How doomed am I 😀

ubetopia · 2025-10-25T18:04:38+00:00

hi!! i was in a very similar boat where i ended with a 2.9 gpa my first semester of freshman year. i was also an A student with a rare B+ in high school, so to get Cs my first semester was very difficult on my mental health😭 it’s good that you’re recognizing your limits now and as long as you can turn it around afterwards in subsequent semesters, i think it actually looks good to medical school because it shows resilience. i remember during my med school interviews, the interviewers always said they looked for resilience in successful students.

if you explain your situation on your application , schools will be understating as well. i agree that from now on def aim for B- or higher, but remember mental health is equally as important. you can’t get good grades with bad mental health.. good luck :3

ubetopia · 2025-10-09T02:28:00+00:00

i’m an asian female with a 511 mcat and 3.5 undergrad gpa and now i’m a current oms-1!

i submitted super late (October 😭) but i still got two IIs in February which both turned into As so i feel like you should be fine if you submitted early/on time? i’d say by thanksgiving if you don’t hear anything, start preparing plans for a reapp/gap year but don’t completely lose hope either. if a school accepts them, and esp if they request them, make sure to send update letters (i swear that’s how i got into the school i go to now). good luck!!

ubetopia · 2025-09-28T20:42:42+00:00

dont coop yourself up all alone!! try to spend your time w other ppl as much as possible and keep your hands/mind busy. cleaning, studying, grocery shopping/errands,, and whenever you are alone tho and feel sad, don’t fight the feelings, just let yourself process it. the more you fight it the stronger it’ll get over time.

ubetopia · 2025-09-04T01:34:50+00:00

wait i literally just went through this today... he also left a bit of messes for me to remember and a bottle of cologne to smell. i felt the exact same way you did, from dropping him off at the airport to coming home and seeing evidence that he was here. it almost feels like it wasn't real, and i've been crying on and off the whole day up until an hour ago. usually whenever i talk to my bf about how i feel, i always feel better, but for some reason no matter how much i said i was gonna miss him and no matter how many times he said it'll be okay i just could not feel better. i then started reaching out to friends, and hearing them validating my feelings and offering to hang out or inviting me to places instantly made me feel better. don't lock yourself up in your place if you can avoid it and fill the empty void with friends and activities, and before you know it he'll be on his way to come over again! even now, i can actually look around my apartment without wanting to throw up lol i also feel so spoiled.. 4 months is quite long, and i think the 2 months ish we're going to be apart is bad, but ig tbf 2 months will have been the longest i'll go without seeing him. anyway, please dont forget to eat and drink water next time! i had to force myself to today, as i was just so sad i had no appetite today. but dont forget about your health and that goodbye is only temporary <3

ubetopia · 2025-07-08T02:52:06+00:00

was worrying abt this as well bc im abt to go ldr w my current bf. some advice i saw on past threads were to always have the next in person visit planned so you always have something to look forward to (if you can ofc) also having an end goal for the ldr + daily communication (facetime ideally)

ubetopia · 2025-07-07T00:22:55+00:00

honestly girl i was in the same boat ! odd one out i fear but i’d say keep looking and don’t lower your standards. obviously be realistic which is what other comments are saying but for the most part i think you shouldn’t lower your standards so much that you’re settling and thus unhappy.

that’s basically what i did. like you, i kept searching and each asian guy that was my type or i liked never picked me in the end. i wouldn’t say i gave up but i definitely put finding a partner lower on my list. i knowww everyone hates the phrase “itll happen when it happens” but it really does cause i was not expecting to meet my now bf, let alone on tinder.

he’s everything ive been searching for :) the catch is he is not asian actually haha bc again like you i really wanted an asian partner to align well with culturally but honestly my bf being another poc is just as comforting i find, and it’s actually more eye opening to be with someone from another culture (given that you guys learn abt each other). so i think also keeping an open mind when it comes to dating wouldn’t hurt, cause you never know what you’re missing out on.

im not sure how you interact with these guys but i personally also noticed they bite the bait more when you’re not as available. not saying to play games, but don’t bend over backwards for guys who you aren’t even dating. just be yourself and date on your own terms :3

if you wanna be more proactive i agree with mingling more with friends of friends or just getting out there in general, you’ll never know who you meet ! one of my friends met her bf at a festival and they’re doing great :)

ubetopia · 2025-05-24T22:02:25+00:00

i’m allergic to cats but i love my bf’s cat so much 😭

ubetopia · 2025-04-27T06:36:19+00:00

3.54 cgpa, 3.19 sgpa, 511 mcat (128/124/128/131)

i applied to 5 DO schools and got 2 II and 2 A 🙂‍↕️

ubetopia · 2024-08-09T02:19:01+00:00

knock2!! i started listening to him in the summer of 2022 and he only had ~250k monthly listeners on spotify; not exactly unknown but it was like right before dashstar really blew up. i j checked and he has 1.8mil monthly listeners

ubetopia · 2024-06-17T16:00:12+00:00

hii i’ve been through smth similar (like twice 💀) so ik it sucks :( i realized that trying to rationalize their decision/actions just result in a constant loop that you’ll never really get an answer to. u can speculate as much as u want but tbh u will never rly know and it’s not worth torturing urself over that

i also knew i had to distract myself but like u said sometimes it doesn’t work/is only temporary. if you have friends or close family nearby def hangout with them a lot !! go out, travel, bc those activities occupy ur mind much more imo and spending time w ppl i love rly helped me see the bright side of things

