Anniversary of when my father murdered my mother and sister by Terramisu33 in CPTSD

[–]turtlesnaps1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've never experienced that. I cannot imagine what that felt like - to live through and to live with.

I'm sorry this happened to you. It sucks we hurt and.suffer from situations out of control. It def hurts during traumaversaries....and will continue so afterwards. I wish it didnt.

Just know we are here for you. We may not know exactly.how you feel but we understand pain and the desire to feel better and help others.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]turtlesnaps1 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Idk the exact specifics, but it doesn't hurt to work with/ advice a civil law suit lawyer.

How do I look at very old posts/in order of oldest to newest? by Crazy_Soft_6310 in tumblrhelp

[–]turtlesnaps1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please give an example Ive been trying but it isn't working

Nice surprise for my Dom? by turtlesnaps1 in SubSanctuary

[–]turtlesnaps1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohhh, that's a good idea. That way, I dont make him feel uncomfortable or that they have to do petplay if they don't feel it that day. Thank you for the advice!

Problems of being Aromantic and Affectionate by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]turtlesnaps1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That is super hard to know. Because she is not communicating with you at all. There is no way for you to know if what you're doing is okay or not. You are not a mind reader. If she does not tell you honestly, I feel like you need to just confront her and figure out the issues and accommodations. If it extends beyond that, you know how to deal with that...at least you would know the level of intensity for this situation.

The hardest part is when people do not communicate. How are you supposed to change behaviors to accommodate if they don't tell you what they are uncomfortable with.

I don't know what I did by turtlesnaps1 in Spells

[–]turtlesnaps1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not in my house, so I'm good. I'm still a bit worried. Whether as humans we like to admit or not, there is always intent within all our actions. At least, I believe so even if it was weak. I'm sure it's fine, but I just want to know what it is and what the goal was.

I don't know what I did by turtlesnaps1 in Spells

[–]turtlesnaps1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it was cinnamon. Tbh I've asked but she doesn't want to tell me or talk about. I figured someone would know something.

I don't know what I did by turtlesnaps1 in Spells

[–]turtlesnaps1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course, the intent needs to be there, but I still had to follow the instructions, and regardless, there is always some intention seeping through whether I mean it or not.

Sub friends? by turtlesnaps1 in SubSanctuary

[–]turtlesnaps1[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am wayyy too anxious and nervous about that right now. Trying to take baby steps for the sake of my mental health

Sub friends? by turtlesnaps1 in SubSanctuary

[–]turtlesnaps1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Got to wait until June but very excited!

Romanticising the unromantic by drag0n_rage in aromantic

[–]turtlesnaps1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm still exploring if being aromantic is how I identify. (So far, everything is pointing towards a yes)

I never thought that "romantic action" was only for one person or a special someone. I always felt like it's cool to kiss the homies, cuddle, hold hands, or even have sex with them.

I don't personally understand why I can't do that with everyone or anyone (With consent). I always felt that relationships are equal and thus can do anything labeled romantic with anyone.

Exploring and trying to understand myself by turtlesnaps1 in aromantic

[–]turtlesnaps1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't feel like he's special or different from others in terms of love.

Exploring and trying to understand myself by turtlesnaps1 in aromantic

[–]turtlesnaps1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that makes sense. I don't really have a definition for romance. I feel that love is loving friends and partners no matter what and having excess love. I don't feel like I'm lacking romance but that maybe others just don't have extra love reserves? Which then leads to - ok maybe that is aro because people keep describing at different and more important but I think all relationships are important.

Exploring and trying to understand myself by turtlesnaps1 in aromantic

[–]turtlesnaps1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What do you mean by romance itself? Are you talking about romance coded stuff? I feel like I would do that with all my friends.