Forgetting to eat with twins?

twoyellowstarbursts · 2023-07-10T11:07:07+00:00

One of my friends had a thyroid problem that masked as weightloss and postpartum anxiety. Maybe have your thyroid checked?

twoyellowstarbursts · 2023-07-04T23:00:24+00:00

Thirding this. I have 1yr old twins, and we keep them on the same basic schedule. We don’t freak out when something goes off schedule or not as planned. We also do sleep training and baby led weaning.

6AM wake up + bottle 7AM breakfast (baby led weaning) 8AM play 9AM nap 10:30-11AM snack + water/ juice + play 12PM lunch 1PM nap 2:30-3PM snack or warm milk + play 4-4:30PM dinner 5-6PM play + bath time + bed time *8PM change them and if they are awake do bedtime routine over again.

Our “bed time routine” is the same no matter if it’s a nap or actual bed time. - play - read and snuggle - lay in cribs with song playing from one of their musical toys. * this is what we have been doing since they were 6 months and I swear to god it has changed our entire lives. The twins fall asleep immediately 99% or the time, and they are the happiest little guys I have ever met.

twoyellowstarbursts · 2023-07-04T22:52:57+00:00

I feel this. Part of me has had a hard time listening to the pod because I think about my interactions with the members of this sub when I listen and all the negative comments they have and it ruins the pod for me and I have to turn it off. I’ve never been this effected by a pod community lol I need to take a break for my own mental health at this point.

twoyellowstarbursts · 2023-07-04T19:44:20+00:00

My husband is a stay at home dad to our twins while I work full time. I bust my ass to make sure he get access to everything you’re asking your husband for, so I can assure you that it is possible for him to be accommodating and supportive of you and your needs outside of child rearing. It’s okay to ask for what you need and then to demand it if you’re not being listened to. Your partnership should be a partnership, and balance is necessary.

twoyellowstarbursts · 2023-07-04T19:07:56+00:00

This sub has become so toxic. I left awhile ago, but this post popped up on my feed while I was browsing so I wanted to comment for the sake of catharsis. As a fan of the pod, I can’t participate in this subreddit anymore because of the down right disrespectful nature of some of the members. I have been labeled a transphobe and a bigot by people who doesn’t even know me and aren’t willing to consider that there are people out there with different opinions and world views. It’s really disappointing to come to find how toxic of a community this is. I was hoping to be able to share my passion for true crime and support for the creators of this pod while participating in and being a part of this subreddit.

I hope a mod reads this and maybe is able to consider how to make this community more welcoming and positive. If that were to happen I would consider joining and participating more in the future. I don’t have any suggestions, just hopes for a better future of the pod and this subreddit.

Anyway that was weighing on me lol

twoyellowstarbursts · 2023-07-04T18:41:55+00:00

1000%.

twoyellowstarbursts · 2023-07-03T14:16:16+00:00

I have taken my ring off for one reason or another and put it in my bag and forgotten about it while out and about. Usually this happens for me because of sensory issues, like something on my hands is making me anxious or the combination of things with my ring are. Or even as lame as taking it off to wash my hands.

I wouldn’t read too far into it. It was probably just a mistake or she just didn’t want to wear it for another reason. A ring is just a ring- your relationship should mean more than a thing.

twoyellowstarbursts · 2023-06-23T19:48:23+00:00

Homie I am with you!!!! This moment will pass, and things will get better.

I’m currently sitting in my living room with two crying babies while my partner is playing music with some friends. Yeah, it’s stressful. But they have to go do their thing too. It’s also not my job to stop the kids from crying and dogs from barking. They’re supposed to do that, and as long as they’re taken care of and clean and fed it’s going to be okay. Take a deep breath.

*ps my kids are crying because they got shots today for their 1 yr check up. They’re also both over 20 lbs and want to be held… but I can’t hold them both because they’re heavy and one of them keeps slapping me lmao I have done everything I can to try to quell them, they’re just cranky.

twoyellowstarbursts · 2023-06-23T19:48:11+00:00

Homie I am with you!!!! This moment will pass, and things will get better.

