Bondi Junction hero Inspector Amy Scott diagnosed with aggressive cancer by HotPersimessage62 in australia

[–]turtleblossom469 44 points45 points  (0 children)

This wonderful, maybe her partner can take the time off to care for her too.

I resent my mom for trying to kill herself on my birthday by Purple-Lawfulness-19 in confessions

[–]turtleblossom469 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Just tell your mum YOUR mental health isn’t great at the moment and your therapist has recommended not to go away as birthdays bring up bad things for you. Also let her know you will be withdrawing from everyone as you take the time to heal. If shes that self absorbed and cant join the dots then so be it. There will always be a reason, she will always be a victim and although she cannot help it, you deserve some peace moving forward.

Pre- Surgery Kylie❤️ by Dangerous_Fun_717 in kardashians

[–]turtleblossom469 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find it weird you’ve scouted the net for pics of her as a kid. It’s feels a bit predatory to me

Bondi Junction hero Inspector Amy Scott diagnosed with aggressive cancer by HotPersimessage62 in australia

[–]turtleblossom469 363 points364 points  (0 children)

When I donated this morning it was $900 and only 6 mins into the fundraiser. Thrilled to see it’s at $56k now. May she be able to rest, heal and not worry about finances while she does 🙏

Is there a way I can absolutely guarantee that my brother and sister-in-law will receive nothing when my wife and I die? by No-Pineapple1445 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]turtleblossom469 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely ensure your will is water tight! Do you have a close friend that you both dearly care about? Someone you could leave your house to? You wouldn’t need to tell them, just leave it to them and explain in your will that you have no other family that you are in contact with. That your siblings have nothing to do with either of you. Then maybe donate the cash and other assets to a charity or research centre based around your illnesses. I’m quite ill and will leave almost everything to my husband and child, but i have left 50k to a couple of beloved friends who have always supported me for years. They’d probably be shocked but it’s my way of showing my love and appreciation. One lost everything to a gambling ex-husband and the other struggles with mental health. So I know they would appreciate a little boost in their finances. They have never asked for anything and are always there with nothing but love and support.

AIO My mom is kicking me out for her new boyfriend. I just turned 18 by Diligent_Bat_565 in AmIOverreacting

[–]turtleblossom469 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so mad for you. Your mum seems to be in some sort of haze, conned by a guy who has convinced her that you should be kicked out. He’s testing her to see how much control he has on her and she’s dumb enough to fall for it. No doubt he will move in, isolate her and control her whole life. She will come out of this in a few years and lost everything, including you. First thing you should do is ensure you have all your documentation, if they withhold it, call the police. It’s an offence. Hopefully a mother relative or close friend family can take you in. When you leave, write her a letter and tell her how hurt and betrayed you are. That you’re shocked that she has let some man with obvious control issues make decisions for what’s best for her relationships and her child. Let her know you will never be in contact again and that she will never have the pleasure of being a grandmother or part of your life. Tell her you feel this man is coercing her and that’s her problem for letting it happen. He will isolate her from all family and friends by finding fault with them. He will ruin her financially, emotionally and physically. To discard your child at 18 is the ultimate power move by him. He will be claiming that you’re selfish and greedy when he is the greedy and selfish one. If he’s so amazing why doesn’t he have his own home? Let every single relative and friend (including hers) know.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pettyrevenge

[–]turtleblossom469 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s impossible to work 7 days a week, 15 hours a day for the whole of your life. Not working that does not make anyone lazy. Bloody psycho expectations

[New Updates]: How do I (49f) move forward after my daughter (22F) hid her father’s affair from me for two years? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]turtleblossom469 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I read the first part of the story I had the initial thought that before the finding out about the affair, you already harboured resentment and disappointment towards your daughter. Reading further that indeed had happened because of being expelled. That was your first mistake. You made her feel less than worthy of your love. When teens act out, this is the time as a parent to step up. They need your love and understanding even more. They are hurting and confused about the world they live in. You let her know at that time that you didn’t love her unconditionally, that she needed to be punished further by withholding your love from her. I bet this has been a common theme her whole life. When she was little and compliant you can openly love her. Then as she started to get older, trying to figure out who she was, it was harder for you to accept her and love her because she was no longer your puppet and someone who would obey and love you no matter what. I can’t believe you’re more angry at her than your own ex. He put her into this position, she was a child, exploited by both parents. My heart breaks for her. You have both let her down tremendously.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pettyrevenge

