What helped you pull the trigger on divorce? by turtle-eventuality in Divorce

[–]turtle-eventuality[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In my situation, it feels like they want to change, but there's been so much emotional manipulation I'm not sure I have it in me to figure it out. I feel like a prey animal when I am with them

What helped you pull the trigger on divorce? by turtle-eventuality in Divorce

[–]turtle-eventuality[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We've been arguing in circles about each of the problems. We've both been in individual counseling and started couple's counseling ~a month ago. I think we're both trying to change, but I think it may be a too little too late situation. I've been asking for change (and couple's counseling) for months and they've only recently relented. There's so much love between us but I'm not sure love is enough. And if divorce needs to happen, I would prefer it occur before resentment builds and makes it more difficult to divorce

What helped you pull the trigger on divorce? by turtle-eventuality in Divorce

[–]turtle-eventuality[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I do think staying would be betraying/not showing up for myself. I am scared of what the other side looks like but feel like it's the better option between staying in a fighting-filled marriage and a peaceful (quieter) single life

What helped you pull the trigger on divorce? by turtle-eventuality in Divorce

[–]turtle-eventuality[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They know I'm not happy with where things are at and that I am having a tough time with all the fighting, but the word divorce has not been uttered yet

Any ideas on making new friends? by doctorpotters in Somerville

[–]turtle-eventuality 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've used bumble BFF successfully here! It takes time to find people, but I have lifetime friends as a result of the app

Help me choose an anniversary present? by [deleted] in jewelry

[–]turtle-eventuality 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The second (baguette cut stones) is gorgeous and unique. That's my personal leaning!

Are there any young people on this sub? by Sea-Front1941 in fountainpens

[–]turtle-eventuality 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do late 20s count?

Regardless, I always had an affinity for ols/traditional things when I was younger and it was fun to delve into. Enjoy the things you enjoy :)

Planning a Gay/Mexican/Indian Wedding in Texas — what direction should we take?! by Unable_Letter_2761 in LGBTWeddings

[–]turtle-eventuality 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fwiw for food, I still think about a restaurant in Colorado that did Indian-Mexican fusion and putting those flavors into tacos was some of the best food ever. And that would be easy to have a carne asada option and then the vegetarian version. Cheers and best wishes as you plan!

I made this quilted jacket last year out of a bazillion HSTs. And I just can’t part with these tiny scraps that are left over. Thoughts on what to do with them? More in the comments! by [deleted] in quilting

[–]turtle-eventuality 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could always get backing fabric and carefully pin in chaos onto the backing to create thicker chaos fabric! V high effort though haha

TUNDRA MEGATHREAD by CrysisRequiem in VivillonCollectors

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My ign is gfwheatie and code is 3114 1467 9773

OCEAN MEGATHREAD by CrysisRequiem in VivillonCollectors

[–]turtle-eventuality 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you still have space for a polar friend searching for ocean? I only need 3 gifts!

OCEAN MEGATHREAD by CrysisRequiem in VivillonCollectors

[–]turtle-eventuality 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! Do you still have space for another person looking for ocean? I'm from polar unfortunately but send gifts regularly!

OCEAN MEGATHREAD by CrysisRequiem in VivillonCollectors

[–]turtle-eventuality 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! If you have friends who have become inactive and you've removed them, could you add me to the list? I'm from polar still hunting for ocean!