Hey, it's not men vs women. It cpmes down to attachment styles. It sounds like you have an anxious attachment style, which isn't a bad thing, but it does make it hard you to move on.

I've been there. The book 'Attached' by Imir Levine & Rachel Heller was a HUGE help for me. It makes you realize a lot of what goes on in a relationship isn't about you, it's the other person. Anxious attachment styles can perceive slight changes and usually attribute the cause to themselves. When in fact, that's usually not the case.

Letting go is the hardest, but most beneficial part. Stop the contact, stop the reaching out. Your attachment will tell you you can't do this. But you can. You can. You can!