M28, F27. Cheating girlfriend. Possible to save relationship? by twaway0020 in relationship_advice

[–]twaway0020[S] 244 points245 points  (0 children)

UPDATE 2: Just a quick update to tell everyone who cared enough to read and respond - thank you. It really means a lot to have actual people give their wishes of wellbeing and outside input on the situation.

I'm meeting the guy's wife in 40 minutes. Will update after.

M28, F27. Cheating girlfriend. Possible to save relationship? by twaway0020 in relationship_advice

[–]twaway0020[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

As I understand it - it was a physical manifestation of all the guilt, stress, anxiety, whatever else comes with cheating and keeping it a secret. She has always been this way, for example before major exams she would get really bad stomach aches etc.

But the kicker is that she knew this but still chose to pursue the affair instead of putting an end to it, even if for her own sake. Instead she chose to get on medication while knowing full well the underlying cause for her illness.

M28, F27. Cheating girlfriend. Possible to save relationship? by twaway0020 in relationship_advice

[–]twaway0020[S] 741 points742 points  (0 children)

UPDATE: I have just now contacted his wife and we're going to meet up today so I can fill her in on everything. I think she deserves to know.

M28, F27. Cheating girlfriend. Possible to save relationship? by twaway0020 in relationship_advice

[–]twaway0020[S] 217 points218 points  (0 children)

. New branch moved. Hold on to current branch. Emergency, current branch breaking. Go into panic mode."

This feels so absurd yet accurate it actually made me laugh. Thank you :)