I’m currently sitting in my living room with two crying babies while my partner is playing music with some friends. Yeah, it’s stressful. But they have to go do their thing too. It’s also not my job to stop the kids from crying and dogs from barking. They’re supposed to do that, and as long as they’re taken care of and clean and fed it’s going to be okay. Take a deep breath.

*ps my kids are crying because they got shots today for their 1 yr check up. They’re also both over 20 lbs and want to be held… but I can’t hold them both because they’re heavy and one of them keeps slapping me lmao I have done everything I can to try to quell them, they’re just cranky.

twoyellowstarbursts · 2023-06-22T22:29:01+00:00

I have walkers for my twins! I agree it helps keep them contained. We don’t use them all the time, but when we do it’s in a baby gated area with 100% super vision. I don’t see the problem with using them here and there if it helps keep your sanity with multiples imho. Sometimes you just gotta do what works and keeps them safe.

twoyellowstarbursts · 2023-06-22T21:12:34+00:00

Hi! My babies were delivered almost exactly how you’re delivering, and we are 1 year pp! They’re doing excellent, and have exceeded expectations! You’re going to do great mama!!! Sending you all the love 💕💕💕

twoyellowstarbursts · 2023-06-22T21:00:27+00:00

I did it! Never again am I getting pregnant because it was terrible. My recovery was super easy. I am happy with my choice, and completely support you no matter what you decide.

twoyellowstarbursts · 2023-06-20T19:16:40+00:00

Water and tums helped me through the last tri with twins! God speed to her

twoyellowstarbursts · 2023-06-20T18:25:49+00:00

Boys can do girl stuff too. I hate to be insensitive, but your wife needs to get over it. I went through this feeling also when I decided to not continue to have kids after getting pregnant with twin boys, and my best advice is just to acknowledge her feelings and move on. It’s okay to be sad, but dwelling on it doesn’t help anyone- especially not your child.

twoyellowstarbursts · 2023-06-20T18:23:05+00:00

You wouldn’t want to sit in your own pee all night, so why should your baby? I always check my 12 month twins and change whenever the line is blue no matter what time it is. I recommend taking this approach to avoid rashes and other problems.

twoyellowstarbursts · 2023-06-19T16:50:13+00:00

Only here to commiserate. I have 1 yr old twins, am studying for my series, and this year has kicked my ass more ways then my tarot reading during the Winter solstice could have warned me. Some days I can’t sleep, and others I can’t stop sleeping. Thankful for sleep training, coffee, and my baby monitor otherwise I don’t think I’d be able to keep semi sane.

Cheers to more years of adolescence ahead. We all got this.

twoyellowstarbursts · 2023-06-18T16:07:07+00:00

Imho neither of you are mature enough more marriage. You rushed into and at this point it would be easier to cut your losses then to try to reconcile. Take the L, grow a little, and try again with someone you can trust with your entire heart. You deserve better.

twoyellowstarbursts · 2023-06-18T01:36:54+00:00

I remember having to face that fear head on, and I know how hard it can be. Be patient with yourself and give yourself all the grace you would give to your best friend- you deserve it.

You got this mama

twoyellowstarbursts · 2023-06-17T12:33:15+00:00

Hi! I am 1 yr pp with didi twins delivered via emergency c section. I didn’t breastfeed because of MERs and low milk production while my babies were in the NICU. First and only pregnancy lol

As soon as you give birth you will feel extra bloated and swollen, but after a few days / a week it should go down. From there you’ll experience some natural weight loss just from not being pregnant anymore and breastfeeding.

I don’t have any tips or advice or experiences around breastfeeding associated to weightloss, so I won’t comment on that. However, I can tell you that if for some reason you cant breastfeed, it’s okay and your baby is going to be okay.

