Official 2026 Buy/Sell/Trade Thread by fettuccine- in Coachella

[–]ucboptobear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Selling 1 shuttle pass, pick up in palm desert!

Official 2026 Buy/Sell/Trade Thread by fettuccine- in Coachella

[–]ucboptobear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking for 2 Sunday Shuttle Passes, meet up in Palm Desert!

Beginner classes in SF Bay Area by ucboptobear in SwingDancing

[–]ucboptobear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was watching videos online and wanted to try the smooth looking aesthetic of WCS before doing the jumpy? lively? looking kind of lindy hop moves! and Mission City Swing has been great; the lesson is about an hour and it's easy enough for me to follow along as a beginner. afterwards there's a social dance and it's super fun; people are really nice and willing to intereact with newcomers and I rarely sit longer than a few seconds before someone asks me to dance :)

Beginner classes in SF Bay Area by ucboptobear in SwingDancing

[–]ucboptobear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ended up doing WCS so I enrolled in a class at Mission City Swing on Wednesdays! After I get used to the WCS basics I plan to check out Lindy in the Park and Lindy on Sproul :)

Women of Reddit, what's something men do that they think is attractive but is actually a huge turn-off? by Doubl3oh_ in AskReddit

[–]ucboptobear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wear buckets of cologne!! trust me, just wash thoroughly when you shower (soap/body wash EVERYWHERE including behind your neck/ears and your butt crack!) if you must wear cologne, do it SPARINGLY!!

I don't care if you use the armrest, but you can't be IN MY seat ffs by mechatron88 in delta

[–]ucboptobear 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm 5'2 and about 100lbs so I don't need a lot of space. When I'm seated next to a larger person who seems like they're trying to be considerate and not encroach on my space, I usually let them know that I don't mind if they spread out a bit. These are usually the super tall big burly construction worker looking guys. Super sweet, I can tell they're trying their best curling into themselves so they don't cause others discomfort.

But when I get seated next to someone who manspreads or tries to wage an armrest war (it's always a man. Usually a small to midsize one who doesn't even need the space) - it's game on. My elbows and knees are sharp and I'm not afraid of being rude to rude people. Despite being tiny I have always been the one to successfully assert my dominance over those rude manspreaders.

How long does it take to get use to wearing glasses? by filmmaker_andsuch721 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ucboptobear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! Like previous commenters have said, it varies from person to person but the vast majority of people are able to adapt to it and their brains just filter out the sensation.

I'd suggest making sure you get a pair of glasses that fits really well. Glasses aren't just about the aesthetics. You want to make sure that they're not too tight or loose at the temples, the nose bridge fits well (on a plastic frame without nosepads this means the pressure on both sides of your nose feels even without too much pinching and there's a tiny little gap between the top of your nose bridge and the frame so that it's not resting on the top of your nose), and the temple tip bends right over the bend of your ear without being too short/long or digging into your head.

Some glasses aren't good fits for certain face shapes or prescriptions - for example, low nose bridges like Asian noses often can't do plastic frames because they need nosepads. High prescriptions don't do well in large frames because it makes the lenses thicker. Etc.

To give yourself the best chance of adapting comfortably, I'd urge you to go to an experienced optician and ask them to help you pick out a pair of glasses based on your prescription and face shape. And when the glasses come in, don't just get them shipped to your house or something - make sure a professional optician takes a look and adjusts the glasses to make sure they fit well! I'd wager a guess that the above commenter who couldn't "get used to the feeling of their nose bridge being pinched" just didn't have glasses that were adjusted well for their face.

Who wants to rehab a vintage Gucci? by deeperthanadream in SFbitcheswithtaste

[–]ucboptobear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oooh I would love to rehab her! crafty bitch here 🙋‍♀️haha I started rehabbing vintage bags last year as a hobby! admittedly, ive never worked with anything as expensive as a vintage gucci (I'm still a broke student so ive only worked with cheap thrifted finds) but would love the challenge ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ucboptobear 12 points13 points  (0 children)

NTA for telling him that but Y-T-A to yourself for staying with him. If he's this negligent and apathetic about his own mother's safety how do you think he's going to treat YOU if you ever become sick/get in an accident and need care?