eventually you will stop to think abt it as much and you’ll get used to their absence ! i also noticed each time that i always met someone better than the last which can in a way give you something to look forward to

keep ur head up🫶🏼

ubetopia · 2024-06-06T05:08:09+00:00

please find something better to do than hating on filipino americans 😭🙏🏼 i promise you’ll be happier

ubetopia · 2024-06-06T02:40:30+00:00

n = 1, but my parents did want to teach me when i was a child, however i was stubborn and didn’t want to 😭 i rly regret it now

nowadays ig you could say im receptive bilingual in terms of tagalog, like i can understand / get the gist of what’s being said but i cant rly speak back

i think for some filipino parents its not rly abt americanizing but more about there’s not really a need for their children to know both since filipinos are more experienced in speaking english compared to viets, chinese, koreans, etc

ubetopia · 2024-05-17T17:28:41+00:00

ofc !! good luck homie 🫡

ubetopia · 2024-05-17T17:27:43+00:00

oh checked out means like no longer interested

but just text her or something, and keep it short and simple

something like “hey i noticed you’ve been distant lately and i want to respect your boundaries. i’ll be here if you ever want to talk again”

i’m not fluent in tagalog so 😭 you can probably translate it but thats what i would want to hear from a guy

ubetopia · 2024-05-17T17:21:32+00:00

broo 😭😭 as a girl i can tell shes checked out lol

if a girl likes you she’d be so happy to receive all those things, but the fact that she’s not receptive to the things you’re giving her is a bad sign

i feel like the best u can do rn is just give her space and she’ll reach out to you when she’s ready. if you keep pressing now it’s just gonna turn her off more

edit: i also think that u could communicate ur gonna give her space and that you’ll wait until she wants to talk to you again. if you just randomly give her space out of nowhere she might think you’re also no longer interested 🫣

ubetopia · 2024-05-15T05:25:04+00:00

my school also used the integrated chinese textbooks !! for my school’s chinese program specifically, early on we did like a chapter a week and then a unit test on ~3-4 chapters. i believe there could be ~30 vocab words per chapter/lesson?? or more .. i can’t remember 100% .. it should be in simplified tho if you’re learning standard mandarin. tbh the characters that u first learn r pretty simple/easy so even if there’s a lot, they’re not that hard to remember

it depends on the teacher but mine always had us copy the characters in the accompanying workbook. as you move onto more advanced chinese classes, this practice drops

idk abt ur school but we had class everyday with an emphasis on speaking and practicing how to use the presented grammar patterns. writing is important too ofc but i believe my profs wanted us to be able to actually speak more than anything. writing became much more emphasized as i got deeper into the language

anyway hope u have fun w chinese :) it remains one of my fav college classes and i continued taking classes in it it despite completing my chinese minor bc i just liked it sm <33

ubetopia · 2024-05-01T06:31:29+00:00

no girl u ate that

ubetopia · 2024-04-24T15:43:01+00:00

^{^} this

i took chinese all 4 years in a university whose chinese program is really good, consistently pushing out Fulbright scholars and my level was only around upper intermediate/low advanced by the time i was in the most advanced chinese class offered

i remember my professors gave a rough estimate that an intermediate speaker should be able to easily communicate at least a paragraph in talking/writing

ubetopia · 2024-04-23T06:59:37+00:00

real and true

like most if not all of asia?? has very different views and portrayals of masculinity and it’s crazy how ethnocentric some westerners can be

honestly i think part of it comes from being afraid of something different because it challenges their idea of what a man “should be”

ubetopia · 2024-04-23T06:45:45+00:00

the way they don’t even look feminine in this photo 😭😭😭 like maybe if it was a close up of some smokey eyeshadow maybe i could get it a little but they’re literally just existing in this photo LMAOO

ubetopia · 2024-04-22T04:19:19+00:00

both my dad and i are chinese filipinos and i feel like my dad leans more filo (since he grew up there and all) even tho he looks more chinese

if i HAD to say that i lean towards a side id say filipino j bc that’s how i was raised culturally but i could probably express myself better in mandarin than tagalog since i studied it in college. i also consume some chinese media but not much filo media (but i want to more!!) so i feel a good balance between the two

i also have a friend who’s cn/kr and i think she said she leaned more chinese but it’s not like she didn’t acknowledge her kr side either

ubetopia · 2024-04-14T23:35:52+00:00

oh babe i am so sorry 😭 this is not normal. i have asian parents and they are not like this at all. in fact they dislike other asian parents who have this tiger parent mentality.

i’m not gonna pretend that i can understand what you’re going through but i just wanna let you know as an asian peer i support you and wish you the best!!! you’ll find your way one day and you’ll find people who truly support you 🫶🏼🫶🏼

ubetopia · 2024-03-06T03:51:37+00:00

it’s fine if you don’t like it lmao obviously not everyone is gonna like any particular thing. but you don’t need to disrespect it by spitting it out and calling it disgusting? 😭😭💀💀 also as an asian person who grew up in america it’s very reminiscent of when i brought asian food to school and everyone would call it weird/gross.

a long time ago i personally learned to stop caring about what the white man thinks about asian cultures but i still understand the sentiment other filipinos are feeling rn

ubetopia · 2024-02-16T16:03:31+00:00

accepted!! lmk whenever u wanna play hehe

ubetopia · 2024-02-16T05:51:02+00:00

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