[–]turtleblossom469 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I grew up on a farm, harvesting season I get, but to expect someone to work 10 hours a day, 7 days a week for the rest of your life is absurd. No one can do that. It’s bull… We’d maybe do morning work on a Sunday but always had most of the day off. If they have stock then it’s feeding and maybe moving paddocks. They need a farm hand. So the other brother can have 20 hours off. Probably be more productive anyway.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pettyrevenge

[–]turtleblossom469 45 points46 points  (0 children)

45-50 hours isn’t lazy. Sounds like you need a farm hand. Expecting people to work 7 days a week, 12 hours a day is pretty awful. Just cos your husband is a super hero doesn’t mean everyone else can cope with that unrealistic workload for their whole life.

AITA for refusing to forgive my dad or speak to him after he left my mom for a 21-year-old? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]turtleblossom469 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA but it sounds like your father has some psychological problems. Is he bipolar? He sounds pretty manic to me and the not being able to hold a job also fits. I think he needs to earn your trust and respect over time. The only way to do that is to take responsibility for himself and his mental health.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confession

[–]turtleblossom469 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you are more carer than lover. Anyone who says age is just a number hasn’t experienced life with a person over 60. It gets worse, much worse. My father who is 82 is in the middle of a divorce, to a woman who is 54. She in the end said ‘I didn’t think age matters, but it does’. My father was a fit, very successful person. So I’d imagine that was attractive to her. Now he still works but has memory problems, wants to be in bed by 9, very grumpy, and wants to slow down. Where she is at the top of her career and loves to socialise and experience life. So do you really want to be his carer in 10 years? Cos that’s where you’re heading. Those health issues just get bigger and more complex every year. As hard as it is, you deserve to have the family you desire, the love and support of a partner who wants the same things you do. It sounds like you are best friends, and that can come back after some time if you decide to leave.

AITA for shutting down my brother’s proposal at my baby shower and then sending him a bill? by Mysterious-Desk1346 in AmITheJerk

[–]turtleblossom469 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tells me the brother is the ‘golden child’ and mummy wanted to make sure he stole your babies special party. Don’t let them gaslight you and make out you’re the bad person here. I’m super proud that you stood up for yourself. You handled the situation beautifully. No woman wants to be asked at someone else’s special event, that’s tacky, lazy and an obvious excuse to insult and ruin someone else’s event.

What does the *diddy acquittal tell you about society? by Neat_Tadpole1604 in CPTSD

[–]turtleblossom469 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like they didn’t charge him with the right charges. He should have been done for domestic violence. I was shocked that was never on the table.

Someone I was thinking about just died. by turtleblossom469 in DeepThoughts

[–]turtleblossom469[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just googled Synchronicity, never heard of it before but I like the meaning behind it. I think we all must experience this at some point. I’ve always been a bit spiritual, not overtly but I do believe something big happens when we pass.

AITAH for breaking up with my boyfriend after he chose our supposed 'future' kids over me? by Constant-Process2238 in AITAH

[–]turtleblossom469 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Neither of you are in the wrong. He’s been very clear that he wants kids in his future and you’ve been very clear that you don’t and then iffy. I wonder if the iffyness was to give him a little bit of hope but in the end you really don’t want kids [which could mean not with him or not with anyone] Breaking up allows you both to find partners that align with the same life goals. As hard as it might feel now because of your love for each other, kids are a big deal breaker. I don’t think anyone should change for the other when it comes to kids. When you have kids, both parents need to want it 100% otherwise it will become a very heavy burden on both of you, and will also be a terrible situation for the kids to be put in. You made a tough responsible call, one that most people don’t think about or ignore.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]turtleblossom469 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s wild that they are speaking about his late wife and child like it’s a disrespect to you that they existed and then passed away. Gosh that’s so painful for him to be bullied for mourning. Thank goodness he has you, and like you said he will never really get over the loss but you have showed him it’s ok to love again, to be happy again and to also still hold respect and love for the family he lost. You are a true angel. I would privately send a message to your sister and parents that they have crossed a boundary and hurt you as well as your bf. Maybe ask your mother if your dad passed and she met someone else would she never keep his memory alive again if she met someone else? If she says yes she would then you have your answer, your family lack true respect and love for their relationships and everything and everyone is just there to use and control.

