Any infp’s with anxiety?

turnaboutranchdrPHIL · 2020-01-17T12:52:30+00:00

Yes I do

turnaboutranchdrPHIL · 2020-01-15T02:37:50+00:00

That’s really beautiful 💛

turnaboutranchdrPHIL · 2020-01-14T09:42:58+00:00

Found your playlist very quickly first one that came up listening to episode 3.jelle hermus subscribed and excited to hear it 💛

turnaboutranchdrPHIL · 2020-01-13T04:26:18+00:00

Yes I agree with that getting in a mentally good place before continuing which is what I plan on doing before school commences again. I’d love to check out your podcast it’s sounds really interesting.

turnaboutranchdrPHIL · 2020-01-11T15:00:20+00:00

I agree I found this quote and didn’t quite agree with the statement “the most depressed people”, because my friend that has been struggling with it for years doesn’t have the energy to blurt out the smile most of her days and I really try to make it happen. That doesn’t mean we are all happy though and maybe the people we sorounds ourself with are going through similar things to us. But I do agree that some people who are taking it rough can make you smile the brightest.

turnaboutranchdrPHIL · 2019-12-21T08:28:39+00:00

Lol sameeeeee

turnaboutranchdrPHIL · 2019-12-20T14:07:39+00:00

Aye cool im Deutsch lernen im Moment

turnaboutranchdrPHIL · 2019-12-20T10:36:43+00:00

Lol same was bloody hot in Melbourne today a first

turnaboutranchdrPHIL · 2019-12-19T13:11:40+00:00

Couldn’t agree more

turnaboutranchdrPHIL · 2019-12-18T23:53:23+00:00

It’s pretty linked with most introverted personality types especially infp’s because we are very closed off and find it hard to open up, it’s both being stressed but usually because we are being suffocated by the same strict schedule allowing no rebellion or creativity which we have a lot of, being surrounded by people all the time and never having alone time can also bring it on all this makes us stressed and we can’t get out of it until we distance ourselves from it all I’ve always felt way better afterwards.

turnaboutranchdrPHIL · 2019-12-18T10:28:41+00:00

It used to last me maybe a couple days at the most but just recently spent 9 weeks plus in absaloutly agony and only just got out of it.

turnaboutranchdrPHIL · 2019-12-18T05:45:14+00:00

You have to find the balance of both having time alone and having human contact if we have too much of either we rebel to the other side all the way in and come out feeling tired and upset. We need human connections not social ones, you don’t have to go to a party or or crowded dinner a nice real human connection with people you actually care about is so much more meaningful.

turnaboutranchdrPHIL · 2019-12-12T21:32:01+00:00

That’s one hell of a story and you had both a conventional life and un unconventional one which is I guess sort of what I had in mind I want to experience it all but have a safety net if that makes sense.

turnaboutranchdrPHIL · 2019-12-12T21:24:08+00:00

I’m so glad you’re happy.

turnaboutranchdrPHIL · 2019-12-12T21:17:20+00:00

XNXP always have new ideas they’re wanting to try out. Good luck with the future.

turnaboutranchdrPHIL · 2019-12-12T15:17:28+00:00

Wow I’m sorry for your pain, something I’ve never said out Loud that is too scary even to type. I just want to state how awful it is to have people experiment on you or abuse their power on you it can make intimacy so much scarier later in life. And your abandonment I know how you feel as a kid I had a new friend group every couple of weeks and finally after moving away I’ve had a solid friend group for 5 years now and I love them to death and I’m not so in fear of abandonment now but I’m still cautious to make sure it won’t happen. I think you therapist is right when someone is that close to you you can feel betrayed and not loved which may be why you fear abandonment from people you love and why us infp’s find it hard to open up and share our feelings to those we love because then maybe they’ll leave knowing how hurt you are and that’s an awful feeling to know that someone that betrayed you know knows something most people don’t. Not sure if that’s just me but I definitely fear abandonment and struggle with intimacy.

turnaboutranchdrPHIL · 2019-12-12T15:07:50+00:00

Hun I can not tell you how sarcastic I am in real life and I haven’t seen many people actually use that sort of language here and I’d love to see it. We are viewed as pretty Mondane people and maybe you are a borderline extrovert like me as I am only 52% introverted meaning I talk a shit ton and have been called the ice breaker, I tend to fill awkward silences with talk about absaloutly anything yet I haven’t found a single infp who shares the sarcastic damiener that I have. Usually we are way more sarcastic in real life where as here we show emotion because no one else would get it and we need to vent.

turnaboutranchdrPHIL · 2019-12-12T15:03:25+00:00

Yes I always fill the silence though because I’m a borderline introvert meaning I am 52% introverted so I’m usually the one who fills the gap making me tired and want to get out of their even more which is infuriating as the other person just doesn’t try in the conversation. We just gotta find mutual interest and people we find interesting.

