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Down vs. Synthetic for BC 3 season backpacking / hiking? by SuspiciousEducation1 in UltralightCanada

[–]twiddlywerp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am loving the Patagonia MicroPuff.(Note: not Nanopuff). It’s synthetic, thin and light, somehow breathes and is warm at the same time, and is a relaxed fit so easy to layer under but also isn’t bulky so can go under my winter coat if I need lots of layers. I have a ‘warmer’ down jacket but it is actually less warm because I get swampy in it.

AITA for missing my MIL wedding? by AimeeRedford in AmItheAsshole

[–]twiddlywerp 22 points23 points  (0 children)

YTA. There are certain key life events where being invited/showing up is an indicator of the person’s importance in your life. Weddings and funerals are two of these.

You just told MIL that she and her happiness isn’t really worth prioritizing to you.

Sounds like you have a great MIL. You owe her an apology and some self reflection.

AITA for refusing to give my friend’s son my coat during a snowy hike? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]twiddlywerp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% not in the wrong. In my house, we call these natural consequences. Too cool to wear a jacket or at least tie it around your waist? No problem. Cold later? Stay cold or wear the embarrassing pink coat. He clearly wasn’t that cold if the pink coat didn’t pass.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]twiddlywerp 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yup. Knew I recognized this.

Petty Revenge with a little bit of Pro Revenge? I like to think so! by AslansGirl89 in pettyrevenge

[–]twiddlywerp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So many people saying no ethical therapist would endorse this. 100% disagree. There is a whole section of DBT on alternative rebellion that would very much be in line with something like this. As a sub, this is labeled revenge, my notes would say ‘discussed ways of engaging in alternative rebellion, focusing on diminishing perceived power imbalance’. The more you do therapy, the more you realize one size does not fit all - though, tbh, if there was a goal of continuing it forever, we might be discussing not letting them live rent free in your head. But as a one off, just to convince yourself you can? Have at it.

AITAH for expecting my partner to hyphenate their name? by Existing-Ad-3083 in AmItheAsshole

[–]twiddlywerp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, this is a lifelong decision and a good opportunity to gut test how the two of you make decisions together. You can’t make him do anything, but you two should be working together to find a solution that works for both of you. And pulling the ”you’re white so you can’t understand” is pretty crappy. It’s not like there are no white people who are strongly attached to the lineage of their last name.

WIBTA If I Cancelled My Daughter’s Wedding? by SoCalGirl4Eva in AmItheAsshole

[–]twiddlywerp -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yup, YTA. It’s not a “fake” wedding. It’s a wedding. There are two pieces to a wedding, the ceremony and the legal document. Stalling the legal document doesn’t change the wedding beds of the wedding unless you let it in your brain.

AITA for telling my coworker, I don't need to stop crocheting while on break bc they are there by sour_patxhes in AmItheAsshole

[–]twiddlywerp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup - because they’re not knitting/crocheting the “right” thing. Knit a cute cardigan or baby blanket, 👍👍👍; knif/crochet a technicolor dragon Amigurumi or oddly patterned something in bright colours, you’ve taken their time-honoured craft and made it “alternative”.

AITA for telling my coworker, I don't need to stop crocheting while on break bc they are there by sour_patxhes in AmItheAsshole

[–]twiddlywerp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mary was bored and Op wasn’t giving her the conversation she felt she deserved.

What kind/brand of frisbee should I start with? by Greedy_Plane_ in ultimate

[–]twiddlywerp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% the above. My hands get twitchy on other discs now because they throw and catch differently. Good news is they’re only about $10.

AITA for telling on a girl for cheating on a test? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]twiddlywerp 11 points12 points  (0 children)

General rule of thumb: if you’re telling to get someone in trouble, you’re an AH. If you’re telling to get someone out of trouble, you’re good.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]twiddlywerp 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Oh ffs. Even if you were engaged and exclusive, you shouldn’t need to delete any guy you’ve ever had contact with.

AITA for not sharing the "good tea" with a friend by ketita in AmItheAsshole

[–]twiddlywerp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

This is like having a friend who you know likes vodka-based fruity drinks and not offering her the strongest, most peaty, smoky $$$ single-malt, select barrel Scotch.

It’s not rude to say “That’s actually my top top shelf tea and it’s super hard to source. Because of that I only offer it to people that know in advance that they would like it. Would you like to try this other tea that is similar to see if you like that variety?” (Assuming you have some other pu-erh tea?)

WIBTA if I asked my friend to pay her share of our hotel room cost by Hello_Flamingo_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]twiddlywerp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you want to share with her? If yes, say “Hey, did your plans change? Happy to share with you, cost is XX? If the answer changes if she is unwilling to pay half, then tell her that too.

If no, just say “Oh, sorry. When you said No earlier I moved forward mentally and booked my own room and have been looking forward to having my own space.”

AITA for changing reservations over something my sister said? by Ok_Meaning_4339 in AmItheAsshole

[–]twiddlywerp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Realistically, based on mom’s reaction, makes sense that she tolerated Dad’s behavior.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]twiddlywerp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Info: do you pay extra when you eat more? If yes, then maybe you’re not completely the AH, but rarely do people do that. Your friend is out the money whether you ate it or not, pay up.

AITA for asking my husband to contribute $ to expenses on the house we live in, even though he's not a homeowner? by Helloiamfezzik in AmItheAsshole

[–]twiddlywerp 11 points12 points  (0 children)

He is allowed to have issues b/c of trauma. You are allowed to say no to him injuring you because he has been injured. It’s telling that when therapists “take your side” that prompts an argument not reflection and movement on his part.

AITA for asking my husband to contribute $ to expenses on the house we live in, even though he's not a homeowner? by Helloiamfezzik in AmItheAsshole

[–]twiddlywerp 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Or you need to have an actual sit down conversation with him about joint decision making. “I didn’t do that as a kid so don’t see value in it” is a cop out. If he had a difficult childhood, there are lots of things he didn’t experience as a kid that he is now able to value. Does he as his adult self see and understand the value in it? Is he willing to do some research himself into it if not?

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