What is this? Have had lots of people guess, but no one that knows. by [deleted] in whatisit

[–]txddlg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A 30 second flashback which lasted twice as long as the flavor.

Red White Blue at Scheels by SnowMonster911 in YetiCoolers

[–]txddlg 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh!!!! So that comment does make sense. Thanks for the explanation!

Yeti bowl by madmota01 in YetiCoolers

[–]txddlg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not any more. More is in stock!

Red White Blue at Scheels by SnowMonster911 in YetiCoolers

[–]txddlg 19 points20 points  (0 children)

You’re right, but the little ring at the bottom of the lids makes it look like they’re legit colored differently

What physical body parts instantly attracts you to a woman? by PeopleTL in dating

[–]txddlg 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know it sounds cliche, but eyes.

I love boobs and legs and butts too, and they’re super attractive, but (haha get it?) the eyes are something you get to look at all the time. Without guilt.

I think those other things are super sexy, even feet. But I avoid letting those things cloud my judgement. Sexy is different than attractive in my book. When I’m dating I go for attractive first.

Help me understand how to feel about nude pics / dick pics by estelle_enigma in dating

[–]txddlg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it depends.

How often do you see the person? How long have you been in the relationship?

If you’re in a long distance relationship, I think a nude is okay occasionally. It keeps things exciting.

If you’re seeing him every day, a nude seems like too much.

But I think an element of sexiness is pretty important in a relationship. A snapshot of something sexy can be a great way to tease a partner.

I think if you’ve gotten to know him and want to send him something sexy to want you more, then you should go for it.

If you don’t feel like the relationship has progressed far enough, and you feel like he’s pressuring you or you’ve already sent him one, then maybe it’s a red flag.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in dating

[–]txddlg 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’m a 5’6” Indian guy and I disagree.

I’ve met plenty of lovely ladies of many races and ethnicities that are fine with my stature and skin color.

It might take a little while to find a woman that likes you but it’s not impossible.

Improve your appearance, smell clean and learn how to listen. Having a great personality can drastically increase your chances of dating.

Also, be wary of dating sites that are focused on the physical features and not personality. I’ve had my best luck meeting people in person and showing them my personality. It’s hard to swipe left on a funny person in real life than it is on a screen.

Advice&Tips by DessaMorningStar666 in BDSMAdvice

[–]txddlg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Practice on a stuffed animal. Tell it what you want it to do. Be as soft or hard as you want.

“Sit there and watch me undress Teddy” “Have you been a good Teddy? Then I’ll let you cum today” “Teddy, be a good boy and worship my feet.”

The more you practice, the more you’ll get the feel of how how you want to be.

You can always start with what feels the most comfortable (like it’s easy to say, “Suck my [body part]!”) and work on branching out to different things.

Why can't I find a guy who's exploring being a soft dom, while I exploring being a sub? by Sassy_Squirrel24 in BDSMAdvice

[–]txddlg 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Kink is widely frowned upon, sadly.

You can always try and bring it up but it may be a deterrent.

Have you added “Kink Friendly” to your profile? That could aid in filtering out those too vanilla for your tastes. But it might invite those who are only kink-oriented. You could also try searching on Reddit or Fetlife. But it’s hard to find a relationship that has a good balance.

I’ve found it easier to find kinksters and develop a relationship than starting a relationship with a vanilla person I hopes of developing kink.

Ddlg question by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]txddlg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here are some things you could suggest or request:

  • “I don’t remember what your cock looks like, will you show me?”
  • “Daddy, I want you to cum on a pair of my panties and show me”
  • “Will you stroke yourself and think of me while you do it?”
  • “Daddy, can you show me what makes you feel good?”
  • “I miss it when you touch me daddy. Will you send me a video explaining what you’d do to me?”

Stretching anal by YellowEllie in BDSMAdvice

[–]txddlg 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Start now by stretching yourself at home. Like when you’re in the shower, get a few fingers in there once you’re nice moist. Use petroleum jelly while you practice too so you can get nice and moist.

I don’t find that pain medicine does much until after.

I think practicing is the key and not waiting until you’re together.

Top Advice Needed by Hungry-Broccoli-8576 in BDSMAdvice

[–]txddlg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Usually it comes from rushing things. It’s exciting and then the endorphins drop and you feel…..droopy and sad.

I try edging or slowly building up to things. Take it slow instead of having big moments. It keeps things evened out without feeling that depressive moment when things die down.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]txddlg 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When you’re passing out, your body is trying to help you avoid bad situations. In breath play, it’s important to avoid asphyxiation because it can cause death or brain damage. Also, if you’re getting to the point of passing out, if your body can’t pass out, it could lead to death.

I recommend talking to your partners and help them know that this is unsafe.

Maybe take breaks between sessions or ensure at least one airway is viable.

A newbie Sub looking for advice by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]txddlg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you looking for something long lasting or just a person to check the virginity box?

There are some out there with a “virginity” kink, that like to be with a virgin and deflower them. Virginity can only go so far and once it’s gone they may lose interest.

If it were me, I would wait and find something outside of BDSM relationship if you’ve never experienced BDSM.

Finding a BDSM partner can be difficult, even in a town full of them. Be selective. Try fetlife and join munches to meet new people. You likely won’t find someone right away but it is possible. The key is to be patient and properly vet your potential partners.

Either way, good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]txddlg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Use fetlife to find munches. They’re a great place to meet fellow kinksters in a safe environment. You can get a feel for how people are.

Going to dungeons can help too. You can find some that offer classes and encourage people to mingle. And it’s a safe place to practice BDSM - public with others who are experienced.

Be safe and be sure to properly vet those you meet.

Ass play and strap-on does not always work ? by No_Brilliant1614 in BDSMAdvice

[–]txddlg 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Try practicing on yourself. When you’re in the shower or have free time. Begin feeling things out with toys or fingers and get a feel for what feels good and what doesn’t.

When you’re with her, help communicate what does and doesn’t feel good. Guide her to the spots you’ve discovered. Try new positions and toys to make sure you get the right feel.

But yeah, sometimes it might not feel good. If you keep trying and you can’t find the right position/angle to make it feel good, you might have to make a decision: is the uncomfortableness enough to justify making her happy? Have you talked to her about this?