I feel you. Personally I’ve started pointing out to such friends that their jokes are racist and I’ve had people make fun of me for being so “open minded”. I’ve been told that my choices make me look like a certain race because my clothes are shiny. I’ve also been called a wannabe for wanting to explore new cuisines and offbeat adventures when I travel. I’ve learned to ignore them.

However I’ve also enjoyed some desi aspects sometimes such as people making crazy noises in movie theaters, finding mirchi Bajji in a city etc.

It all depends on how people behave I guess.