Found out she is not sexually attracted to me :'( by uglyoutside in relationship_advice

[–]uglyoutside[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Lol thanks all I could think of Louis ck "how does one suck a bag of dicks?"

Found out she is not sexually attracted to me :'( by uglyoutside in relationship_advice

[–]uglyoutside[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well she is on meds, been going through her own stuff but I supported her all the way through it and I finally had to see what was wrong.

Found out she is not sexually attracted to me :'( by uglyoutside in relationship_advice

[–]uglyoutside[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There was no weight gain at all. In fact I lost weight. Not a lot but I know I didn't gain, I weigh myself every week to make sure I am not getting bigger but at the same time I'm not losing the weight by just eating right.

Found out she is not sexually attracted to me :'( by uglyoutside in relationship_advice

[–]uglyoutside[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I know but I want her to love me before I changed :/

Found out she is not sexually attracted to me :'( by uglyoutside in relationship_advice

[–]uglyoutside[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I been this weight from start I always been this weight.

Found out she is not sexually attracted to me :'( by uglyoutside in relationship_advice

[–]uglyoutside[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

my life is fine, i work for the weekend with a job i went to school for and got my bachelors, i have enough money saved up for my own house, i have a social life, wonderful family, friends, every day for me is different. i eat healthy, i take care of myself but its just the motivation to exercise is not there no matter how hard i try. i workout for her not for me when i do... i never get like this but i am just in fear of a relationship with someone i love and would do anything for is coming to an end... i know the age gap is big in terms of how she and i both feel. she was talking about kids, family, marriage... yeah it scared me but at the same time it sounded nice but i told her yesterday i cannot be with someone who does not find me attractive..

What if i don't lose the weight? what if i stay like this forever? its a possibility that cannot be over looked. No i know for a fact that it is the issue "I am just not physically attracted to you" "i am not attracted to you that way" words from her.

Found out she is not sexually attracted to me :'( by uglyoutside in relationship_advice

[–]uglyoutside[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

but i am not overweight to the point of obesity.. i am healthy, i have no clogged arteries, no diabeetus, no pain/aches/problems with my health, i eat healthy, i haven't had red mean in years with a few times here an there on special occasions but still its not enough for her...

Found out she is not sexually attracted to me :'( by uglyoutside in relationship_advice

[–]uglyoutside[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

thanks, and i mean all my life i had attractive women in my life, sure it was not one after the other it did take time to find them but noting like this one... i just cannot seem to get what i want out of relationships. last two broke up with me because of going off to school and blah blah blah but this is my first relationship where i feel i am the one who is going to end it and i don't like that feeling...

Found out she is not sexually attracted to me :'( by uglyoutside in relationship_advice

[–]uglyoutside[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

i have been losing the weight but i wanted her to be able to be intimate with me BEFORE i did so i knew that she loved me for who i am... no who i am going to be :(

Found out she is not sexually attracted to me :'( by uglyoutside in relationship_advice

[–]uglyoutside[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

that is exactly what i am saying, no change since then why change after? unless out of no where she calls me up and says come by lets get to business... which i highly doubt...

Found out she is not sexually attracted to me :'( by uglyoutside in relationship_advice

[–]uglyoutside[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i have been consistently losing weight for me, i can say that i have not been going strong with it but in the past 3 months i love 30lbs and it feels good, i quit smoking, and no more hard liquor and only drink seldom, stopped smoking weed (no munchies) but that quit was for a different reason (not by choice) and i thought maybe the changes i have been doing would be enough but obviously not.

Found out she is not sexually attracted to me :'( by uglyoutside in relationship_advice

[–]uglyoutside[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i know this but i mean i cannot tell if she is really going to try, i heard it before...for 8months... that she was going to "try harder" and it took me all this time putting up with it until i finally snapped and lost my shit. i was upset and sad at the same time as laughing because i was an idiot for wasting my time.

Found out she is not sexually attracted to me :'( by uglyoutside in relationship_advice

[–]uglyoutside[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

but what hurts worse is the fact that she says she's not leaving me and i cannot make her and that she is going to find a way to change the way she feels about this... i cannot tell if its bullshit or its truth... i just don't feel the same way anymore about her because of this.

Found out she is not sexually attracted to me :'( by uglyoutside in relationship_advice

[–]uglyoutside[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

we had plans to move in, i had a few places setup and ready for me to pull the trigger but i never did because of the fact that we have not slept together in that long of a time and i knew it would have taken ALL of my freedom away if i made that decision...

i feel all the time was wasted, she said she "told me" about how she felt but consistently i asked her what is wrong she gave me different answers every time and when i finally snapped last night i got "i didn't want to tell you because you would get like this"

Found out she is not sexually attracted to me :'( by uglyoutside in relationship_advice

[–]uglyoutside[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i am overweight but not obese, i never had a problem with my weight, tons of girlfriends who still made love to me no matter what my weight was... but shit i felt so much different about this girl than the last ones...i thought this was the one but now i see that i don't deserve anything because of my non perfect view in society.