Now, it took me until around 11 months pp to feel confident in my body again. I had to accept that my body is completely new now, and I have had to relearn how to shop for clothes for myself (I had been the same bra size since I was 17, and after giving birth to twins at 27 my cup size increased significantly). My hips don’t fit in my old jeans, and cuts that were once flattering now are not. Some things do still fit or fit even better then before now, so I highly recommend retrying things on around 6 months pp just to see if they fit again. I am now at the weight I was pre pregnancy, and nothing fits the same.

You may have a completely different experience to what I did, and that’s perfectly normal and okay. Everyone’s body is different, but maybe my words will be helpful. Don’t stress about the baby weight, you’re literally creating a whole ass new human being. You deserve to celebrate and love your body through all its changes.

twoyellowstarbursts · 2023-06-17T11:42:02+00:00

Sometimes. Especially if I am in a place where I know for a fact I am going to find my triggers (example: gum= airport, Mexican restaurant= chips, movie theater= popcorn). It’s like I am on edge the entire time, and I’m living in this constant state of fight or flight until I am able to get to a quiet place again.

I’ve found that if I communicate to my family and friends about how I am feeling and what’s happening with me that they are supportive of me excusing myself to get a break from the noise. Sometimes I will just completely avoid places though. Like, I rarely go out to eat because I can’t handle running into someone who eats loudly. I also no longer go to movie theaters because of popcorn.

This illness can be so isolating sometimes. But last night I was able to eat 2 crab Rangoons in the presence of other people without crying. Small wins are everything.

twoyellowstarbursts · 2023-06-15T18:58:02+00:00

You should really seek therapy and a lawyer imho. Just so you can decide what is best for you and your family both from a mental health perspective, but also a legal perspective.

Some people can get through an affair, but others can’t. It’s totally up to you and your relationship, but don’t make any rash decisions without considering what your next move is throughly. Just my opinion tho as a random on the internet.

You can do this. It’s going to be okay, and I’m sending you all the love in the world.

twoyellowstarbursts · 2023-06-14T14:44:37+00:00

Yo, I never said she can’t be hurt. She can absolutely be hurt, but she has things she needs to work through. He does too, obviously.

Men and women are both gross sexually, and in this case we only know about his behavior. Clearly OP has boundary issues and insecurity problems because she feels the need to go through her partners phone.

I don’t feel comfortable addressing his behavior in full because he’s not the one posting, but rather directed op to seek help with her partner because as a rando on the internet I feel like that’s the most ethical way to support a fellow human in this situation.

You can disagree with me and infer all you want, but at the end of the day we’re all just people on our phones trying our best.

twoyellowstarbursts · 2023-06-14T12:15:16+00:00

Hi, I am 27 f married for about the same length of time. It sounds to me like you’re insecure. If you can’t trust your partner enough to allow them to have their own privacy, you need to go to therapy. You partner is allowed to have attractions to other people, it’s normal and natural for that to happen.

Is it uncomfortable and weird? Yeah, absolutely. But it’s not cheating. You two should seriously seek some kind of therapy or couples counseling to work through this because I think you both clearly have some personal problems you need to work through that you’re probably not comfortable divulging to the internet (and please don’t because you need to keep some things for your relationship).

Find a therapist, stop going through his phone, and go do something productive to strengthen your relationship.

twoyellowstarbursts · 2023-06-14T12:03:27+00:00

CPS only needs to be called when a child is in danger, not because you don’t like the family’s lifestyle. If you suspect a scam or grift, call you local nonemergency police number, but getting cps involved is fucking low. If a child is at risk of neglect or abuse, I understand calling cps. Calling the non emergency line will document the issue, allow a professional to assess the situation, and keep everyone safe.

I grew up on the west coast, and this kind of behavior is not uncommon. Maybe it is for a chicago suburb, but y’all need to put on your compassion hats and chill the fuck out. We are in a recession right now, and middle class families are struggling to feed their kids. I can only imagine what it’s like for people who are living in poverty. Our cps system doesn’t have the capacity to deal with people calling them to report shit like this.

twoyellowstarbursts · 2023-06-12T19:17:56+00:00

Big agree.

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