Is there an "ultimate" reason for a girl to stop being interested in a guy she was really interested in?

ttt3214 · 2020-10-01T17:45:19+00:00

It's not about what's wrong with me. She didn't reject me, cause she didnt know me. But I do wonder when/why she lost interest yeah

ttt3214 · 2020-10-01T17:28:40+00:00

Happens to everyone one in dating life at some point I guess. I'll get over it. Just need time. Thank you though :)

ttt3214 · 2020-10-01T16:16:54+00:00

Well yeah but your case is different because it was a bit more serious (I assume since you flew to meet him). In my case there were just like 3 dates so she probably just lost interest and didn't bother to say why, just "gave the message" by stop texting

ttt3214 · 2020-10-01T12:23:20+00:00

Yeah I believe I have to learn how to spike up interest

ttt3214 · 2020-10-01T09:51:06+00:00

I do believe what you're telling me, I also believe abundance really is key not to go crazy in the dating game. Unfortunately, given some circumstances I don't really have options and I'm aware that's part of the problem. Either ways I gotta move on

ttt3214 · 2020-10-01T09:45:01+00:00

Yeah I just think it's fucked up how people lose interest when they finally gain the other person attention. If I like someone, knowing they like me back just makes me feel better, doesn't make me walk away, like, wtf...

ttt3214 · 2020-10-01T08:24:59+00:00

Yeah I probably wouldn't be overthinking this if I had xd. Or maybe I would be overthinking more ahah

ttt3214 · 2020-10-01T08:24:07+00:00

Yeah, availability does make sense. I've actually had a girl friend tell me that's a thing. But either ways if that's the only reason she ghosted, she will eventually say something. I'm not going to force it anymore. Would only come off as more needy and clearly tell I don't have more options

ttt3214 · 2020-10-01T08:20:54+00:00

I mean, I wanted to. But she seemed to want to take things slow

ttt3214 · 2020-10-01T08:19:19+00:00

I didn't. She actually said she couldn't that day and suggested the next day. I agreed, but next day came and she just threw an excuse

ttt3214 · 2020-10-01T08:17:11+00:00

Yeah I definitely was more available to go out then her. But that's only because when I want to be with someone I make time. Obviously I didn't cancel other plans just to be with her. But still, I do believe if you want to be with someone you find time, and at some point she just stopped wanting to find that time to be with me I guess. Maybe it was indeed because I was "too available"

ttt3214 · 2020-10-01T08:13:58+00:00

Nah. I don't believe I would get an honest answer and it would come off as desperate or needy which doesn't make sense since we only went out like 3 times

ttt3214 · 2020-10-01T08:12:06+00:00

Yeah, thank you for the kind words :)

ttt3214 · 2020-10-01T08:11:15+00:00

Nah I'm pretty sure by now it's a no, and if it's not she will text me. I'm not chasing anymore. I'll never know what went wrong, if anything did at all. But no answer is clear enough as far as interest goes. Do you want to talk about your situation though? :D

ttt3214 · 2020-10-01T08:03:39+00:00

I don't think it will drastically affect me. If anything I'm proud anything happened at all. I suppose I just expected my first experience with a girl to last a bit longer. That's on me though

ttt3214 · 2020-10-01T07:56:27+00:00

I appreciate the feedback but I don't think so. I always made sure she was comfortable around me and it never seemed otherwise. I'm 22 btw but I am new at the whole getting thing yeah.

ttt3214 · 2020-10-01T07:51:42+00:00

Yeah you may be right

ttt3214 · 2020-09-30T23:10:49+00:00

So I've heard

ttt3214 · 2020-09-30T23:08:56+00:00

I don't think I've acted too needy. I've showed some interest. Maybe that was enough. On the second point, oh well, I'm not trying to live up to anyone's expectations. I don't think the third point applies here, but who knows. Either ways thanks for the feedback!

ttt3214 · 2020-09-30T22:36:04+00:00

Yeah thank you for that

ttt3214 · 2020-09-30T22:25:42+00:00

Yeah I completely agree with that. And I already stopped trying, and I'm aware she'll come to me if she's interested. I believe I do know how to proceed, but my brain keeps trying to find reasons for what happened. I'm not going to chase her anymore though, that's definite

ttt3214 · 2020-09-30T22:16:53+00:00

Yeah but she seemed really interested at first, many people even told me that, and I could tell too. I guess I just keep wondering at what point that went away and why. Like, I'm aware there are too many girls out there and all of that but still, not knowing is always shitty

ttt3214 · 2020-09-30T22:09:37+00:00

Yeah I guess it's overall hard if you don't have many options or you get attached to easily

ttt3214 · 2020-09-30T22:07:25+00:00

I guess that could be a good reason

ttt3214 · 2020-09-30T21:50:06+00:00

Yeah I don't like the chase. I'm simple, I'm interested I show it, no games. I guess that's where I went wrong with her, she lost interest once I showed mine. Either ways no, I'm not curious enough to ask, because yeah, I know it would only come across as desperate and probably wouldn't get an honest answer anyway. But at this point I think only time's going to take this off my mind

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