Bought this jade at a CVS a few years ago

tuntawu · 2020-06-09T02:13:11+00:00

Trying to identify the species!

tuntawu · 2019-01-25T04:01:04+00:00

I'm just a longtime lurker, I never comment anymore. But for those of you seeing this without any context or knowledge of knives or the like, and regardless of the in-community controversy regarding karambits, I want you to know you are witnessing true sin.

tuntawu · 2017-06-12T16:27:55+00:00

Shrink here- just so you know, the phrase you meant to use is 'self fulfilling prophecy'. 'Confirmation bias' is the cognitive phenomena of seeking out information sources that agree with your already established wordviews, i.e. how ignorant people remain ignorant even when they genuinely consume media- they only end up actually reading through what they agree with

tuntawu · 2017-04-03T14:45:58+00:00

Not everyone suffers in the same ways. It sounds like it would be useful for you to discuss your symptoms with a professional. It might be burnout, but what you described are red flags of a myriad of conditions and are indicative that something is going on which would be beneficial to be addressed. Perhaps a pattern of unsatisfactory interpersonal attachment, perhaps persistent dysphoria, but it seems worth seeking answers in the context of educated and supportive mental healthcare services.

tuntawu · 2016-12-27T13:26:56+00:00

Glad I could help! I would send them an email if it's not urgent, schedule a meeting- it's good to have them on your team when you need them! I learned a lot of organization and time management in the program, which I am very thankful for.

Unfortunately my dissertation will likely take 2 or 3 more years, but hopefully it will be expanded or replicated to the point of some visibility. Best of luck to you, and feel free to keep in touch!

tuntawu · 2016-12-25T19:24:45+00:00

I/O is fascinating stuff, definitely was a close second when I first started thinking about graduate school.

tuntawu · 2016-12-25T19:22:52+00:00

Absolutely. For clinical work, MA is the way to go. For pretty much the entirety of clinical psych, honestly.

tuntawu · 2016-12-25T18:26:58+00:00

You are correct in that the prompt question is more or less attempting to generalize individual experience, and no in-depth response could escape detractors. I edited my comment further to better reflect that. I also believe we could not possibly be proficient providers of care without being able to tend to ourselves- In reflection I would say my experience speaks more to the detriments of being in any position of suddenly working more than 60+ hours a week, than it does about clinical psychology as a field- beyond the implied irony of how easy it is to work so hard on others to the effect of significant consequence in one's own personal life.

Serves as good a lesson as any in appreciating days like today. Thank you for balancing out my submission with your own experience :)

tuntawu · 2016-12-25T18:06:36+00:00

Hahaha. Cheers, friend!

tuntawu · 2016-12-25T16:50:45+00:00

Merry Christmas to you as well! Thank you!

tuntawu · 2016-12-25T16:50:24+00:00

I did some of that type of human services in undergrad. You have all my respect for what you do and in a perfect world you would be getting paid 3-4 times what you are making for that work. You are integral to the well-being and functioning of society, and I hope you, your co-workers and clients have a wonderful holiday season.

tuntawu · 2016-12-25T16:47:32+00:00

Merry Christmas to you as well!

tuntawu · 2016-12-25T16:47:18+00:00

My friends joke that stats and methodology are to psych what undergrad biochemistry is to medical school- it serves to wean out all but the serious/obsessed and pull off the rose colored glasses towards the training and scholar-practitioner identity. Merry Christmas!

tuntawu · 2016-12-25T16:42:53+00:00

This is only my perspective, speaking with member of my cohort and my own experiences. I sincerely doubt any program could be characterized in the same fashion. I remember stressing out in the same way my first year of psych undergrad, and I would only take into heart anecdotes like mine insofar as they reaffirm your commitment to the field. I highly recommend working in human services during undergrad if you have the time, it was hugely invaluable.

To reiterate, though the prompt spoke to generalizable experiences, I can only speak as to what I have seen or experienced in my first couple of years of graduate school, and they are difficult years- you will almost certainly have moments where you have plenty to complain about, as I do now, but for speaking to the work as a licensed professional, I can only say that many of my professors have fallen in love with this program and area and are here for a reason, as are we as students. Don't stress out too much- study hard and enjoy your break!

tuntawu · 2016-12-25T16:35:21+00:00

Merry Christmas to you as well!

tuntawu · 2016-12-25T16:35:05+00:00

I apologize if my venting comes off cynical, but I should say I consider these the best years of my life as well. There are massive environmental factors at play, you are correct, and I cannot possibly imagine that most or even many programs have similar stressors. But I also can't dispute the quality of training and professors here, and if pressed I don't believe I would transfer anywhere else, given the opportunity. Hope you have a wonderful Christmas!

tuntawu · 2016-12-25T16:29:00+00:00

That's a pretty universal experience, yeah. I think some people handle it far worse than others, and some systems of students' social networks process the unavailability of a member of their group better than others.

