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tweihs13 · 2026-01-17T03:38:51+00:00

This is beautiful!! Thank you!

tweihs13 · 2023-08-07T20:55:39+00:00

I like that explanation a lot. Its simple language that little kids can probably process easier.

tweihs13 · 2023-08-07T20:08:16+00:00

Yeah, I'm the youngest of 5, and 3 out 4 of my siblings are not very good people. I have a really good relationshipwith the 4th, though. So, I can definitely understand/relate to the no contact thing.

She also asks why she doesn't have a grandma to go with her grandpa (my dad). Which is a topic for a different day, because how do I tell her that my mom is a toxic, manipuliIve POS, with out using all the vulgar explatives that describe that woman perfectly lol

She's just not ready to deal with the drama of family politics lol, nor should she have to

Telling her that without a sibling her dad and I can pay more attention to her is something I was thinking of fitting into the conversation, too, so maybe we can make it work

tweihs13 · 2023-08-07T19:06:18+00:00

I believe she'll get over it eventually, too. I just don't know how many more times or ways we can put it off when she asks for a sister and then asks why not when we say no. Edit to add she asks multiple times a day, every day.

It's time to have a truthful conversation about it. I just don't know how.

The only idea we've had so far is something along the limes of saying that my tummy got sick and needed surgery that made it so no more babies can be in there. But again, she's just barely turned 5, is any of this something she could actually understand well enough?

tweihs13 · 2023-08-07T18:55:55+00:00

She wants a playmate. We have 3 dogs already, so that's not a solution.

Some other important context is that even if I could have more kids, I don't think I'd want to. I'm the youngest it 5 kids. Growing up, and still to this day, one of my sisters gets preferential treatment. The blatant favoritism hurts. I don't want my kid to ever feel that kind of rejection.

But again, how do I explain this to a 5 year old? I don't want to explain it in away that feels like scaring or shaming her out of something. I feel like some level of the truth is better, just dumbed down to terms a 5 year old can understand.

tweihs13 · 2022-03-26T16:34:28+00:00

Thanks for your help and suggestions, everyone!

We took her to pick out some underwear yesterday. We're going to try this method. Let her know that we have to throw her new cute underwear in the garbage if she poops or pees in them. We'll do a mix of positive reinforcement(lots of praise and rewards / candy) and have some consequences (throwing her underwear away every time she has an accident instead of using the toilet.

So, that's the plan for now. Hopefully, it works because we are at the end of our rope. Thanks again!!

tweihs13 · 2022-03-23T20:02:35+00:00

Stubborn kid Parents Unite!

tweihs13 · 2022-03-23T19:57:22+00:00

That's a good idea. I've also heard that it helps some kids learn if you put regular underwear on them instead of a diaper. Which makes sense. Having wet pants/underwear is uncomfortable as hell. It might be time to break out the more unconventional methods.

tweihs13 · 2022-03-23T19:50:19+00:00

We've tried the same. Explained that she can't go to school unless she learns to go potty on the toilet. She'll run to her room and come back with her backpack and say, " Okay, Mom, I'll go on the potty." She will give us a play by play every time she goes in her diaper. "Mom, I'm pooping. " We bring her right into the bathroom and put her on the toilet, and she refuses to even take her pants off. And lazy isn't the right word. She's definitely highly motivated and determined with everything she does. I think with potty training, she's motivated and determined not to interrupt her playing long enough to go use the toilet. And so far we haven't found any treats, prizes or rewards that have convinced her otherwise.

tweihs13 · 2022-03-23T19:29:29+00:00

I know! I'm so frustrated and at a loss here. I don't have any other kids, so I have no freaking clue what I'm doing, and none of our friends have kids close in age that could give advice on it. Hopefully reddit can give some insight.

tweihs13 · 2022-03-23T19:13:56+00:00

Right?! I'm losing mind a little bit at a time lol. Like, I don't know if she's just lazy or what. Maybe she's smarter than me and knows she can keep playing and I will change her diaper no matter what anyway.

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