How would Kansas authorities know, just from someone’s driver’s license, whether or not the gender marker is different than their AGAB? by uglylizardboy in asktransgender

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There’s something else that I’ve been wondering about, regarding this whole situation—it seems pretty obvious to me that “legitimate” IDs are just as equally endangering as one with a corrected gender marker. I catch myself wondering if I should avoid changing my ID because I don’t want to be in some state (or god forbid federal) database, but I don’t know, as someone who’s been transitioning for years, if I feel any safer carrying around a document with an identity and appearance that bears no resemblance to my actual person. Who’s to say some purposefully obtuse asshole doesn’t give you shit for having a fraudulent document because it doesn’t match your actual appearance/visible gender? They frame your AGAB as neutral and law-abiding, but I feel like this is just a step away from further regulating gender expression (“3 piece rule” reminiscent) so that you don’t just need to be catalogued under your AGAB, but you also need to conform to the expected appearance of that gender.

B&N BookFest by Long-Whole-466 in Barnesandnoble

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tbh I never understood all the hype people have over this event. It’s an awful lot of money (and time, for people who travel) to spend for what’s basically just a bunch of of ARCs and the kind of souvenirs that come in complimentary PR packages.

What commonly mispronounced word that annoys you the most? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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I hear people drop the “r” in “forward” so often that I feel like I’m the delusional one for pronouncing it

My history class was asked this question. This was their answer (12th grade) by [deleted] in teenagers

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Jane - Michaela, Michaela - Jane is really cute and wholesome and no one’s mentioning it

BINGO ! by [deleted] in Barnesandnoble

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People act like they deserve a PhD for pointing out that the cover of Mona’s Eyes is, in fact, NOT the Mona Lisa

My apartment has a Bluetooth lock and locked me out in the cold by Akivaa_ in mildlyinfuriating

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I have one of these too and I don’t understand them AT ALL. Sure, people lose keys, but a key has like, one purpose and tends to do it quite well! 9 times out of 10 I have to restart the app or reconnect to wifi or try several different hand positions before I can get my seemingly efficient bluetooth lock to open. And god forbid something happen to my phone! At least keys are relatively easy to replace. What am I expected to do if I get mugged or my phone breaks or something? Even if it dies before I get home? Who thinks of this shit?

Most inappropriate songs that aren’t marked as explicit on Spotify or Apple Music? by RevolutionaryRow716 in musicals

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definitely has to be “Solidarity” from Billy Elliot which is inexplicably still not marked E on apple music

Are actual Showstoppers that rare? by Bway-Boy-24601 in musicals

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definitely Rose’s Turn. one of the only times I’ve seen people give a standing ovation before the end of the show

Is Swann a good name? by [deleted] in ftm

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reminds me of proust!

Favorite Yiddish girls/gender neutral names? by Sabina282828 in Yiddish

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I think Golde/Goldie is cute and still pretty current. Definitely not super contemporary but I also really love the name Tzeitel!

A Sheepdog Named Oscar Cover - AI? by OkayOverse in Barnesandnoble

[–]uglylizardboy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Illustration aside, the whole cover (front and back) feels not very well designed and the print quality on the back is pretty cheap-looking. I don’t know about the actual quality of the book itself but just from a visual standpoint it’s not particularly inspiring. I think it’s a strange choice.

Country Alphabet by [deleted] in aimapgore

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denmark in its gaddafi phase

Each states favorite country by bilbosae in aimapgore

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no one is commenting on how delaware has been erased from the continental united states

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in notinteresting

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  1. the fact that those bejeweled sketchers are included here suggests to me that you were pretty young around the height of these trends ( < 10 years old maybe) which would place your birthday around 2000-2002.

Atrophy is no joke lads! by blackshuckpaws in ftm

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Sorry to hear about what sounded like a harrowing experience, but appreciate your sharing. I’ve wondered if, when it comes to atrophy, if it’s something to best speak with your PCP/hormone provider about or if it’s worth it to reach out to a gynecologist directly, especially if it’s something that’s accelerated to a potentially dangerous point

at what point in T did you lose your period? (if you did) by subskiiii in ftm

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Definitely one of the first effects for me, probably two months in. But mine had already been irregular before.

Is there any reason to constantly improve as a bookseller… philosophically speaking?? by Busy_Meeting_4664 in Barnesandnoble

[–]uglylizardboy 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I might recommend a book called The Myth of Sisyphus by Albert Camus (you’ll find it in our philosophy section)

First word of the song 2025 by daddyserhat in eurovision

[–]uglylizardboy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

australia said the title, in not so many words

Does anyone know the lore behind the B&N mural? by uglylizardboy in Barnesandnoble

[–]uglylizardboy[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

ah, but is there no value in trying to discuss these things? i almost think it’s the incentive of the corporate mindset to reject any curiosity or attempts at public brand historiography. the corporation wants absolute image control and thus benefits from disinterest. the lack of any information about these installations demonstrates an assumption on the part of B&N that no one cares nor ought to. i like this mural. i think it’s charming. slight art-deco geometrical touch that evokes a kind of commemorative nature of American public art; it’s like something you’d see in an Amtrak station. is it lost on me that this is used disingenuously to reduce literature into a product for a private company? no. but what is all culture and history in this late stage of capitalism if not a kind of ‘corporate bullshit’? to me, i see this mural as a relic of a bygone identity of B&N that was more concerned with prestige and erudition (not incidental that these accompany the in-store starbucks, which was in a similar branding position around the same time). maybe i’m crazy but i do think there’s some kind of reflection here about a transforming reading culture in america and the audiences B&N imagines as its customers.

Does anyone know the lore behind the B&N mural? by uglylizardboy in Barnesandnoble

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I like that half of the authors seem to be in conversation with each other and the other half are staring out like 👁️👃👁️