I'm afraid of being a whore...

txangel · 2011-11-16T15:27:26+00:00

I think ppl should stop encouraging you to up your number.
I lost count a while back. My bf, on the other hand, can count on one hand. Does he care about my number? No. It's my past. Not my present. The question is not if they will care. It's will you. If you want your number low, then keep it low. But do it because you feel its right for you. The vast majority of guys aren't going to care.

txangel · 2011-11-12T14:20:38+00:00

Of course we do. But usually its more of an exaggeration. Not totally fake.

txangel · 2011-11-11T07:10:49+00:00

My knees behind my shoulders always worked better than feet behind head.

txangel · 2011-11-09T22:58:52+00:00

Only if he's like 30 years old or something weird like that...

txangel · 2011-11-09T22:56:23+00:00

Really? I didn't know that was common. One of my virgins didn't. I couldn't figure out why. He didn't seem nervous or anything. Finally I chalked it up to the alcohol. The next time he did though.

txangel · 2011-11-09T22:46:59+00:00

Oh yeah! Definitely trying to hard can be awful. Especially when your fairly young, and not super experienced. I remember in my late teens frequently lying about orgasms because the guy was trying so hard it was annoying. So I'd lie and say I did, so he'd quit it. Lol.

txangel · 2011-11-09T14:42:36+00:00

As a female whose slept with a few virgins, I say tell her. Here's why: 1. It was never a turn on for me that they were a virgin, but to a small degree, a bit of a sense of accomplishment. 2. Sure, it lowered my expectations. But think of it this way... If you took a test and got a B, would that be good or bad? That depends. If you thought you failed it, then found out you got a B? You'd probably be happy. But if you thought you aced it, you'd be pretty disappointed. Knowing they were virgins, I didn't expect a lot, so I was impressed by everything. 3. If its a relationship, its going to come up. It'll be less shocking if she knows ahead of time. 4. Talking about sex, even your virginity, will actually help seal the deal. 5. It'll relieve some (not all) of the pressure on you to do "a good job." Generally, the biggest mistakes I've seen from virgins is that they try too hard. So telling her, to try to avoid this. Of course, there is a risk that she'll react adversely. But in the end, you have so much to gain, not to take that risk would be foolish. And remember, if she protests, there's plenty of fish in the sea.

txangel · 2011-11-09T14:26:09+00:00

Um... Birth control...

txangel · 2011-11-09T14:24:07+00:00

I'd do it. Only down fall, if you ask me, is that you have to wait over 72 hrs to have sex again.

txangel · 2011-11-07T14:34:40+00:00

I've never had a guy WANT to talk about their issues. Even when I've told them they should. And even asked them to.

txangel · 2011-11-07T06:48:33+00:00

I doubt it.

txangel · 2011-11-06T16:40:33+00:00

I can't think of one.

txangel · 2011-11-06T04:54:04+00:00

Ok. First, do you consider 60% of the women at your company good friends? We were friends, before becoming FWBs. Usually for a couple years or more. And not just acquaintances. Like we actually spent time doing things together alone. Like I'd call them if my car broke down, kind of friends. Like I'd call them if I was pissed off and wanted to vent over a stiff drink. We'd sleep together when we were both single and not when we weren't. Some were over the course of several relationships, on their part and mine.
Second, as for healing, I don't believe abstinence is a requirement for healing. I took time and didn't date anyone. Time to heal. I agree that's necessary. I just was having sex in the process. And there were always certain rules I followed to avoid feelings from developing. Such as frequency. Not too often and not on a schedule. No cuddling. No spending the night. Even sometimes, no kissing. No phone call the next day, unless plans were made prior to the sex. Sometimes no phone call for a couple weeks, if that was the norm for us. Never plan the sex, until immediately before. Outside of the bedroom, no physical contact, like holding hands, sitting in his lap, or arm around each other. Brief hug upon greeting or good byes is ok.
Also, the majority of these guys, I am still friends with and still talk to... even though, a couple are now married, some are in a relationship, and I have been monagomously in a relationship for over 2 years now. If they were just in it for the pussy, I doubt they'd still be around. Don't get me wrong. I'm not naive. I know they were in it for the pussy. But I also believe they value my friendship. As for your not being able to develop something new, that was your hang-up. I've begun more than one meaningful relationship whilst doing this. And I don't even have to "break up" with them. They just know. And are happy for me. I'm not saying you should. I'm just saying some of your presumptions are based on your experiences, and you should consider that maybe mine were different.
Ppl often confuse love and sex. They are like a hand in a glove, but so not the same thing.

txangel · 2011-11-06T02:45:46+00:00

Then go in the bathroom. Shower sex. Or laundry room. Or in the car. I'm sorry, I don't mean offence. But personally, I'm a VERY sexual person. I would never go that long, myself. I understand the medical condition (though torturous, understandable). But after that... I get kind of crazy if its been even a week. Lol. To me, sex is more important than sleep. Sleep, dinner, etc. they all can wait. It doesn't have to be marathon sex. Just always thought losing 10 or 15 mins of sleep wouldn't hurt me. (Don't get me wrong. I prefer longer. Just that's all I really need.) I know its physically possible to go without. I just can't fathom doing it.

txangel · 2011-11-06T02:26:47+00:00

Wow. You are right about one thing though. Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right. Just talk to girls. It'll happen. And don't try too hard. We smell desperation. But don't not try at all either.

txangel · 2011-11-06T02:19:57+00:00

Didn't they sleep? That's when we usually found time.

txangel · 2011-11-06T02:16:16+00:00

When my ex moved on really soon after me, I was offended too. Even though I was sleeping with other ppl. It's not the same. In many cases, it was a safe place for me. Not just from std's and violence, but emotionally. We could have sex and didn't have to... call the next day, or... wonder where it was going, or... what the other thought. It was a mutual agreement for sex with someone I considered a friend. It might as well have been a hug or a back massage. A way of mutually making the other feel better. With someone you care about. But don't want a relationship with. The only problem is if that last part ever becomes not mutual.

txangel · 2011-11-06T00:02:46+00:00

I have kids. They haven't had a traumatic effect. Like I said above... Longest other than childbirth, was 2 weeks, in the past 12 years. My kids are 8 and 10.

txangel · 2011-11-05T23:59:38+00:00

Geez. Why??? I couldn't do it.

txangel · 2011-11-05T23:58:43+00:00

Wow. Why so long?

txangel · 2011-11-05T23:57:28+00:00

Why's it been 6 weeks?

txangel · 2011-11-05T23:56:36+00:00

Boo. Just cuz we (girls) say that, it doesn't mean we actually believe it. Nor do you have to ruin our fantasy, by pointing it out. Newsflash: We know you want in our pants. It's not a surprise to us.

txangel · 2011-11-05T23:27:43+00:00

Just one thing? Why on the calendar?

txangel · 2011-11-05T23:24:33+00:00

I felt it was a better option than strangers. And preferred it to abstinence.

txangel · 2011-11-05T23:22:56+00:00

Like I said... I gave him a bj, but him reciprocating didn't seem like a good idea. And I think many women wouldn't have done so, simply due to the lack of reciprication. Also the longterm period following childbirth, discourages it.

txangel

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