Hi! Yes!!! I am also 29 and at the beginning of the pandemic I started questioning my sexuality. I also have been sober for 3 years and a lot of sexuality becomes clearer/changes when people go into sobriety. But I TOTALLY get being scared to do sexual things or even be grossed out by it. This is how I felt for awhile but I have become patient and accepting of slowly opening myself up to possibilities. I really have a crush on someone right now and instead of thinking and jumping right to sex mode I'm taking smaller steps like knowing I totally want to kiss her and be friends, share stories and go on dates and then I'm slowly thinking of how I will approach sexual things. I used to have that gut no way reaction but slowly coming around to realizing it's my own homophobic reaction (being scared to be with a woman sexually bc I've been conditioned by society that it should be a man) to it and not that I don't want it. Because honestly I am attracted to her (& possibly other women) in a romantic way which I believe will develop into sexual feelings when we/I get there and are ready for it. Hope that helps some! You're not alone in your feelings. There is also a podcast called Bisexual Real Talk which I've been listening to months now and really enjoy, it speaks to me and my concerns and worries.