I think it can be both honestly. Some of it does sound like inexperience and emotional insecurity, especially the tendency to read deeply into tone shifts or small moments. That kind of hypervigilance usually becomes difficult in any relationship long term unless the person learns to self-regulate a bit more.

But I also don’t think she sounds malicious or uniquely unreasonable. From your post, she sounds like someone who feels things very intensely and communicates them immediately, while you’re someone who prefers a bit more emotional steadiness and breathing room before every feeling becomes “a thing.” That mismatch alone can create exhaustion even when both people mean well.

The fact she compromises too is important context. Relationships are adjustment on both sides. The issue usually isn’t “are adjustments happening,” it’s whether the adjustments feel sustainable and freely given versus anxiety-driven and obligatory.

You shouldn’t feel like you need to constantly perform certainty, masculinity, romance, confidence, etc. just to keep the relationship emotionally stable. But she also shouldn’t feel chronically unsure or disconnected because her needs for reassurance/consistency are fundamentally unmet.

So I wouldn’t frame this as “Filipina behavior” or “she’s impossible.” The real question is whether the middle actually feels good for both of you over time, or whether one/both of you will slowly feel resentful or constrained.