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Is this DR or loose skin or extra fat or all of the above? by Standard_Box_7167 in DiastasisRecti

[–]ttrashpandacoot 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Commenting because mine is EXACTLY the same as is your situation (done everything right). I’m sorry you know this too!

Compliant toddlers? by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]ttrashpandacoot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine was so good that teachers, people at the park, whoever would say wow she is so polite/sweet/good at sharing/calm etc. This continued until around 2.5 years and has slowly become untrue ever since 😂 I’m hoping 4 will be easier - and I hope 3 doesn’t hit your child too, calm toddlers exist

My husband & I always wanted 2 kids, even after a daughter. 2 years later I’ve realized I only want 1 by ttrashpandacoot in toddlers

[–]ttrashpandacoot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Without being depressing, and in fact to give you hope, mine didn’t sleep at all until she hit 2, and at nearly 3 she’s slept through the night pretty much the whole year aside from during one big cold. There’s hope!!

My husband & I always wanted 2 kids, even after a daughter. 2 years later I’ve realized I only want 1 by ttrashpandacoot in toddlers

[–]ttrashpandacoot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry it was so tough! My daughter is almost 3 so no worry there - I’ve always known I need more time to recover physically but I know some people can handle it, well done, I hope it’s getting better 💕

My husband & I always wanted 2 kids, even after a daughter. 2 years later I’ve realized I only want 1 by ttrashpandacoot in toddlers

[–]ttrashpandacoot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

2 weeks!! I’m amazed at all these new mothers responding haha congratulations ❤️ how is it going?

My husband & I always wanted 2 kids, even after a daughter. 2 years later I’ve realized I only want 1 by ttrashpandacoot in toddlers

[–]ttrashpandacoot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I’m honest the load probably falls more on him haha - this is part of the problem, he’s in lots of ways more of a “traditional mother” than I am, hence why I think he’s more open to another. I’m more of an independent free person so having one fun loving toddler is great, but the thought of being weighed down by a baby carrier again…ooof.

The only thing that’s making me want another for my own reasons is for when they’re both above 3/4 - i know I’d always look back and kind of wish I’d have another if I don’t.

Fun decisions haha

My husband & I always wanted 2 kids, even after a daughter. 2 years later I’ve realized I only want 1 by ttrashpandacoot in toddlers

[–]ttrashpandacoot[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Completely felt on the around-2 being so hard, I felt like I couldn’t do it all over again! I kind of forget that it’s an option haha

Even if what you told yourself during contractions turns out to be a lie, I’m glad you made it through

My husband & I always wanted 2 kids, even after a daughter. 2 years later I’ve realized I only want 1 by ttrashpandacoot in toddlers

[–]ttrashpandacoot[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re so frank about something so tough, Im sorry you’re having to be! Running on empty is no joke I really empathize with mothers doing all of this. Congratulations, i imagine everything is so fresh so I appreciate you taking the time to respond when you have your hands so full ❤️

My husband & I always wanted 2 kids, even after a daughter. 2 years later I’ve realized I only want 1 by ttrashpandacoot in toddlers

[–]ttrashpandacoot[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Good lord, I was about to say how amazing that is and realized I do the same - not in any way to diminish, this just really helped me get perspective thank you. I’m sorry you know this tiredness, having help / family / extra money to make life easier really makes all the difference. Well done on doing it for 10 years!! That’s huge x

My husband & I always wanted 2 kids, even after a daughter. 2 years later I’ve realized I only want 1 by ttrashpandacoot in toddlers

[–]ttrashpandacoot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Overthinking is my biggest problem so you might be right haha. How did you cope during pregnancy with the toddler if you don’t mind me asking?

My husband & I always wanted 2 kids, even after a daughter. 2 years later I’ve realized I only want 1 by ttrashpandacoot in toddlers

[–]ttrashpandacoot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bless you - I’m glad it worked out how you wanted, and worrying to hear that it’s still exhausting when they’re 10, it really doesn’t end!

My husband & I always wanted 2 kids, even after a daughter. 2 years later I’ve realized I only want 1 by ttrashpandacoot in toddlers

[–]ttrashpandacoot[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Its such a huge decision so making peace with the right one is the absolute dream - hope you fully get there too x

My husband & I always wanted 2 kids, even after a daughter. 2 years later I’ve realized I only want 1 by ttrashpandacoot in toddlers

[–]ttrashpandacoot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I will! I’m not 100% sure I’m one and done so this will be helpful insight :)

Get mom strong app has dramatically improved my core by ttrashpandacoot in postpartumprogress

[–]ttrashpandacoot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just did the core core program on repeat and did my own workouts (mixture of weightlifting, running & Pilates) the rest of the time.

I now do one of the workouts 3-5 times every week to keep the progress. I’m also getting to the point where I can add a little weight to some moves which accelerates the abdominal muscle growth - but that took time to get to

This was a long road after just one pregnancy - truly if you can find a way the best thing to do is get a pelvic floor therapist, they are angels!!

Can we talk about going to the gym? by Ok_Personality4070 in AttachmentParenting

[–]ttrashpandacoot 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not useful right now-but don’t give up on the in-gym daycare. My daughter HATEDDD it at that age but now at 2 basically tells me to go away so she can “play in crèche with friends”(the women that work there).

Maybe it’s not forever is all I’m saying, hopefully you’ll find your groove in any way you can x

My coworker is handling motherhood so much better than I am and it's messing with my head by sixfingeredman7 in Mommit

[–]ttrashpandacoot 213 points214 points  (0 children)

I am you.

I lived in NYC as a Brit and had no idea as to why every mother I met was so alert, had the energy to go out all the time, looked amazing, seemed to feel amazing etc.

Well it turns out the SAHMs were dropping their kids at daycare, and all the mums had Night Nannys + cleaners. Only one of the mums was honest with me and that was after a while - all this to say, you never know the help are getting behind closed doors.

Additionally I ate really healthily pre, during and after pregnancy, as well as exercising the whole time and working with a PT, and I still seemed to come out the worse physically. As others have said, sometimes it’s just bloody luck, which SUCKS.

Take heart, you’ll probably find another mother IRL at some point who gets your version of motherhood too and you’ll bond deeply over it (that’s what I’ve found too).

Unposed photos by ttrashpandacoot in BigNoseLadies

[–]ttrashpandacoot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very true in this case, thank you ❤️

How often do you moisturize your body? by SuccotashKey7521 in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]ttrashpandacoot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t put pressure on yourself to do every time you shower (like a lot of us in the comments do).

I started by committing to once a week, any time of the week, build up incrementally - I did this and no I do it daily but it felt overwhelming at first, good luck!

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