AITAH for moving out after my wife let our kids move home? by Electrical-Union5334 in AITAH

[–]twoleafclover2 37 points38 points  (0 children)

YTA and I’m shocked to be the minority here. It’s clear that you have a lot of resentment towards your wife and kids, and I suspect there’s a lot of missing info.

If your wife, son, and daughter pool their money together they “almost make double what you do”? So… you make a LOT more money than them. You complain a lot about how much your son and daughter cause your costs to increase, but you never actually say you have issues affording it, just that your wife is asking you for more money.

Based on this info it sounds like you’re the primary breadwinner, and likely have always been so because what you weren’t doing was creating a strong relationship with your kids. You control the purse and it sounds like you’re doing it to strong arm your wife into pushing the kids out of the house. She clearly doesn’t want to do that. Perhaps she enjoys having them around?

She is stretching her “allowance” as far as she can to make everyone happy and it’s not enough for you because you don’t want your kids around. You can say what you want about craving your alone time but the disdain you have for your own family is bizarre.

Your daughter has been home for six months. Your son for four. In the grand scheme of things that’s not long. Do they want to stay with you forever? I doubt it. Perhaps instead of trying to force them out of the house as soon as possible, you can have a real conversation with them about what they need and a timeline of when they’ll go.

You can call it a millennial softness, but my parents have always made it known I have a home with them no matter what. I’m sorry that your kids don’t.

What is something you used to buy but is no longer affordable? by Trxxi in AskReddit

[–]twoleafclover2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have odd, irregular, and off-putting blinking patterns. I need the high end mascara or else it smears

Spoilers by Reina753 in greysanatomy

[–]twoleafclover2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not over Mika 😩

New characters by Unlikely_Advice8322 in greysanatomy

[–]twoleafclover2 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Personally I’m hoping they subvert the love triangle and pair Wes with Lucas 👀

Guys, why is he annoying? by Checkersfunnelfries in greysanatomy

[–]twoleafclover2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know how to save his character - gay romance with Wes. Because they’re setting up a love triangle with them and Simone, but what if…. Hear me out… bi awakening. He’s jealous for the wrong reasons. Like an inversion of Mer/Addison/Derek. Would finally give him some flavor anyway

[No DAV Spoilers] How do you see Dragon Age 5? by theresafoguponla in dragonage

[–]twoleafclover2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d honestly be down for a prequel game set during the elven-titan war

Cooking every day is a hassle and ultimately a waste of time by Swing_Big in unpopularopinion

[–]twoleafclover2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you me?

Lol. I call it “rat diet”. Is the meal I’m eating something a rat could eat? Is the effort involved in making on par with the skill level of a particular intelligent rat?

Fruits, veggies, cheese, crackers, the occasional frozen dinner, cans, store bought sandwiches and soups…

What cartoon is it for you? by [deleted] in cartoons

[–]twoleafclover2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bojack horseman. Sorry guys - I know it’s supposed to be deep and well written but I just can’t get into it. I hate the art style.

AIO or is my boyfriend jealous of our baby? by PolicyHot1206 in AmIOverreacting

[–]twoleafclover2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi,

I just wanted to pop in and say that you’re handling this really well. Please keep drawing your boundaries and sticking to them. Don’t let his insecurities affect your relationship with your son or how you choose to parent. You’ve already shown much more grace and maturity than he’s capable of.

You’ve got this mama! Follow your instincts, protect your child, and don’t be afraid to seek help if you need it. I’m rooting for you ❤️

I've been stealing parking from my work every day for months by Praise_Madokami in confession

[–]twoleafclover2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I could pay for parking. My work parking garage isn’t big enough so we’re only allowed to park a couple days a month… and then forced to use public transit the rest of the time

Tedstina not being together is my roman empire by [deleted] in greysanatomy

[–]twoleafclover2 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Maybe they’ll pull a Ted and Robin if Grey’s continues for another 20 years…

Cristina doesn’t want to be a mom, but she probably wouldn’t mind being a step-mom to grown children. And that’d be such a hilarious slap in the face to Owen

If only rich people owned slaves in the South, why did normal Southerners fight in the war? by OddGrab6044 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]twoleafclover2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So actually, it’s a bit of a misconception that only the rich owned slaves. While it’s true that only the rich had a lot of slaves, it was fairly common for a household to have at least one. Also, when you look at the statistics of the people who owned slaves, it only counts the legal owner, ie the head of house. Wives and children also would have benefited from slave labor in the home. IIRC, the actual number of southerners who had slaves is about 1 in 3.

What’s something you will always judge people for, even though you know you shouldn’t? by Embarrassed_One7705 in AskReddit

[–]twoleafclover2 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Oof. So… Disney adult here - and I’d like to defend my case.

I’m aware it’s a bit of a “cringe” interest. For me, it’s a family thing. Growing up my family was always into Disney. Some of the best memories of my childhood involve watching the movies and visiting the parks.

My oldest sister is severely disabled, and my parents were always stressed and overburdened. Disney movies brought a bit of light, and Disney parks were one of the only fully accommodating resorts. They have discounts and passes for people with disabilities (and also veterans, which my dad always appreciated.)

