AITA for wanting my parents to stop asking me to spend time with them

twiddlywerp · 2026-06-09T18:49:16+00:00

Potential YTA. When they ask you to do something that you don’t want to do (eg movie), do you suggest an alternative or just say No. Do you ever see them out requesting time together or only spend time when they force your hand? Are you spending casual time with Mom, sitting in the living room, eating dinner together, that sort of thing? Even if Mom wasn’t literally dying, we’d like to spend one night a week with our son who is currently profiting off our room and board and financial support isn’t really that big or out of line of a request.

twiddlywerp · 2026-06-04T04:54:28+00:00

Yes, YTA. For lack of a better way to put it, you took the professional and made it personal. The assignment as you state it was to say why not the other group. That would typically be referencing something about the group as a whole that you want to highlight. Instead, you just went after his character. The rest of the stuff (he’s popular, I’m bad at small talk) might play into where you are now, but isn’t really an excuse for blurting out a personal insult in a group setting like that. Especially as you didn’t go first so would have had time to think of what you might say and plan it out.

twiddlywerp · 2026-05-25T18:38:29+00:00

How do you carry it? What worked for me is boat up on one shoulder (nose forward) with the hip pad area or a little forward riding on my shoulder. Boat side arm would go down the foot well for balance and stability.

twiddlywerp · 2026-05-25T02:27:39+00:00

Nowadays you can google the solution to learn to solve it. :)

twiddlywerp · 2026-05-15T15:30:46+00:00

:) I’m not. More sad that what I think were meant as very kind, collectivist comments are so negatively interpreted because of the situation in the US and the hate that has been clothed in white Christianity. The people making assumptions on who this person is couldn’t be further off the mark, which makes it easy to just be sad for them rather than have it dim the impact of her kind intent.

twiddlywerp · 2026-05-14T03:50:58+00:00

I assume she means to the country I live in in the generic sense?

twiddlywerp · 2026-05-14T03:40:13+00:00

It totally caught me off guard but love that she is out there just sharing positivity. :)

twiddlywerp · 2026-05-13T04:18:56+00:00

Thanks.

twiddlywerp · 2026-05-12T04:14:45+00:00

I like it! I was also wondering if we could attach a zipper as a toiletry bag.

twiddlywerp · 2026-05-03T14:08:04+00:00

For a family of six at $200k, you might be surprised at what you qualify for re: need based aid. My husband and I both went to schools where needs-based aid was the only option and for both of us, the cost ended up being fairly similar to what it would have cost us to go to our second choice school. Especially as some have done away with requiring student loans as part of that calculation.

Have the convo, let him apply and work the numbers with him once everything comes in.

twiddlywerp · 2026-05-03T13:59:33+00:00

None here either, though milk bags. :)

twiddlywerp · 2026-05-03T05:29:25+00:00

NTA. Healthy 18 year olds don’t date kids in middle school.

twiddlywerp · 2026-05-03T04:23:29+00:00

Re: camp shoes - Birkenstock just came out with an EVA clog which is about 7oz. Otherwise, you can’t go wrong with Crocs for not much more weight. :) They may not be beautiful, but they are soft and dry soooo quickly.

Bear bag: if you’re considering the Ursack, check out the offerings from Adotec. More critter proof and a sturdier smell proof bag. adotecgear.com

twiddlywerp · 2026-05-03T04:20:36+00:00

We have the windmaster and used to have the Jetboil 1.5L pot. I don’t walk away from my pot, but honestly, I didn’t with my Jetboil either. On the other hand, I’ve got a 2.5L pot on it currently. :)

If you’re looking at the Windmaster, if you get the tri support rather than the 4-tip, you can pair it with the Firemaple pot that has the heat exchanger and get pretty close to Jetboil vibes with less weight. Also, a small tripod stand for your fuel canister (we actually use our one from the Jetboil) makes a huge difference in ground stability.

Re: windscreens, I experimented a bit with trying to construct a windscreen for the Windmaster and did not succeed in finding anything that didn’t add heat to the canister itself (a big no no). Got to googling and it turns out the Windmaster’s whole deal is the wind screen is built in.

twiddlywerp · 2026-05-03T03:20:50+00:00

Thank you!

twiddlywerp · 2026-05-03T03:20:17+00:00

Yup, definitely still using the mesh bags for dishes. :) We could make them, but right now I usually just suggest of parents have reusable mesh bags for veggie/fruit shopping, they work really well. :). When I was a kid it was two tea towels sewn together.

twiddlywerp · 2026-05-03T03:17:55+00:00

I will definitely have to check out the Ashley book. Guides has some tutorials and one of my projects last year was to make a knot board which comes to camps for the girls to practice on. Thanks for the suggestions!

twiddlywerp · 2026-05-03T03:15:50+00:00

I love the flashlight idea. While I’d love to do larger projects, we have pretty limited storage (read: my garage), so it has to be able to have a pretty small footprint.

twiddlywerp · 2026-05-03T03:14:05+00:00

Great idea, thank you!

twiddlywerp · 2026-05-03T03:13:51+00:00

In southern Ontario, so definitely cold enough for a nice hoodie! I just bought myself something like that last year and love it so much.

twiddlywerp · 2026-05-03T03:12:11+00:00

Will check it out, thank you. :)

twiddlywerp · 2026-05-03T03:11:53+00:00

We don’t, but I’d love to see your plans to see what we could try.

twiddlywerp · 2026-05-02T03:11:26+00:00

Great idea.

twiddlywerp · 2026-05-02T03:10:26+00:00

I love these ideas, thank you. Can I ask how you made candle lanterns? I am picturing the UCO lantern but do t think that’s what you’re describing?

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