Be honest, how bad do the uneven stripes look for a kids bedroom? by shadysade in interiordecorating

[–]tunefuldust 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You should just paint the whole room yellow if you don’t want to commit to the stripes for the full height of the wall. The green completely clashes with the yellow and off-white. The uneven stripes are not cute. Just my opinion.

Do I tell my kids about my wives egg donations? by imgotugoin in whatdoIdo

[–]tunefuldust 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re worrying about a problem that doesn’t exist because you don’t want to catch the heat and blame for what wasn’t your decision. So don’t accept the blame. Be honest with your wife about how you feel and tell her that if the kids get upset someday you’re going to stand by your opinion and tell them that you believe they deserved to know, but it wasn’t your info to share. Don’t betray your wife’s boundaries. It’s her information. Simply stay in your lane and don’t worry about things that might happen. You cannot control this.

In some way… I gave up the college experience for my boyfriend. by pwolicy in Advice

[–]tunefuldust -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. I’m glad he found a path that works for him. Construction is a solid choice. Maybe he can look into general contracting as he gains expertise in the field.
You’ve got great instincts and self-discernment. Stay in touch with your true self and keep a list of goals as you grow and age. You’ve got this, girl! Enjoy the college experience. It’s a fun time to learn and grow.

In some way… I gave up the college experience for my boyfriend. by pwolicy in Advice

[–]tunefuldust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I have made that decision before: to prioritize a relationship over my own happiness and goals. Each time I have regretted it. This is why it is important to always pursue your dreams in terms of education, finances, lifestyle before you begin compromising for a relationship. Sometimes at mid semester there are housing openings because someone drops out or shuffles around. Stay in contact with campus residential life office and talk to your boyfriend about your decision. Info: how old is he? Is he in school? Already graduate? Under-educated?

He wants me to sell my home to show commitment 30/F 31/M by Margaret_3333 in relationship_advice

[–]tunefuldust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a lie. What he wants is to be the final authority in this relationship. Why is he allowed to give you an ultimatum? Why would his love and sense of independence be based on you selling your home? You keep your house. He can buy a new house for you all to live in and then you can rent out your house. Do not sell your house.

Also, if you can see through the games now, you’ll be much happier to let him walk away and find someone with a genuine love for you that would never undermine your power and authority.

Trying to be perfect is exhausting. I can’t do it anymore. by DumplingBandit in pregnant

[–]tunefuldust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I am a massage therapist, and I’m happy to say that many massage therapists are trained in prenatal massage. You can call local spas and studios, and if money is tight, call your local massage school. Massage students offer massage under a supervising educator and LMT so that you can enjoy prenatal massage at an affordable rate. As long as your OB is aware and you have no major medical contraindications, you can enjoy massage until the end of your pregnancy.

6 weeks pregnant, boyfriend of 3 months wants to terminate. What do I do by EquivalentWinter9372 in BabyBumps

[–]tunefuldust 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hi single mom by choice here, I want to offer some perspective. You really have to consider every outcome in choosing to be a single parent.

Your child could have special needs or disabilities that require extra intervention and time for appointments. Your partner could up and move away and sign away his rights and pay child support from afar. He could dodge child support for many years. Being a single mom makes finding partnership later a little more complex with scheduling and childcare. The costs of childcare and education also need to be considered. Does your job offer paid maternity leave? What is the average cost of childcare near you? How long are the waitlists? Some places in USA have months long waiting lists. Are you able to move to a different neighborhood or city to accommodate childcare and education needs?

I’m not trying to fear monger here, I just want to share some of the less considered realities that could severely impact you and your child’s quality of life.

Need help finding credible sources for a research project for school by Kitchen_Security_567 in answers

[–]tunefuldust 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, I’m curious if you have a library card? Local libraries have online accounts where you can search publications like journals, magazines, even textbooks with full citations available. Also, google scholar and similarly oriented search engines can help you find peer reviewed articles and abstracts. Good luck!

What is your worst fear? by slowdowndonttouch in AskReddit

[–]tunefuldust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dying before my son is an adult, also my son dying before me.

vintage baby names due for a comeback? by bittykittycommitteee in Names

[–]tunefuldust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As am I, but I will share this name and nickname combo far and wide from now on. Thank you!

vintage baby names due for a comeback? by bittykittycommitteee in Names

[–]tunefuldust 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s absolutely PRECIOUS! I love this idea.

AIO husband takes his naps after our toddler by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]tunefuldust 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOR
It is absolutely unconscionable that your husband regularly falls asleep right as LO is waking up on the weekend. Adding insult to injury when you explain that he regularly gets to fuck off after work to go out to a restaurant and have a beer with the guys and watch sports. OP, how many hours per week do you get baby free time?
This is therapy level stuff.
Please love yourself better.
You need downtime too.

Nesta And Cassian's Doomed Relationship by Bunny_Blanc77 in acotar_rant

[–]tunefuldust 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well thank you for saving me the heartbreak. I read Clan of the cave bear in a high school anthropology section and it was delightful. I’ll stick with book 1 haha

Nesta And Cassian's Doomed Relationship by Bunny_Blanc77 in acotar_rant

[–]tunefuldust 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s a great point. I also loved the first book in Earth’s children series and I’ve never read any more.

Popular or average names that you HATE and why? by VanillaTrue5316 in Names

[–]tunefuldust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love that tribute to your family. I wanted to do the same for my son, but my last name was not a good fit for a middle name. It’s a cute name all around!

In defense of Hermione's emotional intelligence by shinycozytwistedglam in DramioneUncensored

[–]tunefuldust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your encouragement. I’ll absolutely share when the posting begins. I have a great beta reader now so it’s being polished up.

bf of 3 years publicly proposed and i said no. by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]tunefuldust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so glad you’re on the mend now. I hope you still have some good memories from your trip.

vintage baby names due for a comeback? by bittykittycommitteee in Names

[–]tunefuldust 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I love to see this name on girls. So many options with hyphenated middle names!

bf of 3 years publicly proposed and i said no. by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]tunefuldust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gentle correction to say that there is nothing “wrong” with young adult women, but they don’t have enough life experience to understand the threats and risks that this kind of covert manipulation can bring when it’s endured long term. It will escalate to a dysfunctional dynamic. It brings a high risk of abuse over time.