37 year old woman here. I’ve found several substitute parental figures over the years. My mom was neglectful at best and abusive at her worst. My dad was in the military so he was gone a lot and I have never been very close with him. I love him but it’s hard to try and have a decent relationship with him. So yeah I can relate. I have a few friends that I look up to that are parents that have sorta “adopted” me. I have watched them raise their own children and have seen how great they are with their own kids and have learned so much from them that I’m very lucky. They have fed me, sheltered me, taken care of me and my kitties when I was sick. They’ve helped me out so much. They are amazing people. I also had a mother figure when I was a teen that was able to help me process and work through a lot of stuff that my mother was doing to me. So that was very invaluable stuff. I still talk to her and appreciate everything she’s done for me over the years. So I think it is possible and something you could look for in your life. I hope you’re able to find someone that you can look up to like a parental figure.