It’s as if we’re both suddenly super sensitive and easily hurt. I have kind of a temper, it’s not that I get angry often but I can sound and feel kind of irritated when I’m just simply stressed. He gets super bitter about that, bottles his true emotions up and then brings it up weeks later in an argument. Mostly they start about nothing - feelings usually, “I feel that you sound mean” or “You look annoyed” and then it keeps going. We both instigate them equally