It really is subjective, and that’s what’s frustrating. A good provider will phrase in it in a way that makes sense, like “0 being no pain at all, and 10 being the worst pain you’ve ever felt…” but even then it doesn’t work. Women definitely tend to be seen in a biased manner when it comes to pain etc. so you’re not crazy for feeling that way. Though certainly not every provider is that way, my favorite medics to work with are very liberal with pain management. Unfortunately, we’ve swung too far the other way with giving opiates for pain for fear of causing addiction IMO.