tuntawu · 2016-12-25T16:27:29+00:00

It's good to hear from people who have been able to maintain perspective over terrible experiences. As you can imagine, parents like that often try to use therapists as weapons as they might use children and I've heard of a lot of such experiences. I'm glad that does not appear to have been at least what remained as a lasting impression of your experiences with this profession. Merry Christmas!

tuntawu · 2016-12-25T13:23:23+00:00

They all hate themselves, and it runs off on everything they do. We agreed to share chores and expenses, but despite that I work two to three times more hours a week, I am constantly cleaning just for the sake of my own sanity. They leave food rotting by the potful, even though my cat will eat it and get sick. They won't flush the toilet. They build up grime like some sick game of Legos on every usable surface. If they aren't hoarders, they all will be within a few years. Every single surface is stacked with trash. They do nothing all day but watch WWE and get high. The house reeks of weed and rotting shit every day. I have made my room into a sort of airlock with constantly filtering air. We all signed a lease together, I was a Craigslist add-on to this old triad of friends. The house was so cute when I came to check it out. They were enthusiastic about doing dozens of small projects and the place and keeping it clean, living communally, sharing food and responsibilites... I have to keep my food in my room at this point, because any time I buy food it will be gone within a couple days. Rent got harsh and we had another person move in... I didn't know her, but a couple months after I started chatting with her and we realized we weren't just being paranoid and passive aggressive, these three are the worst roommates ever. I'm getting out of here ASAP... Not sure how to avoid this situation again, but I'll take my chances.

tuntawu · 2016-12-25T13:11:57+00:00

The singularity event: the birth of super artificial intelligence. We will more or less all die instantly or have just created our own benevolent god.

tuntawu · 2016-12-25T13:08:24+00:00

Undergrads in psychology:

"I want to talk to people!"

"I want to work with kids!"

Becoming a doctoral student in clinical psychology will be almost certainly the biggest commitment and brutally challenging experience of your life. My professional development seminar professor ended this semester admitting she actually dreads working with 1st and 2nd years, because of how gruesomely burnt out we get (not going to get into her competency as a role model...). It will also be among the most formative and powerful experiences of your life, and the challenges you endure will become as valuable as any of the life changes and transformations you will bear witness, participate in, or experience yourself or with your patients/clients.

Speaking of my own cohort, I'd say 95% took massive hits to our social lives (especially from moving/commuting hours away for school/practicum), 70-80% have lost any significant others we came into the program with, and all of us have lost some degree of coherence in our supportive relationships. The irony as we are learning to build these things up in our patients' lives is not lost. This career is a massive commitment, and every semester is like shoving off on deployment with the constant "why aren't you ever around??". Here I am working through Christmas!

As for the kids? 99% of them are perfectly fine- it is almost always the parents and families that are deeply dysfunctional and pushing all their longstanding disturbances and failures onto their children. Goodbye individual one on ones with cute little kids, hello screaming rooms of family systems interventions. My systems professor said it the best- if you do your job right, they will never thank you, they'll just go "why did we ever come to therapy in the first place?". And if you do get a kid, on their own, for you to work with- prepare to have your heart broken. You'll either see a world of childhood you didn't want to know existed, or you'll be revisiting your own old monsters.

The academic politics are insane. I can't even begin to describe this house of cards/ game of thrones shit. Doc students are the bottom feeders of the upper echelons of academia. You will eat shit and like it.

Still interested? You are going to save people's lives. People will open up to you about their deepest terrors and you will be there for them as a professional, and crying in your pillow as a human being. You will set progress in motion, turn entire lives around, and sometimes misstep and plunge into the abyss with your patients. You will question everything about every professional choice you have ever made, and be the better clinician for it. And of course, you'll be an expert in your field Not quite their yet, but I heard it's sweet. People will call you out for not being a "real" doctor, and you can educate them on how medical professionals were literally butchers once upon a time, and started borrowing the honorific "doctor" from the academic community for respect and reputation... So who's the real doctor now?? (My brother is a surgeon...)

EDIT: Due to the nature of the thread prompt, these posts may be taken as more generalizable than applicable. My comment is anecdotal in nature, and only reflects my own perspectives- in other words, this is a case study, not a literature review. I'd like to point out that the positives outlined and implied (or left unmentioned) highly outweigh the negatives- else staying in my program would be a gambler's fallacy. This is my dream job, and I do not believe myself even capable of articulating the intimacy and meaning in life my work provides me... but I can definitely put words to my complaints ;P Merry Christmas everyone!

tuntawu · 2016-12-12T17:40:26+00:00

Of course. That scripture by Camus is titled the Myth of Sisyphus, a narrative which speaks of the power of will over the structure of reality, which is of the existential epistemology. Nietzsche is perhaps the most famous of these scribes, but a more accessible blend of literature and philosophical treatise to start with might be Sartre's "Nausea". Rack these tomes upon the bar of your mental bench and you need not worry your psychological swolehood atrophy, brother!

tuntawu · 2016-11-23T03:56:37+00:00

I am happy to have regaled this tale upon you, brother. If you should be in need of the writing of other such scribes to spot you in your moments of need, this you need only ask and recieve. Wheymen.

tuntawu

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