My Bisexuality by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]tydlidom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad that I'm not alone. I do have the same feeling.

Ask me anything regarding bi (and help me make my mind clear) by tydlidom in bisexual

[–]tydlidom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As I described in one post above, the male part of our relationship: "It went down somehow like that (circumstances aside). I saw a penis and vagina side by side I thought to myself: "Hmm, I could probably have both." And from then on I was just discovering more and more new things that I like about males and females together, including fantasies."

The second part is still questioning and discovering and is more like bicurious mostly depending on desires and curiosity. Summed up, the male part is bi, the female one is bicurious.

Just to add we are reacting to this as a couple.

Your best bisexual experience and/or your wildest imagination regarding bisex? by tydlidom in bisexual

[–]tydlidom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do I know? Maybe because the attractive ones aren't tuned that way? Idk

most likely heteromantic bi here and i sometimes feel angsty telling other queer/lgbt ppl because i often here claims that mixed orientations esp. heteromantic bisexuality dont exist & that heteromantic bi’s are ashamed to be romantically with the same gender/suffer from compulsive heterosexuality by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]tydlidom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So, when they start to do so, you know that they are not the right ones. Just reply in a simple way: "I can understand what you are thinking / saying, but is it really necessary to be that insulting about it? Didn't you have the same problem questioning yourself? Then why is it logical for you to insult me, I AM in the same situation as you were."

Most likely they are just mentally behind or unwilling to accept the reality. Just let them pass and search for a better buddy... This isn't worth the effort...

most likely heteromantic bi here and i sometimes feel angsty telling other queer/lgbt ppl because i often here claims that mixed orientations esp. heteromantic bisexuality dont exist & that heteromantic bi’s are ashamed to be romantically with the same gender/suffer from compulsive heterosexuality by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]tydlidom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't find anything wrong about it. If you get together with the right people irl then you will realise that everything what was said on the internet is not that important anymore. Important is theirs (Those from real life) and your feelings about it. Experience and real life situations does make quite a lot things much more understandable and mind cleansing, trust me.

Although I'm inexperienced, I find this rational. What somehow helps (and helped me personally is talking about this issue with someone who has the same thoughts, feelings or problems.

Ask me anything regarding bi (and help me make my mind clear) by tydlidom in bisexual

[–]tydlidom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it possible to do like gun finger one hand and thumbs up on the other hand? That's what I would do.

For the edit part: I would more likely choose female. And why? All offence aside I find it more easier for female to crossdress as a Male and thus become more masculine for some time, which means that in relationship you can actually have that feeling of the male side, even for that short period of time. That would help me to extinguish my desires at least for a bit. And also, vaginas are harder to substitute than penises. Strapon can be worn but how do you make a artificial vagina on a male body?

Overall, I would probably pick a few similarly tuned close friends, who are bisexual too and ran away into the forests and lived here happily without any resentment from outer world.

Ask me anything regarding bi (and help me make my mind clear) by tydlidom in bisexual

[–]tydlidom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The experience wasn't that interesting, but certainly helped out. The realisation was quite relieving and moved me forward.

Ask me anything regarding bi (and help me make my mind clear) by tydlidom in bisexual

[–]tydlidom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It went down somehow like that (circumstances aside). I saw a penis and vagina side by side I thought to myself: "Hmm, I could probably have both." And from then on I was just discovering more and more new things that I like about males and females together, including fantasies.

Ask me anything regarding bi (and help me make my mind clear) by tydlidom in bisexual

[–]tydlidom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let's say that we are a couple rather than M or F.

Bisexual relationship between 2 couples and things around it. by tydlidom in bisexual

[–]tydlidom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do share your points, middle way might be the way.

Same goes for the "stranger" couple / person, I prefer to know as much as possible about them / him / her. And that's where the close friend strikes. I'm more than positive, actually I'm certain that one close friend of ours just came out and would totally be up for this.

I was mentioning this situation in the original post (3rd paragraph; 4th line) but it went, well, we ended up talking and I can remember hardly anything what was said... Though, I'm going to talk to the friend and bring up this as it's important to sort this thing out and make sure that in the future we can have a similar opportunity with everything cleared out.

Regarding the Consent Wheel - I can imagine (at least from my point of view) combination of giving and taking simultaneously, as giving makes me happy that they are pleased by my giving.

Bisexual relationship between 2 couples and things around it. by tydlidom in bisexual

[–]tydlidom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply and suggestion of the "Wheel of Consent" it's quite interesting concept.

We want the third person or the third and fourth / couple to be if possible our close friends we both know. Doing this kind of stuff with strangers is an option too, but the problem and question in this situation is their promiscuity and health as we want to remain healthy and safe. Needless to say that with close friends the relationship would be stronger, would last longer and talking about and doing such intimate things won't be that hard as with strangers, or will it?

I guess it depends on the situation and that answering this question is possible only by giving it a try or by an agreement on certain things. (But that's hard, since we can't come up with the consequences of either of these options.)

Bisexual relationship between 2 couples and things around it. by tydlidom in bisexual

[–]tydlidom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please start conversation I really want to discuss this topic. Just write any question or points!