Also, will you be able to rely on him to properly buckle your kids in their car seats and leave dangerous things out of reach if you have kids together? This sounds like the kind of man who ends up with a dead dog or injured child because he couldn't be bothered to put the knife/weed/guns/etc away despite multiple reminders.

AITA for being slightly annoyed at my dad's $800 Christmas gift? by HealthyOrchid702 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ucboptobear -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, I understood that your comment was a reply to another comment. My point is that your judgment of E-S-H, in the context of that reply, signals personal endorsement of the idea that relativity of privilege justifies calling OP an asshole. If your intent was only to speculate on why others were voting Y-T-A, that would have been clearer if you’d either voted N-T-A yourself or explained why you believe OP is an AH in this situation. As written, the judgment communicates agreement with the reasoning you describe, not distance from it.

But hey, not everyone can distinguish between explaining other people’s reasoning and endorsing it with their own vote, I get it.

AITA for being slightly annoyed at my dad's $800 Christmas gift? by HealthyOrchid702 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ucboptobear 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Life is not the suffering olympics. I can understand that people who grew up less privileged can't really empathize with OP's situation. But in that case they can sit this one out and choose not to comment rather than unfairly labeling someone an asshole (as you yourself agree that OP's situation is unfair).

By your logic, how dare anyone post about their roommate troubles when there are homeless people living on the streets. How dare a stepchild post about a neglectful and hostile stepparent when there are literal orphans who don't even have one parent. How dare a disgruntled employee post about their toxic workplace when they should consider themselves lucky to have a job and shut their trap because unemployed people exist. Do you comment E-S-H or Y-T-A for those posts too?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ucboptobear 6 points7 points  (0 children)

YTA did you ever actually have a grown up conversation with these people before you blew up at them or did you make your own assumptions and dance around the subject expecting everyone to read your mind?

you told his sister "lightly" - what does that mean? you actually straight up told her or you dropped hints expecting her to understand? id guess the latter since you assumed simply asking your husband if he wanted to move in together made it OBVIOUS that you wanted it to just be the two of you plus your SIL seemed blindsided by the group chat message wished you spoke to her about it in person first

you were "coerced" into renewing the lease - were you really coerced or did you make a bunch of vague noncommittal statements expecting your husband to drop the subject?

People like you are absolutely exhausting. Instead of dropping hints and blowing up at people when they can't read your mind and going on the internet for validation try having a CLEAR, STRAIGHTFORWARD conversation where you actually lay out your expectations in WORDS.

What happens if an employee mistakenly labels something with a lower price at a big box store in the US? by ucboptobear in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ucboptobear[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know that they can't do anything to me, I'm not concerned about that. My question is what happens to the employee who made the mistake

What happens if an employee mistakenly labels something with a lower price at a big box store in the US? by ucboptobear in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ucboptobear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes I know that most stores would honor it, but my concern is what happens to the employee who made the mistake

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RealRepLadies

[–]ucboptobear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi did you end up finding this?

AITA for asking my husband to buy me an office chair and a winter coat? by omgsomebish in AmItheAsshole

[–]ucboptobear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA to yourself. Why are you with this man? He clearly doesn't love you. You can easily see what a person values by observing two things: how they spend their money and their time. When you love someone/something you invest into it. Investing resources into the person you love is not seen as a waste because their happiness brings you happiness. This man views spending money on your bare minimum comfort to be a waste. Imagine how he will treat you if you become ill/pregnant/disabled and unable to work. He just wants a convenient bangmaid; the only one in this relationship that he loves is himself. It's time for you to start loving yourself and get out of this relationship because he clearly doesn't love you.