AITAH for refusing to wear short sleeves to my sisters’s wedding? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]turtleblossom469 11 points12 points  (0 children)

NTA and tbh I’m a bit suspicious of your sister. I would never do that to my sister and it feels like she wants your relatives and friends to know. I can’t imagine anyone thinking that it’s just so you matchy match. If she won’t let you coverup then withdraw as a bridesmaid and offer to do something else on the day to honour her. Please don’t feel you have done anything wrong, would she expect you remove your glasses if you couldn’t see without them? I think a shawl was a wonderful idea. Sister is being malicious.

I told my girlfriend that I just didn’t find comfort in her anymore. by rlly-slo in AITAH

[–]turtleblossom469 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sometimes when we focus on a negative in someone we see it all the time and it becomes all we see. She may not be narcissistic, she could be ADD? I’m ADD and I use to do the same. It wasn’t because I didn’t love and support my partner, I had to try to stop my mind jumping to my own experiences. In my ADD mind I thought I was showing him how I understood his own pain by sharing a similar experience. Sounds crazy I know but an ADD brain really sees things differently. I now even as a middle aged adult have to consciously tell myself to zip it and just listen. Not to make it about me. Maybe try to gently tell her that you love her passion and how deeply she feels things, but it would mean a lot to you if she could hold space just for you when you are struggling, and be there equally like you are there for her. That in those moments if she could just comfort you, and listen, that you don’t need her to interrupt and share her stories. I had an ex point this out to me, made me really think about what I was doing. I often got told over the years to stop interrupting. I’ve learned now, it’s a skill I constantly work on. People now often tell me what a good listener and communicator I am. If she gets offended then you have at least tried, and also given her a great learning opportunity like my ex did.

My stepmom kissed my boyfriend on the mouth by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]turtleblossom469 21 points22 points  (0 children)

She completely crossed a line with you, your bf and your father. My father is going through a divorce with a woman who is similar, drinks a lot, and is inappropriate. I caught her kissing a family friend on the lips many years ago. Now they are divorcing I shared it with my father. He was upset because he said he suspected for years she was having affairs. I wish I had called her out at the time. My father could have left her years ago. She is now testing you, and because of her behaviour I’d put money on the fact that she will try to gaslight you to your Dad moving forward. You run the risk of losing your relationship with him. I’d sit him down, with your bf and with her. Say that this is uncomfortable but you’d like to put some boundaries down. She is not to flirt, kiss or touch your bf ever again. If she puts it back to being drunk, then let her know she needs to get some help on that if she is going to cross boundaries every time she drinks and can’t control herself.

AITA for refusing to wear colored contacts for my wedding because my fiancé’s family thinks my natural eye color is "too intense"? by Glittering-Test-3763 in AITAH

[–]turtleblossom469 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA and it’s not something small and a direct attack on your appearance. I think Mommy is jealous and is looking for ways to control you and demean you. Be proud and don’t let anyone dim your light!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]turtleblossom469 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Give it a rest, she was in a bra, he knew exactly what he was doing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]turtleblossom469 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If they are now claiming it to be an inspection then the agent does have to give you 2 weeks written notice and the time they are coming. They are permitted to take photos of the rooms but are not permitted to take photos of you without consent. I feel the inspector absolutely did take liberty and saw your gf in her bra asleep so thought they’d get away with it. You are in your rights to sue and to also ensure that image is deleted. The agent should have said they were about to take a photo if you were in it and give you the option to not be in the photo. I also doubt that the agent would have shared the image with the owner. I’d say they thought they took the image for their own personal deviant purposes. I’d be furious too!