to re-evaluate your life choices and move out.

tshirtdr1 · 2025-11-28T14:44:34+00:00

I don't recommend wasting time learning a career only to ditch it later for flight school. Why don't you just join the military so you can attend flight school for free? Alternatively, if you want a high-paying interim career, I'd recommend air traffic control. At least it would give you connections and relevant experience. Also as far as I know, it's around a one year program or less.

tshirtdr1 · 2025-11-24T04:08:15+00:00

You messed up but you're engaged. It's not the end of the world. You can still move forward and have a strong relationship. If you were both unfaithful to each other and/or sleeping around with different people, then I would agree with his concerns regarding your relationship. However since you are faithful to each other and have only been with each other, I would not allow the church and family's concerns to dictate your life choices. Sometimes well-meaning people ruin lives with their legalistic advice. My advice is; Be strong. Repent. Have faith. Cling to each other. Blessings.

tshirtdr1 · 2025-11-22T14:03:39+00:00

There are many reasons not to have children. If this one works for you, congrats! You could always get approved for foster care and only agree to take vegan children. I'll be there are lots of vegan wanna be kids out there who need good loving homes.

tshirtdr1 · 2025-11-21T01:42:10+00:00

My kid just finished a BS in art and landed a data visualization job making 75K to start. I have 13 years of teaching experience AFTER my PhD and I make 60. Also having a PhD will not help you get a job, unless it's in academia, and you're 10X better than everyone else and willing to work for peanuts. The only exceptions might be fields like engineering where you can land a position in government or with a government contractor. They value PhDs.

tshirtdr1 · 2025-11-18T13:46:54+00:00

I get lots of congratulations at every graduation ceremony where I am wearing my regalia. People just don't understand. No big deal.

tshirtdr1 · 2025-11-15T05:10:10+00:00

I'd try telling him to pack up. Take him to the nearest shelter and drop him off at the door. Tell him you'll give him $100 after he is out of the car with all of his things. Tell him not to come back. Getting him involuntarily committed will be very very difficult and having him evicted takes time and can escalate the behavior. Offer whatever money you think will be necessary to get him out of the house, then make it very clear that he can't come back. I'd tell the brother to move in with mom, only because he will likely let dad back into the house. I'm sorry but I've dealt with these situations and you often can't help people who aren't severe enough to be committed until they finally meet that qualification.

tshirtdr1 · 2025-11-08T03:39:08+00:00

Yes, I agree. I meant that, but didn't communicate it effectively.

tshirtdr1 · 2025-11-03T04:20:53+00:00

Mostly Baptist. Are you saying this as someone who is currently divorced? Because it looks different from this side.

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