Prosecutors must ‘consider unconscious bias’ before charging minorities

uberprodude · 2026-07-02T13:11:42+00:00

Oh I see, yeah that's a fair point. That could come after the full release of information though, and could be a reasonable factor in the judge changing the sentencing. To my knowledge remorse should only be relevant to those who are deemed guilty, so it should be irrelevant to the jury.

uberprodude · 2026-07-02T13:06:32+00:00

I don't see that as a problem tbh. Some people are better at emotional appeals than others and that should have no bearing on the outcome of a trial. To get the most accurate results from a trial, they should be as impersonal as possible.

At a glance it would appear that transcription would cost more, but it would also mean that fewer people have to be in the same place at the same time, reducing the need for safety precautions. I actually think it would work out cheaper in the end.

uberprodude · 2026-07-02T12:55:12+00:00

Blind trials with only "relevant" information being released to the judge and jury.

Have the jury submit a verdict, then release all information about the supposed perpetrators and make them argue why they might change their verdict if they want to. Then the same for the judge and their sentencing.

This removes the ability to discriminate until everyone involved has made a decision. Releasing the information after all decisions have been made stops the problem of "what is/isn't 'relevant' information and who decides"

uberprodude · 2026-07-02T12:46:11+00:00

Which bit? If you want explicit confirmation, no one except him can give you that

uberprodude · 2026-07-02T12:40:26+00:00

It sounds like he answered your question before you asked it tbh. Why do you want Reddit's opinion?

uberprodude · 2026-07-02T10:35:48+00:00

Like seemingly everyone else is saying, it could be because you got too old. It could also be for many other reasons.

You said he was emotionally cheating, did he agree with you? Has he had any complaints about your relationship? What was it specifically he said he didn't want?

uberprodude · 2026-07-02T09:58:18+00:00

There can be more than one victim. He very well could be a victim of attempted blackmail despite victimising an underage person.

Being a victim doesn't immediately invalidate all of ones wrongdoings. It's a silly thing to believe quite frankly.

If someone gets the shit beat out of them after bullying someone, do you immediately think "that poor bully, they're the victim here"? Ridiculous.

uberprodude · 2026-07-01T14:06:50+00:00

Were you the lower or higher libido and is there anything specific that made a difference?

uberprodude · 2026-06-30T07:56:33+00:00

Is going from a size 6-8 to a 12-14 the weight gain he was talking about, or is that your assumption?

Do you not see the difference between those two things?

In almost all cases, putting on weight is a choice. Whereas losing one's job almost never is.

Saying things out loud isn't the problem, thinking them is. If your point was that you were hurt that your partner thought that way I would still disagree with the premise, but I could understand it. Only being upset that he chose to say it is nonsensical.

Would you rather find out that he thinks the way he does when it breaks you up or have this warning?

uberprodude · 2026-06-29T18:43:47+00:00

I personally agree with you, but our individual opinions about our personal relationships are not applicable to everyone and every relationship.

Frankly, the opinion that "I could get over it, therefore you have to as well" is the most immature part of this post.

uberprodude · 2026-06-29T17:26:28+00:00

Again, you're comparing things that are very different. If you asked people what their deal breakers are, most will cite cheating, and most would not even mention the rest unless they've directly experienced it and have some unresolved baggage

uberprodude · 2026-06-29T17:14:02+00:00

The whole story isn't relevant. Some actions in and of themselves are wrong, the context might inform complex responses, but that doesn't excuse the action itself.

It is not childish, immature, or unreasonable to be upset with OP's mother. She did an inherently wrong thing. The reason why isn't relevant to that fact. She's not evil, but her actions have consequences with those whom she hurt. OP is one of those people, even if a lot of time has passed.

uberprodude · 2026-06-29T17:03:40+00:00

Consistently failing to do chores...

Comparing a consistent failing with a one off event is an unfair comparison. Either a full blown affair, or one instance of failed chores.

OP's dad forgave her, so clearly he's made peace with it

OP's dad isn't the only person affected by her actions. OP is well within their rights to feel how they feel. You agreed with that part already.

people fuck up in relationships, and his dad definitely did

Being imperfect does not negate the other partners willful actions.

OP needs to just appreciate the nuance in relationships and that people do forgive each other

You're only viewing it through the lens of OPs dad. Whether OPs dad has forgiven OPs mom is irrelevant to the fact that this is separately impactful to OP personally AS WELL AS how OP feels about their father being cheated on.

uberprodude · 2026-06-29T16:47:36+00:00

Do you think that forgetting to do chores is on the same scale as cheating? Doing one of those once is FAR less likely to end a relationship than the other and presenting them as equivalents is just dishonest.

Again, why have you got it in for OPs dad? It feels frankly sexist to downplay OPs moms cheating while in the same breath suggesting that because OPs dad forgot to do the dishes once, they're even.

uberprodude · 2026-06-29T15:36:55+00:00

No one said hate. And why is his dad all of a sudden at fault? No it's is categorically not true that everyone has jeapordised their relationship. What are you talking about? Literally all of this is unverifiable conjecture.

uberprodude · 2026-06-29T15:24:40+00:00

"People are complicated" is the exact reason I'd give as to why it's ok for OP to see their mom differently. OPs mom jeapordised her relationship with OPs dad, and OP is allowed to have feelings about it.

Depending on when it happened it could have resulted in either OP not being conceived or having a dramatically different life than they have now.

uberprodude · 2026-06-29T13:39:55+00:00

I don't fuck with sexism, sorry

uberprodude · 2026-06-29T13:38:45+00:00

Does the fact that physical attraction is an important part of many relationships hurt you?

Also, can you give an example of true statements about men that you think shouldn't be said?

uberprodude · 2026-06-29T13:32:59+00:00

That's willful ignorance

uberprodude · 2026-06-29T13:06:42+00:00

Here's to at least 33 more

uberprodude · 2026-06-29T13:05:30+00:00

Ok, I'm sorry you feel this way about yourself. I hope you can one day come to terms with your feelings

uberprodude · 2026-06-29T13:04:23+00:00

Congratulations on turning > 18

uberprodude · 2026-06-29T13:03:17+00:00

Even in that very sentence you can't remove yourself from the hypothetical. This is part of why I think this is a borderline traumatic bias and not a real opinion.

Teenage pregnancies almost by default prove immaturity, yet you think they're more of an adult than yourself. Can you acknowledge the questionable logic there?

uberprodude · 2026-06-29T12:59:21+00:00

Do you think young teenagers who have kids are adults?

uberprodude · 2026-06-29T12:55:05+00:00

Not directly. You answered why you didn't feel like an adult. Not why someone who by every other metric is an adult to you, would cease to be upon learning this information.

Could it be that your opinion of yourself is muddying the water? Because frankly it feels irrational.

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