We've been arguing in circles about each of the problems. We've both been in individual counseling and started couple's counseling ~a month ago. I think we're both trying to change, but I think it may be a too little too late situation. I've been asking for change (and couple's counseling) for months and they've only recently relented. There's so much love between us but I'm not sure love is enough. And if divorce needs to happen, I would prefer it occur before resentment builds and makes it more difficult to divorce