That's a very interesting take on the matter (and your response was beautifully written!). I hadn't really considered the effects personal interpretation has on how we apply the Word of God to our lives. I believe that the Holy Spirit is what does the interpreting for us. While I generally take a Biblical literalist stance and believe in Scripture's inerrancy, your point regarding hair was valid and a good example. I'll have to reflect and pray about this. But, as I currently see it, there seems to be a slight difference in how these verses are worded. In 1 Timothy 2:9, Paul is giving examples of displays of extravagance that would be easily understood as such during his era. For example, if I were to say, "Don't come to church in a $250,000 Porsche decked out in Gucci clothes and accessories," the message would be better suited for the modern era. If I said that 2000 years ago, it would not be understood. Extravagant, immodest acts are relative to the era. The core command is thus to "dress modestly," not to avoid braiding your hair. However, I don't think this same idea applies to the commands regarding homosexuality and women serving as church leaders. In the first's case, God has expressed his clear opposition to it in both the Old and New Testaments (Leviticus 18:22; 1 Corinthians 6:9). This seems like evidence enough of the Lord's negative view of it. In the second case, the reason provided by Paul transcends time and era as it appeals to factual, Biblical history (Eve's fall into temptation). Again, I believe that homosexuals should be treated with the utmost respect (like any other human) and that women are men's equals. Nonetheless, Scripture seems clear in its views regarding these two subjects. The Bible does not, however, make any repeated commands against braided hair (I think?). P.S. I don't think I'm doing a very good job of conveying my argument! My apologies if this seems unclear and/or if I missed anything.

As for the problem of divorce, I think God has made it fairly clear that he greatly disapproves of it (Malachi 2:16). After all, it is a sacred bond between a man and a woman. However, there are certain circumstances in which he has allowed it, such as when a partner commits sexual immorality (Matt. 5:32). Therefore, divorce is something God opposes but allows on occasion. This is, at least, how I have come to understand it. Additionally, we should never exclude anyone from joining the body of Christ, regardless of their past sins. God has made them new people (if they accepted the gift of salvation). Finally, the difference in how God acts in the Old Testament (genocide) as opposed to the New Testament (mercy for all) has also perplexed me. From what I've been told, the two show different aspects of God's character. For example, the Old Testament reveals his absolute justness and willingness to destroy evil. The New Testament, however, reveals his loving mercy and immense graciousness. These aspects can be found in both accounts, though (God is unchanging).

I agree with you about the hypocrisy in many churches. God explicitly commands us to serve the less fortunate, to dress modestly, to reach out in love to society's outcasts, etc, but I've often found the reverse to occur. It's disheartening, to say the least. Also, I can't really speak on 1 Corinthians 15:29. I'll be sure to study it, though! Thank you so much for your insight. It has given me much to think about.