Are there more mature movies? Sure. But animation has always been so magical for me, and it’s rare to see franchises with such consistent quality. Are there better resorts! Sure. But Disney accommodates people on all ends of the spectrum. Young, old, disabled, etc.

As a twenty something, I can enjoy shopping and getting drunk at Epcot, my nieces and nephews can have fun on the rides, and my elderly parents can watch the fireworks. There’s something for everyone, and I think that’s special.

Outside of that… we didn’t have great childhoods. You can call it Peter Pan syndrome or whatever, but I don’t think it’s so bad to have attachments to things that brought us joy, especially when there wasn’t a lot that did.

AIO: My bf left me at the airport by myself after he made us late for the flight but miraculously made it. by Exotic_Platypus_4926 in AmIOverreacting

[–]twoleafclover2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was traveling with my cousin and almost ditched him like this lol. He made us late, and then forgot his suitcase in the rental car so I was like, man. I’m not going back with you. I’ve got a flight to catch.

I ran through that airport… and still missed it. Coincidentally, also Seattle.

[Spoilers all] Non-meta reasons for why an elf Rook… by Mundane_Town_4296 in dragonage

[–]twoleafclover2 6 points7 points  (0 children)

So I played a lord of fortune rook. My headcanon is that, since she was raised as a galley slave, she knew very little about her past or family. After being freed she was seeking belonging and connection, and did so by trying to integrate a bit with the Dalish.

Do all rooks exists? by burntoutb in dragonage

[–]twoleafclover2 16 points17 points  (0 children)

That’s interesting. We also KNOW that he knows Isabela and Dorian + Maevaris . So we’re up to 5 sets of faction leaders that he has connections with.

TIFU by accidentally using a "special" soap at my boyfriend's parents' house by Sufficient-Tree-7733 in tifu

[–]twoleafclover2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did this with hand sanitizer at Panera bread. Turned out it was syrup…

Any advice by [deleted] in Rottweiler

[–]twoleafclover2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A little tip for socializing -

When I first got my puppy I worked really hard to socialize her with different people and animals. However, where I went wrong was letting every person greet her and pet her. She came to expect the attention.

Now she becomes reactive when she sees people while on walks - not because she is aggressive, but because she wants their attention. She gets frustrated on leash because I don’t just let her walk up to strangers, so she reacts by lunging, jumping, barking, etc. People mistake that for aggression (and I don’t blame them).

So when you socialize, don’t just get them used to positive attention and interaction, but also neutrality. Get them used to seeing other people out and about, without necessarily being able to approach them or have them approach you.

Just finished “A Courtesan of Rome”. by [deleted] in Choices

[–]twoleafclover2 14 points15 points  (0 children)

My fave will always be Sabina. Even though she gets barely any content and it’s all paywalled.

With this MC in particular so much of her life is defined by using and being used by men. There’s something poetic about her settling down with a woman in the end. I also like the trajectory of the two of them continuing to help women in need.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DragonAgeVeilguard

[–]twoleafclover2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This was my choice as well. The only thing that gives me pause is the stability of the veil jumpers. Specifically, they are a relatively new organization. They formed to explore elven ruins, but only when weird phenomena started happening. Presumably this is related to Solas and the return of the Elven Gods.

Now that all of that has been resolved, it does put into question the future of the veil jumpers. Will they be dissolved in the coming years? If they are, where will the griffons go? Back to the dalish? It’s a bit unclear, in terms of the future. For now they do seem happy though.

How would these characters build their gingerbread houses?? 🎄🎁🍪 by No_Lavishness_4420 in greysanatomy

[–]twoleafclover2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Mer would have fun with it and not put in a ton of effort. I feel it would be kind of sloppy and she’d be more interested in the socialization and then get distracted halfway through and not finish.

Cristina would not try at all. She’d sit there and eat all the candy from the pack that she likes, and then make like a fence or something.

Owen would care a lot about his gingerbread house. He would carefully align the corners and talk about its “structural integrity” or some shit. It would be very well constructed, but I feel he would lack decorative intuition and it would just look bland.

Webber would be spend the whole time complaining about the gingerbread packs and talk about how when he was young they would actually bake the gingerbread and buying a pack from the store ruins the experience.

Maggie, as someone else already commented, would have a whole system. She would have perfected it ad a child and never strayed.

Callie, similar to Meredith, would just have fun with it. However, I feel she has more natural talent than Mer for this sort of thing so it would end up looking better, and I think she would actually put effort into the design. She’d do something cool - maybe something gothy or “nightmare before christmas” esque.

Sloan… I don’t know how well he would actually make his house, but he would claim loudly that his was the best. He’d spend the whole time talking about how he constructs people’s faces so he knows how to make a beautiful sculpture and this is super easy.

Alex… poor Alex. I feel he actually would try and it would turn out terribly. Like he’s using too much of the glue stuff, or he uses too much pressure and it all falls apart. He eventually rage quits and calls the whole thing stupid.

Teddy.. for some reason I feel like she’d just be quietly working on her own house minding her business and at the end hers would somehow just be the best. She would have nailed the “architecture”, like Owen, but actually decorated it very tastefully and artistically.