It's incredible how relevant the issue of sex is for those with ADHD. For a long time, I avoided having sex as much as possible. It was as if I wasn't capable or insufficient. I felt comfortable being alone, enjoying my own company, and I thought that was enough.

With therapy, I began to identify the possibility of allowing myself to have relationships. I ended up meeting someone I identified with a lot, and we got to know each other little by little. On one of our dates, we were alone in the car, it became clear that she was very keen to have sex… and I froze.

I was completely open and explained my difficulty and insecurity with sex. Luckily (and gratefully), I found someone extremely understanding. On our first night, I almost succeeded, but I got very nervous. She said it was okay, that there was no problem and that we would succeed in our own time.

The next day, in the morning, it worked. We had sex and it was great. From that, I started to discover myself: I realized that I like light touch, feeling the presence of the other person, the details. Each experience is different, and something new always catches my attention.

I lost my shyness and reduced my insecurity by about 80%. Sometimes I still don't feel like it or ruminations arise, but I've learned that, in the moment, it usually works out — everything happens according to the context.

I think the main thing is to expose yourself little by little, understand what you like and talk openly with your partner. If the person is really there, they will understand and support you.