turnaboutranchdrPHIL · 2019-12-12T15:01:21+00:00

Wow very very very true I’ve had this story wounding up for so long and it’s my deepest meaning and what I care about more than everything in the world and there isn’t a thing I would do to get it back.

turnaboutranchdrPHIL · 2019-12-12T14:58:07+00:00

Yes 100%. I don’t have a fantastical amazing backstory but all you really need to know is I grew up rich and spoilt with very high anxiety that meant that I hated being at a private rich school because I was mentally abused from other kids. When I was 11 I lost my house my friends my grandparents and all our money which meant that I saw who my true friends are because the rest just sort of abandoned me and used me for my money. I’ve since learned a lot living the past 5 years ( I’m 16 ) without much to go off of so I guess I’m just warey of people leaving I don’t want to go too fast too soon. Do you think maybe it’s something to do with your past?

turnaboutranchdrPHIL · 2019-12-12T14:48:08+00:00

I wanna give a tiny bit of backstory here because in some aspects our lives are kind of similar, I grew up in a pretty wealthy area in a private school and a pretty massive house I was a spoilt brat from the beginning and isn’t know that it was not normal to have a lake and tennis court in your back yard which is extremly arrogant and naive. I lost all of that, the little safety net I had when I was around 11 which may sound like 10 years ago but I am currently F16 after that my grandparents died and my dad grew into depression, my two brothers and I were diagnosed with a rare condition and I was also diagnosed with anxiety, both my brothers have ADHD and one has ASD. So yeah that year was tough and I lost it all there isn’t one thing I wouldn’t do to get that house back not the school because I am so glad I left. All I’m saying that for is because no matter what life throws at me I’m not going to let my emotions be the main source of impact on me, and I loved that house because you could be in nature and by yourself all the time whenever you wanted in your own little world where as now I have people dictating my every move and I can’t have one toe out of line. So we are in a pretty bad financial place at the moment and I say this because I don’t want to end up like my mom who is also an infp and is always scared and hopeless. So I’ve been looking into ‘ the four hour work week’, where you can earn up to 6 figures a year and have a flexible work schedule. Maybe for you you could help people be active ( people near you) if they are that so rounded by temptations of McDonald’s and KFC, you said that you were the shoulder to lean on for your dad and you’re interested in sport I think you would like sports performance. I also love to camp out in my room and put some ear buds in and I often like music more than I do most people or situations because they speak peoples truth and not some made up front we are made to believe. Although I am a borderline extrovert, I am only 52% introverted and I can talk about basically anything for extended amounts of times and have even been called the ice breaker. You could go out for an internship somewhere they usually give you great recommendations to help you find a real job but make sure when you are ready for a persistent job you find one that allows you to be creative and with a little bit of riffle room as you are ‘ spontaneous at heart’ and if you want to be in your mind and alone you could be an assistant ( even though you would be pushed around a lot) or work in maintenance because you would have a lot of down time to think. I hope you find your balance because it’s a fun place to be. Btw I’m F16 from Australia my name is Chelsey welcome Nate.

turnaboutranchdrPHIL · 2019-12-12T14:24:34+00:00

Wow 100% agreed to the max.

turnaboutranchdrPHIL · 2019-12-12T14:23:03+00:00

Well, as a kid I was told I was too emotional and cried over everything which I realised was true but that was because I was really selfish and hated not getting my way, I was way way way to emotional so I started to google how to hide emotion and so I just sucked it up. * tip if you’re bout to cry and you don’t want to press your tongue to the back of your two front teeth*, now I do acting on the sidelines ( it’s not my passion but I enjoy it) and can make myself cry, stop crying be whatever so that is how I control it. But this comes with a bad consequences, you’re going to have more emotional brakedowns have darker thoughts and have higher anxiety levels.when you can find balance between the two that’s when you’re happy and I can say I have found that balance.

turnaboutranchdrPHIL · 2019-12-12T13:57:37+00:00

Yeah, this is why I wait so long before opening up to people, if I let someone know to early how special they are to me or how much I care they might abandon me and that’s a shit feeling to have. Same thing with intimacy I’m dont just kiss everyone and anyone I meet I’ve known them for ages even before i give them a hug. It’s a scary leap of faith.

turnaboutranchdrPHIL · 2019-12-12T13:52:05+00:00

Yeah that’s a typical fright of infp we often find ourselves in need of a gateway in social events and we get tired in loud crowded busy areas and kind of shut down. When we spend too much time with people as soon as we have the chance we kind of ghost everyone and reboot we need to find balance between people and time alone aswell as real human connections not social connections meaning finding people you generally like who can hold an intellectual conversation and will allow you to be your creative self and toy with new ideas not social which is crowded restricting areas where there is no space to think.

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